You're 22, stable job, own home, and don't party.

[shadow9d9]

Reiterating that anyone that "likes to cook and cook for you, enjoys cleaning and feels that a womans ultimate 'job' is to raise/help raise a family. " has serious issues and anyone who would want to be with someone like that also has major issues.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: JLGatsby

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
true, but we are out there, and i LOVE our shack.

Nice landscaping, I would guess you take far better care of your house than the neighbors. But it's still a 1950s (I'm guessing) bungalow. I'd rather rent and wait until I can afford something nicer (which is what I'm doing).

But people like you who take care of their houses are god-sent to older middle class neighborhoods like that. Theres always some douche bag 3 doors down in those neighborhoods whose house looks like crap. So GJ on that.

Wow... talk about a kick to the groin... :roll:
i thought we were doing quite well... bought our first house when we were 22, husband graduated college, went to hawaii a few times, got married there, went on a few cruises, had new cars, rennovated the kitchen...
aparently you are waaay better than me because you are waiting to get something better (which is your choice) but don't be hatin' on me because i am proud of my solidly built 1945 home in one of the nicest cities in Michigan.

You have every right to be proud of your home, looks like a perfect starter home. As always there are many ways to achieve a goal, you can set your sights really high and sacrifice for years and years to finally achieve it, or you can set your sights more realistically and work your way up. I personally subscribe to the work your way up method. I really think the path that you and your husband have taken is the best approach and will enable you to get to that "ultimate dream home" sooner than the Gatsby approach.

I took the same path as you guys and it really worked out well for me. I bought my first house for the whopping sum of $22k (much smaller shacklike house than yours built in 1925) just before my 23rd birthday. Even my parents were sceptical and thought the little house was below my standards (raised in a priveliged upper middle class family), but it suited the needs of a young married couple very well and still has a very fond spot in my memory.

Jump ahead 26yrs, I'm now 49 and we own two beautiful homes totaling just over 6500 sqft with a combined value of somewhere around $750k(only in TX, anywhere else it would be well over million). Our primary home is totally paid off, and we only owe $38k on our weekend lakehouse.

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: JLGatsby

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
true, but we are out there, and i LOVE our shack.

Nice landscaping, I would guess you take far better care of your house than the neighbors. But it's still a 1950s (I'm guessing) bungalow. I'd rather rent and wait until I can afford something nicer (which is what I'm doing).

But people like you who take care of their houses are god-sent to older middle class neighborhoods like that. Theres always some douche bag 3 doors down in those neighborhoods whose house looks like crap. So GJ on that.

Wow... talk about a kick to the groin... :roll:
i thought we were doing quite well... bought our first house when we were 22, husband graduated college, went to hawaii a few times, got married there, went on a few cruises, had new cars, rennovated the kitchen...
aparently you are waaay better than me because you are waiting to get something better (which is your choice) but don't be hatin' on me because i am proud of my solidly built 1945 home in one of the nicest cities in Michigan.

Gatsby the metrosexual ass speaketh, legend in his own mind and quite possibly as insufferable in person as he is here on the forums, Ms Wiz.

That he would even attempt to look down on you and your life in any way is a bigger joke than he is. :heart:

 

[JLGatsby]

Originally posted by: Perknose
That he would even attempt to look down on you and your life in any way is a bigger joke than he is. :heart:

I never belittled or looked down on anyone. You are just twisting something I said to make it look like I did. I never had arrogant intentions. All I said was "that's nice, but it doesn't match my personality." Nothing belittling. Anyone else would say the same about me. And my house is certainly no more expensive than hers. Nothing arrogant about what I said or intended.

 

[theeedude]

Girl A. Girl B will still be there if you change your mind later.

 

[PHiuR]

fleshlight is the answer.

(i voted for b)

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Ask Mommy and Daddy which girl you should marry. Sounds like they've done pretty well for you so far.

'Course, you could just decide what you want out of life on your own.

