am I a bastard?

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Wuffsunie

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A slight bastard, but that's only because she's your mother. Were it not for the blood relation, I'd have advised getting her out of your life long ago.
 

Miramonti

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No, you're not an @ss. But if she proves she's gotten help, maybe loosen up, try to have compassion, but limit occassional connections to phone calls only. She doesn't sound bipolar as much as she sounds skitzofrenic.

Btw, you're forgiven on your spelling. ;)

p.s. technically your father needs to be completely out of your life to actually be considered a 'bastard'. :p

 

Falloutboy

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Originally posted by: SampSon
You have a VERY original screen name.


which i'm changing as soon as I comeup with a new one, i'm getting sick of trying to convince people i'm not a emo whatever you call them
 

SampSon

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Originally posted by: Falloutboy
Originally posted by: SampSon
You have a VERY original screen name.


which i'm changing as soon as I comeup with a new one, i'm getting sick of trying to convince people i'm not a emo whatever you call them
If you are trying to convince people, then what they believe is true!
 

Falloutboy

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Originally posted by: SampSon
Originally posted by: Falloutboy
Originally posted by: SampSon
You have a VERY original screen name.


which i'm changing as soon as I comeup with a new one, i'm getting sick of trying to convince people i'm not a emo whatever you call them
If you are trying to convince people, then what they believe is true!

no I just want some advise from a completly neutral sourse, all I've got is my dad and people on his side saying I"m good for what i'm doing but there not really neutral in this. Its not like I'm posting emo crap about being scared to ask a girl out on a date or, I"m in love and want to marry this girl at 16 type of crap I see here every day
 

Dissipate

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I say give her some time to recoup from her obvious mental illness. Up until that time though there is nothing wrong with keeping your distance. Limiting your contact with her to phone calls is fine. I don't think you should cut her off completely though.
 

SampSon

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Originally posted by: Falloutboy
Originally posted by: SampSon
Originally posted by: Falloutboy
Originally posted by: SampSon
You have a VERY original screen name.


which i'm changing as soon as I comeup with a new one, i'm getting sick of trying to convince people i'm not a emo whatever you call them
If you are trying to convince people, then what they believe is true!

no I just want some advise from a completly neutral sourse, all I've got is my dad and people on his side saying I"m good for what i'm doing but there not really neutral in this. Its not like I'm posting emo crap about being scared to ask a girl out on a date or, I"m in love and want to marry this girl at 16 type of crap I see here every day
Wait, I'm just talking about your nick.. not about your emo post.

Ok, I'll read your post...
Well, you have all the right elements to be emo, so you're clear on thoes charges.

She's your mom, keep her in your life.
 

Gamer X

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Originally posted by: GeekDrew
Originally posted by: SampSon
She's your mom, keep her in your life.

Why does everyone use biological relation as a reason to keep her around? :confused:

It's called FEELINGS!!!. She had him in her belly for 9 months.
 

Falloutboy

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Originally posted by: Gamer X
Originally posted by: GeekDrew
Originally posted by: SampSon
She's your mom, keep her in your life.

Why does everyone use biological relation as a reason to keep her around? :confused:

It' called FEELINGS!!!. She had him in her belly for 9 months.

and I had to get in front of court and testify to everyone there witnessing it and recount the years of crap she gave me, which I don't think for anyone would be an easy experience. so don't give me this 9 months bs
 

SampSon

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Originally posted by: GeekDrew
Originally posted by: SampSon
She's your mom, keep her in your life.

Why does everyone use biological relation as a reason to keep her around? :confused:
Because there should be no one else in the entire world like your parents.
If you don't have that relationship, then you are missing an integral part of life.
You experience strife because of your sexual orientation, this isn't the case with everyone.
Parents and family are a very important part of life, and if people experience dysfunction in that, then I feel sorry for them

and I had to get in front of court and testify to everyone there witnessing it and recount the years of crap she gave me, which I don't think for anyone would be an easy experience. so don't give me this 9 months bs
So what? She had you in court, did it ruin your entire life? Learn to accept that she's nutty and deal with what you have and help her with it.
With the crap I put my parents through in my teenage years, they should have told me to fvck right off.
 

