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dabuddha

dabuddha

Lifer
Apr 10, 2000
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I'm going to have to call you what I call one of my friends, Doormat. You need to talk to them and tell them they need to move out in 1 week or they need to start paying rent.
 
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SirChadwick

Diamond Member
Jul 27, 2001
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I'm not threatening my wife w/ divorce.... out of the question and a cowardly way out.

It was said jokingly.
 
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SirChadwick

Diamond Member
Jul 27, 2001
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I just called my wife again and told her we need to talk about this further tonight. If she doesn't say something (with me backing her up), I told her I'd say it myself.

 
Barfo

Barfo

Lifer
Jan 4, 2005
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Originally posted by: dabuddha
I'm going to have to call you what I call one of my friends, Doormat. You need to talk to them and tell them they need to move out in 1 week or they need to start paying rent.
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Leave the bolded part out, they'll agree to pay rent and never do and besides, OP wants them to leave.
 
BurnItDwn

BurnItDwn

Lifer
Oct 10, 1999
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You could always take the passive/agressive approach. It's not at all recommended, but it might be one step above being a doormat. Make things miserable for them intentionally. Be an asshole to them. Make them want to be elsewhere. I would start by smoking cigars in the house.
 
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SirChadwick

Diamond Member
Jul 27, 2001
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Originally posted by: BurnItDwn
You could always take the passive/agressive approach. It's not at all recommended, but it might be one step above being a doormat. Make things miserable for them intentionally. Be an asshole to them. Make them want to be elsewhere. I would start by smoking cigars in the house.
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I've tried that route in the past... doesn't really work. The sister cries and calls her Mom. i look like the bad guy and my wife doesn't give me any for 2 weeks. I can't smoke cigars inside - she smokes cigs and would want to start smoking them inside as well.
 
krylon

krylon

Diamond Member
Nov 17, 2001
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I suggest you cry about it on the internet and do nothing IRL. Wait a second. OH SNAP!
 
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racolvin

Golden Member
Jul 26, 2004
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Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: BurnItDwn
You could always take the passive/agressive approach. It's not at all recommended, but it might be one step above being a doormat. Make things miserable for them intentionally. Be an asshole to them. Make them want to be elsewhere. I would start by smoking cigars in the house.
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I've tried that route in the past... doesn't really work. The sister cries and calls her Mom. i look like the bad guy and my wife doesn't give me any for 2 weeks. I can't smoke cigars inside - she smokes cigs and would want to start smoking them inside as well.
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Pfft .. you're worried about not getting any for two weeks? You are still newlyweds. A few years from now that won't be such a big punishment ;)
 
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moparacer

Golden Member
Dec 10, 2003
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Originally posted by: LemonHead
Grow a pair and tell them to get the f out!
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They are living on YOUR coin......You think they like you sooooo much they are just hanging around because they love you????

You are FREE LUNCH ROOM AND BOARD......

Tell them to GTFO!

 
JDub02

JDub02

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Sep 27, 2002
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Route 1 - non-confrontational - try to convince SIL and boyfriend that it's in their best interest to move out.

when that fails, route 2 - confrontational - be a man. it can be difficult. by nature, i'm a very non-confrontational person. OP, it sounds like you are, too. but there comes a time when you need to stand up for yourself. it's your life, your marraige, your place. you need to tell your wife that it's time for the visitors to go and that it's not open for discussion. you need to tell your SIL in a kind, loving way to GTFO ... no kindness necessary for the boyfriend. do not leave it open for debate.

go watch the 10 commandments with charlton heston .. you need to pull out the "so let it be written. so let it be done" line.
 
Pepsei

Pepsei

Lifer
Dec 14, 2001
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hmmm my advice, stop buying grocery... go out every night with your wife...
"accidently" break the air conditioner (just turn off some switch), and since it is summer/hot, you're waiting in line for someone to come out a fix it. maybe the deadbeat will use his hotel allowance....
 
alkemyst

alkemyst

No Lifer
Feb 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: JDub02
wow, OP, you seriously need to grow a pair. be a man. tell your wife that the situation is unacceptable and that her sister has got to go. if she won't do it, then kick them out.

i've had to give housemates the boot before. it's never fun kicking out friends or relatives, but it sometimes has to be done. you never have to be rude or arrogant about it, but sometimes you have to be firm.

all of that goes out the window is SIL is hot. then you just kick the boyfriend out.
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hate to break it to you, but if the wife has no issue with the couple, then the OP is the one that is the issue.

 
buck

buck

Lifer
Dec 11, 2000
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Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: JDub02
wow, OP, you seriously need to grow a pair. be a man. tell your wife that the situation is unacceptable and that her sister has got to go. if she won't do it, then kick them out.

i've had to give housemates the boot before. it's never fun kicking out friends or relatives, but it sometimes has to be done. you never have to be rude or arrogant about it, but sometimes you have to be firm.

all of that goes out the window is SIL is hot. then you just kick the boyfriend out.
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hate to break it to you, but if the wife has no issue with the couple, then the OP is the one that is the issue.
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The OP's issue is that he lacks balls. Obviously his wife does not respect him enough to not put him (them) in this situation. When the OP finally finds his spine, maybe he won't get put in this situation again.
 
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SAWYER

Lifer
Apr 27, 2000
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Originally posted by: buck
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: JDub02
wow, OP, you seriously need to grow a pair. be a man. tell your wife that the situation is unacceptable and that her sister has got to go. if she won't do it, then kick them out.

i've had to give housemates the boot before. it's never fun kicking out friends or relatives, but it sometimes has to be done. you never have to be rude or arrogant about it, but sometimes you have to be firm.

all of that goes out the window is SIL is hot. then you just kick the boyfriend out.
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hate to break it to you, but if the wife has no issue with the couple, then the OP is the one that is the issue.
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The OP's issue is that he lacks balls. Obviously his wife does not respect him enough to not put him (them) in this situation. When the OP finally finds his spine, maybe he won't get put in this situation again.
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Yeah pretty much
 
MrDudeMan

MrDudeMan

Lifer
Jan 15, 2001
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Originally posted by: Sawyer
Originally posted by: buck
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: JDub02
wow, OP, you seriously need to grow a pair. be a man. tell your wife that the situation is unacceptable and that her sister has got to go. if she won't do it, then kick them out.

i've had to give housemates the boot before. it's never fun kicking out friends or relatives, but it sometimes has to be done. you never have to be rude or arrogant about it, but sometimes you have to be firm.

all of that goes out the window is SIL is hot. then you just kick the boyfriend out.
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hate to break it to you, but if the wife has no issue with the couple, then the OP is the one that is the issue.
Click to expand...

The OP's issue is that he lacks balls. Obviously his wife does not respect him enough to not put him (them) in this situation. When the OP finally finds his spine, maybe he won't get put in this situation again.
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Yeah pretty much
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It's more complicated than that when you aren't an internet tough guy. Saying hurtful things to family members doesn't just automatically go away, even if you are in the right. This needs to be handled correctly because family drama is annoying and should be avoided. That doesn't mean he needs to be a doormat, but some changes need to be made, i.e they need to gtfo and his wife needs to do it.
 
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