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Am I nuts?

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SirChadwick

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Was talking w/ the fiancee last night and the conversation was going well... then all of the sudden she brings up the fact that we'll be getting married exactly 1 yr from sept 29th this year. Then she says I can't wait to have our pre-1 yr wedding celebration and I'm like ummm what? I'm already going to a concert on the 30th that month and we live 3 1/2 hours away. She gets pretty upset and tells me that she didn't expect me to think it through and now she sees whats more important. I'm like OK, LISTEN UP... you are just now bringing this up and I got the concert tickets over a week ago with my friend. I then offer to back out of the concert and she says NO, I don't want you to do that (of course meaning she sure as hell does want me to). So then I tell her to come visit me that weekend and we'll celebrate Friday (the day before the concert) and she said she doesn't want to be left with nothing to do on Sat. while I'm at the concert w/ my friend. Argh, I can't win.. never can. Am I in the wrong here? Please someone help my sanity!
 
A pre-wedding anniversary is indeed stupid. If your gonna celebrate your pre-wedding, you might as well send me a card for my pre 50th birthday, its only 27 years away...
 
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
That is a bit weird to me.
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Phew even a woman admits it. Ok I feel a bit better now.
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yeah, do not feel odd... that is just a bit "off"... i remember when we were getting married, and i happened to mention the day that was one year to our wedding, but it was just in passing thinking how long that the next year was going to take... boy was I wrong!

Tell her to cherish this time in planning and being engaged because hopefully, it will be the only time for her or you to experince this!
 
why do you need a pre party? you only have a bachelor party like a couple weeks before the wedding. she is fkkn whakked, slapa ho
 
So here's my question.... for some reason I feel bad about this whole thing even though I do assume I'm not in the wrong. Should I not go to the concert now and sacrifice my plans so we can celebrate? (puss out)

Or should I stand my ground and let her know that my plans will not change? (be a stubborn man)
 
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
So here's my question.... for some reason I feel bad about this whole thing even though I do assume I'm not in the wrong. Should I not go to the concert now and sacrifice my plans so we can celebrate? (puss out)

Or should I stand my ground and let her know that my plans will not change? (be a stubborn man)
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Show her this thread.
 
Geeze... you're not even married and you can't remember your anniversity. 😉 lol

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Before I answer your last question about going to the concert or not... What concert is it, and how much were the tickets?
 
Pre party seems dumb but her reaction seems in line with most women from my experience.


Had a similar situation last night even where she wanted me to do something, I told her I didn't want to, she got all worked up about it so I said "fine, I give in" and then she's all like "I don't want you to do it because you feel like you have to, I want you to do it because you want to". What a load of crap, I said I didn't want to so there was not solution after that other than her getting pissed really.

Reminds me of the previews for that movie "The Break Up" where Jennifer Aniston is like "I want you to want to do the dishes" and Vince Vaughn says "You want me to want to do the dishes? Who "Wants" to do the dishes?!?!?" :laugh:

I feel your pain. 😛
 
You're in trouble already... might as well set the tone. Go to the concert, apologize and buy her something pretty. She'll still be mad, but maybe slightly less so.
 
Consider this behavior a preview of what's in store for you when your married. Except multiply it times 10. Have fun!
 
Originally posted by: theknight571
Geeze... you're not even married and you can't remember your anniversity. 😉 lol

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Before I answer your last question about going to the concert or not... What concert is it, and how much were the tickets?
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Staind/Breaking Benjamin/Crossfade/3 days grace/Hinder/Black Stone Cherry

$50 tickets pretty close to the front - he won them though and asked me to go.
 
Originally posted by: letdown427
Sept 29th = My Birthday. You should be celebrating that instead.
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Ditto.

OP: You're getting a taste of whats to come. I suggest you run screaming for the hills.
 
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: theknight571
Geeze... you're not even married and you can't remember your anniversity. 😉 lol

Edit:

Before I answer your last question about going to the concert or not... What concert is it, and how much were the tickets?
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Staind/Breaking Benjamin/Crossfade/3 days grace/Hinder/Black Stone Cherry

$50 tickets pretty close to the front - he won them though and asked me to go.
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Damn I want to go to that concert also 🙁

Can't spend the money right now though.

I'd love to see Breaking Benjamin, Crossfade and 3 days grace.

 
Originally posted by: ramirez
Originally posted by: letdown427
Sept 29th = My Birthday. You should be celebrating that instead.
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Ditto.

OP: You're getting a taste of whats to come. I suggest you run screaming for the hills.
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Can't run away from em all. And I sure as hell do not want to start over. I've been with my fiancee for 2 1/2 yrs. They all have their ups and downs.
 
Sounds like you guys are in mid-married life form already. Get use to it.

(BTW, I love my wife and I love being married (almost 11 years and 2 kids), but these kinds of crazy things are par for the course.)

MotionMan
 
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