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If this isn't a parody, you = teh selfish bitch.

I can't wait for six months from now when you post something all crying and broken up because your BF found someone else at college and dropped you like a bad habit.
 
Wait. Wait a minute. Your dad worked his ass off to buy you a 1993 Mitsubishi 3000GT, and you bitch at him then your BF? WTF is wrong with you? You are the poster child for being a "Spoiled Brat". Thank god you are not a guy, I would have to kick your ass.
 
OMG you guys are horrible you probably made that Chelsey girl cry her controlling little eyes out!!! :brokenheart:

Maybe she's Chelsey Clinton. Oh yeah shameless joke. :beer:

In any event, I'm going to add to the misery by saying this:

Chelsey, the guy is going to have to get a job at some point in life, whether it is now or later when he has to support you and your three kids. I suggest you get used to it as it's part of living in a civilized manner.

I suppose YOU could go out and get a job, then give him money so that he doesn't have to work. Then you could become a serious working woman and support the entire family if you wanted. That would probably go against what you're trying to achieve though. I don't know how you can possibly achieve spending every day 24/7 with the guy aside from maybe winning the lottery and buying a small island.

Too bad so sad. Can't you see why everyone is going against you? What you said makes no sense. Generally if you have to ask "Am I being selfish", you ARE being selfish. Just save yourself the trouble next time.

OTOH we need more girls posting "YABT"; they would probably get excellent advice too seeing as it's mostly guys on here.
 
Getting a job is a responsible thing to do in life, although some people want a free ride b/c they can't/won't accept reality b/c they are spoiled and self-centered. Nobody likes to be around somebody who is that way. And in case you're wondering, most people will lie when you ask: "Do you think I'm spoiled?".

Getting a job vs not having a job, is *not* something to take personally--it's not something that "somebody does to you".
 
Originally posted by: Chelsey
My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months now, and this has been an ongoing issue since the beginning. We're both 17. He wants to get a job and I don't want him to. I don't have a job, and I don't see why he wants to get one. He says he wants to get a job because he's gotta pay for his gas and car insurance, but he gets a pretty hefty allowance and always manages to have money leftover to spend on things like RAM and other computer parts, and yet he "never has any money." I do not want him to get a job. My dad obviously has a job, and I never see him. He works all the time and is always gone. I'm worried that if my boyfriend gets a job, I'll never see him either, especially since my parents are strict on when I can see him. He manages to have enough money to spend without a job, so why does he need to desert me to have more? Am I being selfish to want to see my boyfriend unlike I do my dad? Keep in mind guys that I am a senior and will be leaving for college next summer, as will he.
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without reading any other posts since im going to sleep...

i say that it'll be a test for your boyfriend. if he would be an adult some day he would get the job, pay for his own stuff and still make time to meet you and make you happy.

and you, i wouldn't say that you are selfish. but you have to understand there comes a time when guys would want to get his own stuff and be in control... you can only rely on your parents for so long...

good luck to both of you
 
Originally posted by: Chelsey
You guys are really mean. I just asked a question, and there you go jumping all over me. I'm sorry I'm sheltered, my parents won't let me get a job.
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Well... People here enjoy the anonimity and often phrase things in provocative ways.

But the gist of what they are suggesting is that you shouldn't expect to control your boyfriend's choices on how he lives his life -- any more than you should allow him to control the choices that you make. There's plenty of time for that when you're married (and hopefully a lot older). 😉

Frankly, I agree that it is a good idea for teenagers to find a part-time job. Understanding what it takes to actually earn money gives each of us a much better appreciation for it. I applaud your boyfriend's decision, and would recommend that your parents reconsider theirs.
 
Originally posted by: Chelsey
My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months now, and this has been an ongoing issue since the beginning. We're both 17. He wants to get a job and I don't want him to. I don't have a job, and I don't see why he wants to get one. He says he wants to get a job because he's gotta pay for his gas and car insurance, but he gets a pretty hefty allowance and always manages to have money leftover to spend on things like RAM and other computer parts, and yet he "never has any money." I do not want him to get a job. My dad obviously has a job, and I never see him. He works all the time and is always gone. I'm worried that if my boyfriend gets a job, I'll never see him either, especially since my parents are strict on when I can see him. He manages to have enough money to spend without a job, so why does he need to desert me to have more? Am I being selfish to want to see my boyfriend unlike I do my dad? Keep in mind guys that I am a senior and will be leaving for college next summer, as will he.
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Grow up.
 
Everybody works. There really is no way around it. Your boyfriend is being smart.

It is HIGHLY unlikely your boyfriend will "disappear" like your dad because he has a job. The fact that your dad doesn't spend time with you is an issue between you and your father. Maybe the amount of time your dad works at his job is required just so your family can get by. Maybe he doesn't like your mom so he doesn't like to be home. There are many possible reasons that your dad might not be around, you should talk to him and tell him how you feel.

People make time for things that are important to them. If you are important to your boyfriend, he will make time for you.
 
you do realize you are being overly stupid, paranoid, and 17 year oldish?

let him get a job. its an issue with your parents if your dad isn't around and they won't let you see him. if he wants to work, let him work. someday you might meet someone that doesn't have to get all their money off their parents and they can't lie at your feet 24/7. he's not deserting you, he doesn't want to be a drain on his parents.

when you go off to college you'll meet some people that don't have their parents paying for their tution and you'll be back complaining why they can't go party with you because they have to be at work.

seriously the odds are against you guys staying together past high school graduation, so make the most of your time anyways.

gosh spoiled kids annoy me to death.
 
More likely than not, this relationship will be over in 6 months. That's just the name of the college dating game. So let him get a job and milk him for money while you still can.

And yes, you are being selfish.

dfi
 
I was in a similar situation with a girl very recently. We broke up because of it. Yes, you are not only selfish, but naive and immature. I can't believe that I now know two people who wouldn't want someone to work and go to school, because they'd rather be with someone and be lazy 24/7. I wasn't about to quit my job, and I hope your BF doesn't either.
 
Wow. Just wow.

I can't believe how stupid you sound - now, I don't actually know you personally, so just to make sure, I'm not calling YOU stupid, I'm just saying what you said is stupid . . ..

You ask your boyfriend to not get a job, to spend more time with you, and on top of that, you go on a forum asking if you're being selfish?

Wow. This is, bar none, one of the stupidest things I've heard.
 
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