Originally posted by: SP33Demon
It sounds like you're lonely is all.
My suggestion is to transfer to where your friends are (Erie you said) even if it's further, and break it off with the g/f (unless you're engaged or soon to be) and just have fun. You'll actually have people to hang out with and do activities with them. Don't spend your college years resenting everyone who's having fun, you'll only regret it later in life.
Most relationships that are long distance don't last, I've been through 2 in college. Eventually the travel time (for me it was 5 hours) will wear on both of you, and you'll do better in school with a clear head and no emotional stress and just being with your friends. My $.02
Lonely, in a sense. I would be completely alone (at least I'd feel that way) without my girlfriend. With her I can never feel alone. But when she's not here, well, she's not here, and email, IM, and phone is the best we can do. When I'm here I am slightly lonely, but that is improving. I'm adjusting more and more everyday to the people on my hall and getting to know a lot of them a lot better. I still really haven't found my niche, though.
Going to Behrend is only a temporary fix, because that's where my high school friends are at. I can't follow them forever.
I have to disagree with you about the relationship. No emotions about me and her are messing up my head right now. Actually my status with her is the clearest thing in my life right now. She's such an awesome pillar of support, company, and happiness. Dropping her right now would bring me nothing but sadness.
Originally posted by: Ilmater
Wow... just wow.
Let me get this straight:
1) Girls aren't allowed in the dorms on certain days at certain hours.
2) You aren't allowed to have a car, but...
- 2a) You want a job
- 2b) Nowhere but on-campus employment is within walking distance
3) You saw no problem with #1 or #2?
Christian colleges are ridiculous. Dude, some of my best times in college were talking with friends - male and female - WITHOUT ALCOHOL until 4 or 5 in the morning. You really got to know people, and you could wax intellectual about ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. Also, going out to drink was an ESSENTIAL part of college. One of my friends just went out with us and drank water. He turned in earlier than the rest of us, but we all had a great time together. Don't discount how important these things are to your enjoyment of college.
Admittedly - and I could be a hypocrite here or just lie to myself - I'm against Christian colleges. I think they try to bring you up in a certain way rather than expose you to what the other 99% of the world goes through in college. Then, when you leave there, you aren't as prepared and not as familiar with what everyone else around you went through. So you sit in a room before a meeting and everyone starts talking about their college days and you just stare at your paper because your college life wasn't like that and neither was anyone else's life that you were witness to.
No, I saw no problem with #1 because I'm already comfy in that regard. I did have a slight problem with #2, but like I said, PSU Erie had the same policy, and was pretty much the only other school I was considering. So I just figured it was something I was going to have to deal with. As a result of that my only choice of job is something on campus until I have a car here.
I agree with some of what you say, but you also have to understand that everyone has different interests. I feel I've been getting along great with the people on my hall and that's without going out and drinking at all. To me that's not an integral part of college.
What it boils down to is, the terrible grades are discouraging since that's the MAIN reason I'm here anyway, and I simply dislike being on campus 24/7, in combination with not having a select niche of friends yet.
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