ChaiBabbaChai

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No, but you should help your mom, if it doesn't interfere with your life too much. I would call the nearest family members who talk to her (or could talk to her) and plead for their help in getting her on meds. She'll thank you later and maybe you'll even be on Oprah.

I do NOT think you are in the wrong. She is terrorizing your whole family when she gets depressed! That phone call threatening to kill herself is childish and wrong. I don't go around threatening suicide when I get down...
 

Falloutboy

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Originally posted by: SampSon
Originally posted by: GeekDrew
Originally posted by: SampSon
She's your mom, keep her in your life.

Why does everyone use biological relation as a reason to keep her around? :confused:
Because there should be no one else in the entire world like your parents.
If you don't have that relationship, then you are missing an integral part of life.
You experience strife because of your sexual orientation, this isn't the case with everyone.
Parents and family are a very important part of life, and if people experience dysfunction in that, then I feel sorry for them

and I had to get in front of court and testify to everyone there witnessing it and recount the years of crap she gave me, which I don't think for anyone would be an easy experience. so don't give me this 9 months bs
So what? She had you in court, did it ruin your entire life? Learn to accept that she's nutty and deal with what you have and help her with it.
With the crap I put my parents through in my teenage years, they should have told me to fvck right off.

I've attempted to help her, i've made apointments with doctors and tried to get her to go. Hell I almost had her commited after the suicide incident and the only reason I didn't was because she agreed to peacefully give up my sisters to my dad (a deal she later baked out of)
 

Aarondeep

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Sounds like she needs to address her illness and be on some sort of medication. As for you, I think you should back off for a while let things cool off and try to eventually patch up your relationship. Do it on your terms.
 

SampSon

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I've attempted to help her, i've made apointments with doctors and tried to get her to go. Hell I almost had her commited after the suicide incident and the only reason I didn't was because she agreed to peacefully give up my sisters to my dad (a deal she later baked out of)
It takes time and effort. How old are you by the way?
As time goes on options will open up and you will also be better equipped to deal with her.

Or you can cut her off and then be one of thoes crazies who has issues because of their parents.
 

Falloutboy

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Originally posted by: aarondeep
Sounds like she needs to address her illness and be on some sort of medication. As for you, I think you should back off for a while let things cool off and try to eventually patch up your relationship. Do it on your terms.

hehe I don't think I can backoff anymore than what I have been, havn't seen her since that day in court and only spoken to her twice since that time which is about 2 going on 3 years now
 

Falloutboy

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Originally posted by: SampSon
I've attempted to help her, i've made apointments with doctors and tried to get her to go. Hell I almost had her commited after the suicide incident and the only reason I didn't was because she agreed to peacefully give up my sisters to my dad (a deal she later baked out of)
It takes time and effort. How old are you by the way?
As time goes on options will open up and you will also be better equipped to deal with her.

Or you can cut her off and then be one of thoes crazies who has issues because of their parents.

i'm 23 if you can't do math

but yes I do have a few issues I need to work thru because of my childhood but nothing major that I can't deal with. My dad is a great guy and is there for me, and my stepmom is more of a mom to me than my mom ever was.
 

GeekDrew

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Originally posted by: SampSon
Parents and family are a very important part of life, and if people experience dysfunction in that, then I feel sorry for them

Oh, I know that family is an integral part of life; I just don't understand the whole family is biological and/or family is always family argument. I say it's BS, myself.

Anyway... g'night.
 

Blieb

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Your mom has a mental illness man ... it's chemical imbalance that makes her act certain ways ... it sounds like ...
 

dabuddha

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Originally posted by: So
It depends on how long it is. If you don't reconcile with her, you'll probably regret it, BUT if this was two months ago, I'd say some more time needs to pass.

QFT.
I wouldn't forgive her personally for a very long time but I'd give her a chance. I just wouldn't get my hopes up and I wouldn't get too close to her.
 

dabuddha

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Originally posted by: her209
Wow... you have no heart. You do know that this weekend is Mother's Day don't you? :roll:

I guess it'd mean something if he had a mom that actually acted like a mother.