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am I a bastard?

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Falloutboy

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Ok long story but well background is needed I guess. But my main question is am I a bastard for cutting my mom out of my life?

Me an my mom have never got along ever since my dad and her got divorced when I was 14. a year after the divorce I moved in with my dad. my 2 sisters and my brother stayed with my mom (at the time my brother was 13 and my sisters were 4) I kept in contact and visted my mom regularly until I moved to AZ, during this time she would go thru modes of being perfectly normal to being borderline mental (later I would find out she was bi-polar yet refused to be medicated)

Well fast forward i'm 21 and i'm at work one night and she calls me up saying she is going to kill herself then hangs up on me (my sisters who are 11 now are at home alone in the middle of the night when she called me) I call 911 and get the cops to where I think she was and she was there and denies the whole incident even happend. Drama insued over the next few months. She agrees to let my dad take custidy of my sisters, and she is going to go get the help she needs. So he packs up everything and moves from AZ back to michigan. When he gets back and gets into a place she denies everything.

My dad desides this is enough and starts a very expensive drawn out custidy battle (my moms parents have alot of money). Essentially ends up comming down to me flying to michigan to back up my dad because my brother refused to testify. So she essentially forced me to get up in cort, with her entire side of the family essentially saying i'm a complete lier and disowning me.

My Dad gets custody and my sisters are doing alot better. I moved back to michigan and my mom now wants to be back in my life after the crap she made me go threw. So am I an ass for telling her to go to hell? She has done this before after I stoped talking and visiting her after other fights we had and went right back to being mental a few months later.

sorry about spelling and grammer but I can't really be arsed with it
 
She's your mom, and since your dad got the kids back, it ended well. Who can you possibly forgive in this world if not your own mother?
 
It depends on how long it is. If you don't reconcile with her, you'll probably regret it, BUT if this was two months ago, I'd say some more time needs to pass.
 
no you're not, you can't go on forever giving her more chances, maybe in like 10 years or something, but otherwise she's just messing up your life.
 
well I fell kind of bad about it, but tbh my life has been better these past 2 years after I took the drama and stress she put into my life out.

to add to it her parents my grandparents have been telling my sisters that me and my dad are evil people and are going to hell. and my mom does nothing to stop them from doing it (unfortionally my mom still get visitation every other weekend and half the summer)
 
Originally posted by: Falloutboy
to add to it her parents my grandparents have been telling my sisters that me and my dad are evil people and are going to hell. and my mom does nothing to stop them from doing it (unfortionally my mom still get visitation every other weekend and half the summer)
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Now THAT is out of line.
 
Originally posted by: GeekDrew
no, you're not an ass. your mother is.
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she has a mental illness which would explain her irrational behavior.

i don't think OP should cut her out of his life, but just be careful around her.

 
the other side of it is that when she is having a good day she is a perfectly normal person,mainly what it comes down to is I told her last time I talked to her (several months ago) that when she can prove to me she is getting help I might consider including her in my life
 
She was feeling desperate because you are out of her life and acted irrationally. Now she is old and lonely. Don't do this to her. Forgive her and make her happy. you don't want your children to cut you out of their lives when you are old, do you ?
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: GeekDrew
no, you're not an ass. your mother is.
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she has a mental illness which would explain her irrational behavior.

i don't think OP should cut her out of his life, but just be careful around her.
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nonetheless...

the ultimate careful is avoidance 😛
 
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