At age 35ish, which is the bigger "red flag"?

[alkemyst]

Wrong forum I think.

Also, I'm 32 and I HATE being single. And I suspect its a lot like getting a new job. You need to be actively employed to go looking for a new one with any hope of success.
If I could just break back into the dating pool I think I'd be alright. Its that first hurdle.

I miss Oregon.
🙁

As for females: I dont have a problem with a woman being single at 35, but I do know women dont like themselves when they are that old and not married. In fact as desperate as they normally are to be settled down, I'd say its a bigger red flag for women than men.

Dude aren't you in COLLEGE? that is the easiest place to date chicks...nothing serious, just good times.

 

[Cookie]

I'm not 35 yet, but I'm getting close. I just got out of a 7 year relationship a few months ago, wasn't married, just dating. No kids, two houses, stable career. I'd like to think I'm emotionally stable and I certainly do not have the fairy tale expectations of a future husband.

But I am having a lot of fun being single again, even at my 'advanced' age. If my goal was to be married by 35 I'm sure I could find a willing partner and rush into it, but I'd rather just continue having fun. If I meet someone and it happens, it happens.

I didn't feel like my relationship status was a red flag at all until I read this thread! 😉

 

[OILFIELDTRASH]

Dude aren't you in COLLEGE? that is the easiest place to date chicks...nothing serious, just good times.

Sad but true there's been times in my life when I've had chicks do everything but come out and say bang me and I've still failed. Some atot'ers could be the only guy in a room full of horny chicks and still not get laid. They'd be beating off in a corner saying to themselves how cool this is.

 

[Kadarin]

My wife has a good friend who is single and 31 who can't ever seem to get into a relationship. The girl is above average in the face but has a smoking body. Her problem is that she is really pretentious and allegedly is "really picky" but in reality, she picks these losers and has sex with them on the first date and is then baffled when they treat her like a piece of ass. I really think she will be single forever.

I think I know this woman...

 

[Svnla]

Hummm, I don't know why we as a society have an expectation that people should get married, have kid(s), and raise a family at certain age range or something is "wrong" with if you don't.

I can see with my own eyes about guys that got married then the women left them and took the kids and then clean them out financially and the guys have to pay child support up to the nose.

Thanks but no thanks. Don't get me wrong. It would be nice to meet the right one to be your soul mate but I don't think marriage with kids is all that either.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Please, none of you here would turn down a 35 year old woman who hasn't been married before if she was up to your lofty standards of course...meaning supermodel material & no pointy elbows.

 

[ichy]

Wow, look at all the pedjudice against single people going on in this thread.

They're jealous of our freedom 🙂

 

[ichy]

If you're still renting at 35 that's a pretty huge red flag for most quality women. I know several women who have promptly stopped dating men after finding out they didn't have their own place and were still renting in their mid to late 30's.

Wow, what a retarded attitude. Homeownership is great under some circumstances, but for a lot of people renting is the more reasonable choice. Our country has an irrational fetish for homeownership.

 

[shortylickens]

Wow, what a retarded attitude. Homeownership is great under some circumstances, but for a lot of people renting is the more reasonable choice. Our country has an irrational fetish for homeownership.

Ignore him.
He's the one that thought Lola was a man who knew nothing about breasts.

 

[artikk]

Please, none of you here would turn down a 35 year old woman who hasn't been married before if she was up to your lofty standards of course...meaning supermodel material & no pointy elbows.

To fuck, of course we wouldn't. For marriage, that's a no for me.

 

[ichy]

I don't think it's a red flag either.

As for women having the upper hand, I've got to disagree there as well. When you're younger sure it's a woman's world, but as you get older the dating market really seems to favor men more. If you hit 30 and have a decent job, know how to treat women properly, haven't let yourself become obese and generally have your shit together then you're a valuable item. You don't have to be great looking at all to score attractive women, just don't let yourself turn into a fatso or an unkempt slob.

 

[DougK62]

Please, none of you here would turn down a 35 year old woman who hasn't been married before if she was up to your lofty standards of course...meaning supermodel material & no pointy elbows.

I prefer women in their 30's, but that's not what this thread is about. At all.

 

[Lithium381]

it's not for everyone. . . . why a red flag?

 

[shortylickens]

it's not for everyone. . . . why a red flag?

