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[JDub02]

wow, OP, you seriously need to grow a pair. be a man. tell your wife that the situation is unacceptable and that her sister has got to go. if she won't do it, then kick them out.

i've had to give housemates the boot before. it's never fun kicking out friends or relatives, but it sometimes has to be done. you never have to be rude or arrogant about it, but sometimes you have to be firm.

all of that goes out the window is SIL is hot. then you just kick the boyfriend out.

 

[MotF Bane]

Talk to your wife first.

 

[bobdole369]

Similar thing happened with my wife and a friend/couple. Took about 2 weeks to realize they were douches and while it did take some convincing the wife - we managed to go in and bust up the friendship for a couple years and get em the fugggg outta our house. We did it as a team. Said whats what and who's who and the folks were gone by sunrise.

 

[bobdole369]

Oh and wtf is wrong with you OP? Pics???!!!! Hello!???!!!

 

[imported_Imp]

Talk to her... talk to them? And FML is the phrase you're looking for.

 

[kalrith]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
The sister complains that it's HOT all the time so she cuts down the A/C to 65 when I'm at work.... nice. It's really starting to get to me right now and my wife knows it.

If you have central air, this problem could be easily solved by taking the A/C disconnect switch with you to work every day .

 

[aircooled]

Maybe they need a place to stay?

 

[silverpig]

Let your wife deal with it.

Go stay at a buddy's place for a few nights

 

[bobdole369]

If you have central air, this problem could be easily solved by taking the A/C disconnect switch with you to work every day

Pull the whole bloody breaker. rewire so air activates heat....

 

[RagingBITCH]

Just say "Hey GTFO"

 

[SirChadwick]

For all of you saying to grow a pair by talking to my wife first... I failed to mention I've already talked with her. She agrees that it was rude for them to work their way into staying with us w/out actually asking. But I doubt she'll say anything about it to them. I get so sick and tired of hearing her sister say "I feel like I'm wearing out my welcome". It's like setting me up to say "YOU SURE AS HELL ARE! TIME TO GO!" She knows that's exactly what I'm thinking, but I'm too nice to say it. Also... what's even worse is that her sister wants to MOVE IN WITH US for a year or so until her and her b/f can get married. Talk about means for divorce. No way in hell I can do that... ain't happenin. My wife is open to the idea (naturally), but I would go insane.

 

[Barfo]

Pretend to have been infected with the swine flu.

 

[skyking]

She does not have to do the talking, you and her have to be in complete agreement so she does not sabotage you when you lower the boom. Make sure she won't do that and I say go for it. It will make it all too clear about this idea of moving in for a year.

 

[SirChadwick]

Also, the S-I-L's b/f gets paid $400/week for hotel stay on his job. He obviously isn't staying at a hotel this week and is still getting the check.

Should I ask him for some cash politely for the week stay, gas/water/ac use?

 

[Cattlegod]

pics

 

[racolvin]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
For all of you saying to grow a pair by talking to my wife first... I failed to mention I've already talked with her. She agrees that it was rude for them to work their way into staying with us w/out actually asking. But I doubt she'll say anything about it to them. I get so sick and tired of hearing her sister say "I feel like I'm wearing out my welcome". It's like setting me up to say "YOU SURE AS HELL ARE! TIME TO GO!" She knows that's exactly what I'm thinking, but I'm too nice to say it. Also... what's even worse is that her sister wants to MOVE IN WITH US for a year or so until her and her b/f can get married. Talk about means for divorce. No way in hell I can do that... ain't happenin. My wife is open to the idea (naturally), but I would go insane.

First thing you do is tell the wife that allowing her sister (and her bf whether its stated or not) to move in for A YEAR it out of the question and a quick way to get a divorce for the two of you. Make sure she's clear that this is non-negotiable for you if you're truly serious. This cannot be a situation of a parent telling a child "no" and then relenting and giving in - if you take a stand you damn well better stick to it come hell or high water.

Second, have a side conversation with the sister and tell her to GTFO...

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: skyking
She does not have to do the talking, you and her have to be in complete agreement so she does not sabotage you when you lower the boom. Make sure she won't do that and I say go for it. It will make it all too clear about this idea of moving in for a year.

