We don't know all the things that happen when you enable XMP/EXPO. I have a feeling it doesn't just changes RAM speed and timings. We know from previous experience that enabling XMP/EXPO increases vSOC. It's likely doing many other things that we are unaware of.
While it may not be a monitor input problem it was an easy test to see if your video out was delayed to the GPU. But this is the first I have read that you are also having other problems. (OK, just went back through your posts and saw you mentioned it another time as well). Can you tell us the exact kit of RAM you bought (the 64GB kit)? There's no mention of the manufacturer or a part number anywhere. Curious if it is on the QVL list for the motherboard. A lack of boot sometimes points to a lack of post, but since you can't see the screen you have no idea what is actually going on during this time.
Any chance you have updated the AMD chipset drivers? May not matter, but always worth a shot.
BTW, if there is something wrong with the CPU and you are past the return window you can always contact AMD, you should be in the warranty period.