Some folks believe theres this "society" or something and they think theres one way things have to be and deviating from that is wrong.
Of course its bullshit but.....
Enough people believe in some sort of a society that you have to learn how to deal with them if you wanna get by in life. I dont fit in what most folks think of as "society" but I figured out how to pretend. It gets me friends and jobs and sometimes sex but deep down inside I really dont care too much. Most of my complaints are more my inability to deal with my anger issues, not that I actually think the world should operate a certain way.

In fact thats actually what most arguments and discussions are really about. Peoples inability to deal with reality. Its more fun to fight things than accept them.

This thread is strong proof most of us live in our heads.

 

[MotionMan]

I prefer women in their 30's, but that's not what this thread is about. At all.

This.

MotionMan

 

[PingSpike]

I don't think it's a red flag either.

As for women having the upper hand, I've got to disagree there as well. When you're younger sure it's a woman's world, but as you get older the dating market really seems to favor men more.

This is only because the ranks of available men have been culled by suicides, work related accidents and motorcycle crashes!

 

[MotionMan]

it's not for everyone. . . . why a red flag?

That, in and of itself, is a red flag in my book. People think it is odd that others want to marry. I think it is odd of people to not want to marry.

If you are 35 and single, for whatever reason (other than divorce or widow), that is a red flag that there is something "going on" and more so for women than men.

MotionMan

 

[hanoverphist]

wow it's messed up the dudes above that think 'not dating' is normal.

single doesnt equate to not dating. i think that its messed up that some married men date, but that doesnt stop you at all, does it? live your own life, criticize no one and be happy.

That, in and of itself, is a red flag in my book. People think it is odd that others want to marry. I think it is odd of people to not want to marry.

If you are 35 and single, for whatever reason (other than divorce or widow), that is a red flag that there is something "going on" and more so for women than men.

MotionMan

just like politics, both extreme sides are whackos. sanity lives somewhere in the middle for most people. in this case, its really up to the individual, regardless of what you (or anyone else) thinks they should be doing with their lives by age 35.

 

[MotionMan]

just like politics, both extreme sides are whackos. sanity lives somewhere in the middle for most people. in this case, its really up to the individual, regardless of what you (or anyone else) thinks they should be doing with their lives by age 35.

I did not say what they "should" be doing, as I am not yet king of the world 😉. I was just giving my opinion.

I do things that people think are odd, but that does not mean I am going to change what I do. On the other hand, if they are right (most of the time they are right), I am not going to argue with them. I will simply agree and continue doing what I prefer.

The real nut jobs are the ones who do the odd things then argue with you about how it's not odd.

MotionMan

 

[hanoverphist]

I did not say what they "should" be doing, as I am not yet king of the world 😉. I was just giving my opinion.

I do things that people think are odd, but that does not mean I am going to change what I do. On the other hand, if they are right (most of the time they are right), I am not going to argue with them. I will simply agree and continue doing what I prefer.

The real nut jobs are the ones who do the odd things then argue with you about how it's not odd.

MotionMan

hehe i agree 99.999_ percent.

 

[shortylickens]

I did not say what they "should" be doing, as I am not yet king of the world 😉. I was just giving my opinion.

I do things that people think are odd, but that does not mean I am going to change what I do. On the other hand, if they are right (most of the time they are right), I am not going to argue with them. I will simply agree and continue doing what I prefer.

The real nut jobs are the ones who do the odd things then argue with you about how it's not odd.

MotionMan

I never argue. I just criticize the normal people for thinking inside the box and go back to my D&D.

 

[SP33Demon]

Age has never been a red flag for me. But if I see an attractive woman who is 35 or older and they are divorced or never married, I usually think that is a red flag. Same for a guys who I think are good looking and still single after 35.

WTF Post of the Day here. Age has never been a red flag you say, unless those 35+ women are divorced or never married (meaning almost ALL WOMEN)? Or are you are saying you only date married women (which is fcked up btw), widows, or women who are legally separated? LOLogic

 

[torpid]

WTF Post of the Day here. Age has never been a red flag you say. Yet 35+ women who are divorced or never married (meaning ALL WOMEN) are red flags? Or are you just saying you only date married women? lologic

You forgot about widows and women who are legally separated!

 

[SP33Demon]

You forgot about widows and women who are legally separated!

Good point, I edited the post and included those. Classy, please tell us what the hell you were talking about?

 

[torpid]

Good point, I edited the post and included those. Classy, please tell us what the hell you were talking about?

I just noticed he qualified it with attractive; so maybe the red flag is not there for unattractive or average 35+ women.