Sounds like a plan. Even though she's not going to move in with us... she still wants to move close to where we live. I swear twins are inseparable though everything. They share a womb for life. I understand this. But they aren't identical twins and have 100% different personalities/looks.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
For all of you saying to grow a pair by talking to my wife first... I failed to mention I've already talked with her. She agrees that it was rude for them to work their way into staying with us w/out actually asking. But I doubt she'll say anything about it to them. I get so sick and tired of hearing her sister say "I feel like I'm wearing out my welcome". It's like setting me up to say "YOU SURE AS HELL ARE! TIME TO GO!" She knows that's exactly what I'm thinking, but I'm too nice to say it. Also... what's even worse is that her sister wants to MOVE IN WITH US for a year or so until her and her b/f can get married. Talk about means for divorce. No way in hell I can do that... ain't happenin. My wife is open to the idea (naturally), but I would go insane.

Well, if she won't say anything, then obviously you have to.
When you say you've talked to her, do you mean you've said "Okay, so it's time for them to go, how are we going to do it?" or "Man, those two get on my nerves!"?

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
For all of you saying to grow a pair by talking to my wife first... I failed to mention I've already talked with her. She agrees that it was rude for them to work their way into staying with us w/out actually asking. But I doubt she'll say anything about it to them. I get so sick and tired of hearing her sister say "I feel like I'm wearing out my welcome". It's like setting me up to say "YOU SURE AS HELL ARE! TIME TO GO!" She knows that's exactly what I'm thinking, but I'm too nice to say it. Also... what's even worse is that her sister wants to MOVE IN WITH US for a year or so until her and her b/f can get married. Talk about means for divorce. No way in hell I can do that... ain't happenin. My wife is open to the idea (naturally), but I would go insane.

Newsflash: it already happened.

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: barfo
Pretend to have been infected with the swine flu.

NO. I've done something like this before and actually got it.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Also, the S-I-L's b/f gets paid $400/week for hotel stay on his job. He obviously isn't staying at a hotel this week and is still getting the check.

Should I ask him for some cash politely for the week stay, gas/water/ac use?

I wouldn't, I'd just look at getting them out of the house as payment enough

 

[ivan2]

TTIWWP

 

[imported_Imp]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
For all of you saying to grow a pair by talking to my wife first... I failed to mention I've already talked with her. She agrees that it was rude for them to work their way into staying with us w/out actually asking. But I doubt she'll say anything about it to them. I get so sick and tired of hearing her sister say "I feel like I'm wearing out my welcome". It's like setting me up to say "YOU SURE AS HELL ARE! TIME TO GO!" She knows that's exactly what I'm thinking, but I'm too nice to say it. Also... what's even worse is that her sister wants to MOVE IN WITH US for a year or so until her and her b/f can get married. Talk about means for divorce. No way in hell I can do that... ain't happenin. My wife is open to the idea (naturally), but I would go insane.

Speak directly to the intruders then. Think of it this way: if you don't talk to them now, calmly, you will ass-plode the in a few weeks, or when your wife agrees to let her twin sister, bonded by both blood, a split embryo (?), and a few minute difference in birth time, to stay longer.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: racolvin
First thing you do is tell the wife that allowing her sister (and her bf whether its stated or not) to move in for A YEAR it out of the question and a quick way to get a divorce for the two of you. Make sure she's clear that this is non-negotiable for you if you're truly serious. This cannot be a situation of a parent telling a child "no" and then relenting and giving in - if you take a stand you damn well better stick to it come hell or high water.

Second, have a side conversation with the sister and tell her to GTFO...

This is a terrible idea--divorce ultimatums are serious business. Especially for a couple that's been married under a year. You can get a point across firmly without resorting to such tactics.

 

[racolvin]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: racolvin
First thing you do is tell the wife that allowing her sister (and her bf whether its stated or not) to move in for A YEAR it out of the question and a quick way to get a divorce for the two of you. Make sure she's clear that this is non-negotiable for you if you're truly serious. This cannot be a situation of a parent telling a child "no" and then relenting and giving in - if you take a stand you damn well better stick to it come hell or high water.

Second, have a side conversation with the sister and tell her to GTFO...

This is a terrible idea--divorce ultimatums are serious business. Especially for a couple that's been married under a year. You can get a point across firmly without resorting to such tactics.

The OP stated the divorce thing, I'm just saying that he'd better be ready to back that up. I wouldn't want to resort to that as a threat unless all the chips were down ...