PricklyPete
Lifer
- Sep 17, 2002
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I think it is funny having all these ATOT "super studs" telling the OP to be a man when most likely none of them would have been able to muster up the courage to even ask her to dinner/theater.
If she instigated the kiss and it was a lot more than just a peck...yeah, you probably could have worked that if you wanted to. If it was just a peck on the cheaks/lips...she was just saying goodnight. Either way, if you're not into rogering a girl the first day you meet her...then don't worry about it either way. That's not the way you swing...so it really doesn't matter which way she swings.
I wouldn't equate what you did to being a gentlemen. How is it being a gentlemen if she just wants to have playful sex. It would be ungentlemenly if you pushed her to do things she didn't really want to do...but there is nothing ungentlemently about giving her what she wants. I've known plenty of girls over the years who have just wanted some playful sex and that is it. They weren't looking for a relationship. If you're at a convention together...she isn't looking for anything longterm out your little experience together.
If she instigated the kiss and it was a lot more than just a peck...yeah, you probably could have worked that if you wanted to. If it was just a peck on the cheaks/lips...she was just saying goodnight. Either way, if you're not into rogering a girl the first day you meet her...then don't worry about it either way. That's not the way you swing...so it really doesn't matter which way she swings.
I wouldn't equate what you did to being a gentlemen. How is it being a gentlemen if she just wants to have playful sex. It would be ungentlemenly if you pushed her to do things she didn't really want to do...but there is nothing ungentlemently about giving her what she wants. I've known plenty of girls over the years who have just wanted some playful sex and that is it. They weren't looking for a relationship. If you're at a convention together...she isn't looking for anything longterm out your little experience together.
PingSpike
Lifer
- Feb 25, 2004
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The type of kiss would give a more definative answer...however, I doubt she wanted to bang you on this occasion. I think you would have done more harm then good grinning like a moron and saying something like "Mind if I come in for coffee and a shag?"
The few women who are aggressive about sex...usually throw subtle stuff out the window. Or, they should anyway.
The few women who are aggressive about sex...usually throw subtle stuff out the window. Or, they should anyway.
Geekbabe
Moderator Emeritus<br>Elite Member
If she was interested in carrying the evening further she'd have invited you up to her room for a nightcap. You'd have made a total fool of yourself if you'd followed her to her room.
AMDZen
Lifer
- Apr 15, 2004
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We STILL have yet to hear about what kind of kiss it was, so any debating thats still going on here is for nothing.
I think it was obviously a frenchie, and now that GTA thinks about it, he realizes he could have had some. Perhaps he regrets that? And is now too afraid to admit the kiss was what it undoubtedly was, as to not face further ridicule from the ATOT crowd?
I think it was obviously a frenchie, and now that GTA thinks about it, he realizes he could have had some. Perhaps he regrets that? And is now too afraid to admit the kiss was what it undoubtedly was, as to not face further ridicule from the ATOT crowd?
Yeah, I frankly don't get the point of your post. You have your basic guidelines but you're coming on here for us to validate your decision--assuming the girl really meant to convey a hidden message? Did you just want us patting you on the back? If that's what you wanted, then you're less than a gentleman or a real man. :disgust: You look worse than if you had even followed her from the elevator. I really fail to see the point of your story, which additionally is a little ambiguous and lacking in details.
Oh, take a no for a no, lest you get into trouble some day for believing in this nonsensical myth about girls always having hidden messages. Girls are capable of saying they want more when they do. If you suspected that she wanted more, then you should have asked directly whether it was okay if you joined her.... She's tired could really mean she was tired and wanted the time to herself--nothing more.
I love that saying!
Pliablemoose
Lifer
- Oct 11, 1999
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I think you did fine, had she wanted more she would have told you, and if you'd have pushed things, it may have screwed up any chance you have in the future.
Don Vito Corleone
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- Feb 10, 2000
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Originally posted by: Nik
If GTA is a gentleman, he's too good for some skank who just wants some dick. If he IS a gentleman, findind some woman who just wants a screw is settling for less than what he deserves.
Then again, if she's that kind of woman, and if he's just an asshole and thinks the world revolves around sex, then more power to him...
"Gentleman," my ass. Any guy in his early 20s who squanders an easy opportunity to get laid in favor of being a "gentleman" deserves what he gets (or doesn't get). Taking advantage of opportunities doesn't make anyone, regardless of gender, a worse person IMO. None of this presumes GTA had such an opportunity, however - none of us really knows that.
#1 - He didn't choose to be a gentleman. He is asking everyone here if he blew it by not hooking up with her.
#2 - If she wants him, what is wrong with him obliging?
your correct reponse should have been, i realize you want me to boink your brains out but first i must run to get my digicam since i must post pictures about you in the thread i will make of this night on ATOT...
Originally posted by: DonVito
Originally posted by: Nik
If GTA is a gentleman, he's too good for some skank who just wants some dick. If he IS a gentleman, findind some woman who just wants a screw is settling for less than what he deserves.
Then again, if she's that kind of woman, and if he's just an asshole and thinks the world revolves around sex, then more power to him...
"Gentleman," my ass. Any guy in his early 20s who squanders an easy opportunity to get laid in favor of being a "gentleman" deserves what he gets (or doesn't get). Taking advantage of opportunities doesn't make anyone, regardless of gender, a worse person IMO. None of this presumes GTA had such an opportunity, however - none of us really knows that.
spoken like a true lawyer.
- Oct 24, 2000
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Update: She fell asleep in my arms and woke up in my arms...and I was still the gentleman
Counting down the days until I see her again fairly soon!
Counting down the days until I see her again fairly soon!
You did the right thing -- she already said she was tired. If she was trying to drag you off to bed she would be more obvious.
Don Vito Corleone
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- Feb 10, 2000
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Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
Update: She fell asleep in my arms and woke up in my arms...and I was still the gentleman
Counting down the days until I see her again fairly soon!
Be careful when you're snuggling - she might accidentally elbow in you the ovaries next time . . .
- Oct 24, 2000
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Denver meeting is on April 13. And then we're meeting in DC the first weekend of June.
We're talking daily on the phone...so, it's going well
MmmSkyscraper
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- Jul 6, 2004
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Phoenix86
Lifer
- May 21, 2003
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Then why did you ask her out? You're out of town at a conference, you picked up a chick, but wanted a long term relationship not a one nighter.
...WTF mate?
edit: just read you will be seeing her again. In that case, disregard everything I posted above. If you think you may get to know her, I can respect not going for it on the first date. Respect is good when your trying to build something.
Sorry dude but she's all mine! Good guys finish last and I'm the bad boy that's going to be giving her some good lovin!
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