A month into college now...

[archcommus]

Originally posted by: jndietz

Originally posted by: archcommus

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: archcommus

Originally posted by: spidey07
No offense, but it seems like you are going through what every other college freshman goes through.

homesick.

No buck up, dump that baggage and find some strange!

None taken...

Just trying to sort through what the problem is. It's not as simple as "I miss home." Actually, that's not what I'm thinking at all.

Yes it is. You miss your comfort zone, your routine. That may not be home persay, but same concept.

True. But I'm very open to a new routine. I just wish that routine encompassed things off this campus!

I do love going home for the weekend, but my main reason for that is to see my girlfriend and to go out into town with her. I guess that's the routine I'm really missing.

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: archcommus
I guess it's also worse because I'm attached to someone at home who I'm missing greatly.

Can I offer you a piece of advice that I didn't listen to when I was in college but SEVERELY wish I had?

Cut any emotional ties you may have to some girl back home. I know that's a lot easier said than done, but it's the only way you'll truly get to appreciate college and everything this very unique part of your life has to offer. Unless she's pregant with your baby, you'll be glad you did it years down the road. You'll have a lot more fun now and you'll have more experiences from which to draw upon later.

Trust me.

I appreciate your advice but there are many opinions of the situation. There ARE relationships that last from high school all through college. How do I know this won't be one of them? I can't throw such a good thing away because I'm assuming it'll fail later and I'll have more fun now. I have what people hope to have one day when they start dating someone, almost 3 years of building and improving and growing stronger with each other. I can't just toss that away.

same here bud, same here... you and i are in the same boat.

In all respects, eh?

Originally posted by: matstars

Originally posted by: archcommus


I appreciate your advice but there are many opinions of the situation. There ARE relationships that last from high school all through college. How do I know this won't be one of them? I can't throw such a good thing away because I'm assuming it'll fail later and I'll have more fun now. I have what people hope to have one day when they start dating someone, almost 3 years of building and improving and growing stronger with each other. I can't just toss that away.

know what the #1 reason a battered woman stays with her abusive husband. "We spent all this time together, i can't just toss it away.

Food for thought.

You are describing a completely different situation. That is a situation in which the woman does NOT want the relationship but stays in it reluctantly. In this case, we're both very happy. Makes no sense to throw away EXACTLY what people try to achieve in a relationship. Why, just so I can date some girls now and try to start all over and hope I get just as lucky again? I don't think so.

 

[Saint Nick]

yep, same boat in all respects for the most part. how incredibly strange, two different people living the same life.

 

[BigJ]

Originally posted by: jndietz
yep, same boat in all respects for the most part. how incredibly strange, two different people living the same life.

Is it really that strange that 2 out of 6.5 billion people are living very similar lives?

 

[jspeicher]

being a loser sucks, strive not to be so reclusive.

 

[archcommus]

Originally posted by: BigJ

Originally posted by: jndietz
yep, same boat in all respects for the most part. how incredibly strange, two different people living the same life.

Is it really that strange that 2 out of 6.5 billion people are living very similar lives?

It is odd the situations AND feelings are so similar.

I just don't have the drive to do this that I expected to have, at least not yet. I'm finally here and all, what I've been waiting for for over a year, but now that I'm here, I realize that I'm simply doing this to hopefully one day get a job that I'll hopefully like and hopefully won't lose. Doesn't that just seem so...drab? Yet it's what everyone does.

If I had a winning business idea, I'd probably quit in a heartbeat.

 

[kranky]

If you do entertain the thought of starting a business, then you can really benefit from your time in college. An intro to accounting class, a management class, working with student organizations which have to do budgeting, planning, etc. -- all will help prepare you for running a business down the road.

It's an environment where you can make mistakes while learning and still not wreck your career, so take advantage of it.

 

[archcommus]

Originally posted by: kranky
If you do entertain the thought of starting a business, then you can really benefit from your time in college. An intro to accounting class, a management class, working with student organizations which have to do budgeting, planning, etc. -- all will help prepare you for running a business down the road.

It's an environment where you can make mistakes while learning and still not wreck your career, so take advantage of it.

That is true, but cramming that into an already packed 17 credit hour engineering schedule is pretty impossible.