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Jadow

Jadow

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My sister (only sibling) is getting married soon, and I would like to know how much I should give her?

Here's the situation. Right after the wedding, they're going on a honeymoon, which costs over $5000. I think this is a tremendous waste of money, and would be willing to give them more if they were a little more modest with their honeymoon, and wiser with their money.

I have a mortgage to pay for, and about $10,000 in low interest debt (around 4%), which I am perfectly capable of covering with my monthly income, however I am stretched fairly thin with only a couple hundred dollars leftover each month after all expenses (house, 401k, debt, utilities, insurance, etc...)

The bride and groom are both in decent financial shape, making about 65,000 to 70,000 between them, with a good mortgage and no kids...

I am just going to give her cash. So how much should I give?
 
I think this is a tremendous waste of money, and would be willing to give them more if they were a little more modest with their honeymoon, and wiser with their money.
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I don't think that should have anything to do with how much you give them.
 
Originally posted by: RabidMongoose
I think this is a tremendous waste of money, and would be willing to give them more if they were a little more modest with their honeymoon, and wiser with their money.
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I don't think that should have anything to do with how much you give them.
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If I have lots of respect for someone I'll give more than if I had little respect
 
5000 for a honeymoon? Are they doing a 2 week tour of Europe or something? Get them a gift card to a department store would be my suggestion.
 
Here's where I'm at with that. I am NOT going to tell them what to do with the money, or how to spend it, it will be theirs to do with as they want. However, internally, it is affecting my decision making process.
 
the honeymoon is to some resort in the caribbean where its all inclusive, food etc...
 
She's your sister, and she's going to be your sister for a long, long time. Do something that feels right to you so that you won't ever think about it with bad feelings.

Come up with a sum of money that has special meaning to the both of you. For example, the price of a bicycle that you had that she really wanted. Or something like "here's one dollar for every time I told you that you were an idiot - $5219" Or "remember that stuffed bunny I had that you always wanted? It's available on ebay for $150 - here's the money"

The idea is to come up with something really special to the two of you, and tie the money to that.

 
if they have enough to pay for a $5000 honeymoon, then just give them a card, they don't need your money
 
We spent $5k for 2 weeks in Hawaii a couple weeks back. It's not an uncommon figure for a honeymoon... assuming it is 2 weeks.

Anyway, as far as how much to give... immediate relatives give anywhere from $200-$400. Uncles gave $500+ (especially with kids). My brother gave me $200 and friends (mostly couples) gave $100-$200. How they spent their money shouldn't have any bearing on what you decide to give them as many have said.
 
$200 is a good amount, more than enough to cover the plate(assuming their reception is not at a super expenisve place), not too much to break your bank. If you are bringing a date, maybe another $50-$100.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
Anyway, as far as how much to give... immediate relatives give anywhere from $200-$400. Uncles gave $500+ (especially with kids). My brother gave me $200 and friends (mostly couples) gave $100-$200 each. How they spent their money shouldn't have any bearing on what you decide to give them as many have said.
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:Q
that is huge $$$ for a gift from my background

wow :Q
 
Originally posted by: FoBoT
Originally posted by: rh71
Anyway, as far as how much to give... immediate relatives give anywhere from $200-$400. Uncles gave $500+ (especially with kids). My brother gave me $200 and friends (mostly couples) gave $100-$200 each. How they spent their money shouldn't have any bearing on what you decide to give them as many have said.
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:Q
that is huge $$$ for a gift from my background

wow :Q
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Well I got $20k back from a $28k wedding. Had a great time too on top of it. TOTALLY WORTH IT.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
We spent $5k for 2 weeks in Hawaii a couple weeks back. It's not an uncommon figure for a honeymoon... assuming it is 2 weeks.

Anyway, as far as how much to give... immediate relatives give anywhere from $200-$400. Uncles gave $500+ (especially with kids). My brother gave me $200 and friends (mostly couples) gave $100-$200. How they spent their money shouldn't have any bearing on what you decide to give them as many have said.
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Man........ for $5000 I would have let you come to my place for all inclusive and I would strap a saddle to my back & give you a horsey ride :Q 😉

Cheers,
Aquaman
 
Originally posted by: Aquaman
Originally posted by: rh71
We spent $5k for 2 weeks in Hawaii a couple weeks back. It's not an uncommon figure for a honeymoon... assuming it is 2 weeks.

Anyway, as far as how much to give... immediate relatives give anywhere from $200-$400. Uncles gave $500+ (especially with kids). My brother gave me $200 and friends (mostly couples) gave $100-$200. How they spent their money shouldn't have any bearing on what you decide to give them as many have said.
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Man........ for $5000 I would have let you come to my place for all inclusive and I would strap a saddle to my back & give you a horsey ride :Q 😉

Cheers,
Aquaman
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I'll give you $5000 if you get Jessica Alba to meet me. I think she's still there in Canuck territory...
 
I'd get her some *high-quality* kitchenware. Maybe not All-Clad, but something decent that'll last over 10 years.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
Originally posted by: Aquaman
Originally posted by: rh71
We spent $5k for 2 weeks in Hawaii a couple weeks back. It's not an uncommon figure for a honeymoon... assuming it is 2 weeks.

Anyway, as far as how much to give... immediate relatives give anywhere from $200-$400. Uncles gave $500+ (especially with kids). My brother gave me $200 and friends (mostly couples) gave $100-$200. How they spent their money shouldn't have any bearing on what you decide to give them as many have said.
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Man........ for $5000 I would have let you come to my place for all inclusive and I would strap a saddle to my back & give you a horsey ride :Q 😉

Cheers,
Aquaman
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I'll give you $5000 if you get Jessica Alba to meet me. I think she's still there in Canuck territory...
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Ok........ you take care of the body guard and I will take care of Jessica Alba 🙂

Cheers,
Aquaman
 
Originally posted by: richardycc
$200 is a good amount, more than enough to cover the plate(assuming their reception is not at a super expenisve place), not too much to break your bank. If you are bringing a date, maybe another $50-$100.
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covering your plate and being a sibling are two different things. It's not like he's going to be seated at the rejects table back by the restrooms at the reception...
 
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