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: JLGatsby

Originally posted by: Perknose
That he would even attempt to look down on you and your life in any way is a bigger joke than he is. :heart:

I never belittled or looked down on anyone. You are just twisting something I said to make it look like I did. I never had arrogant intentions. All I said was "that's nice, but it doesn't match my personality." Nothing belittling. Anyone else would say the same about me. And my house is certainly no more expensive than hers. Nothing arrogant about what I said or intended.

My fallback position is that I just don't much like you.

 

[JLGatsby]

Originally posted by: Perknose
My fallback position is that I just don't much like you.

The only reason people don't like me is because they know I'm right. *tries to keep a straight face*

 

[SZLiao214]

Originally posted by: senseamp
Girl A. Girl B will still be there if you change your mind later.

I agree if things don't work out with girl A then B will probably be there.

The fact that the girl is trying really hard to learn how to cook is also a huge bonus. Her having too many guy friends is just an insecurity issue.

If she is as in to you as you say, you wont have to worry too much about what she does with them. As for her partying, do you expect her to sit at home all day? The fact that she is motivated to make money is a very good thing. She is guaranteed not to be so superficial as to want you for your money.

As i see it, woman B may be better later on, but for now girl A fits you better.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: MagnusTheBrewer
Ask Mommy and Daddy which girl you should marry. Sounds like they've done pretty well for you so far.

'Course, you could just decide what you want out of life on your own.

wtf do my parents have to do with any of this?

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Perknose

Originally posted by: JLGatsby

Originally posted by: Perknose
That he would even attempt to look down on you and your life in any way is a bigger joke than he is. :heart:

I never belittled or looked down on anyone. You are just twisting something I said to make it look like I did. I never had arrogant intentions. All I said was "that's nice, but it doesn't match my personality." Nothing belittling. Anyone else would say the same about me. And my house is certainly no more expensive than hers. Nothing arrogant about what I said or intended.

My fallback position is that I just don't much like you.

I've found him much more endearing since I decided he wasn't an actual person, but rather a persona. Then he becomes downright comical. I've told him I want to have his babies, but thus far my affections have been unrequited.

 

[ElFenix]

whichever one loves teh buttsechks

 

[shuttleboi]

Originally posted by: tfinch2
If I don't party, why the fvck would I want to date a girl that does?

Go with A so you can see what kind of partying life you've been missing. If you've been an introverted type all your life, get an extrovert girl who doesn't mind bringing you to parties and introducing you to new friends. It may be a breath of fresh air.

 

[shuttleboi]

At 22 the OP is not ready to settle down yet, so this will not be his eventual wife. There is still plenty of time to look around and try things out.

It's like getting a job at 22; just try out different jobs and locations while you're still young. Then when you're in your 30s, start thinking about settling down.

 

[brandonb]

This is a typical run around you get with a "Type A Girl" on a regular basis.

Luckily I have a "Type B Girl" all ready for a go at a relationship...

?Type A Girl? says:
Hello...
?Me? says:
Hey there
?Type A Girl? says:
How's your day going?
?Me? says:
Its going pretty good. I'm getting busy tho.
?Type A Girl? says:
I need to talk to you about something.
?Me? says:
Shoot
?Type A Girl? says:
I want you to promise me that you will hear me out completely......
?Me? says:
Ok just say "I'm done" when you are done.
?Type A Girl? says:
Okay
?Type A Girl? says:
First of all, I think that you are such a sweet person and I like hanging out with you. I have feelings for you and care about you. I am just very emotionally, physically, and mentally drained in life right now. I do not feel that I can put into a relationship what I should because I am not fully functioning as me. Before I focus on an intimate relationship of any kind, I seriously feel....
?Type A Girl? says:
that I should make me better and focus on my girls and myself. I am very toren in making this decision.....
?Type A Girl? says:
and I do not want you to think that I came to any of it lightly. I think that my intention on Saturday was to clear the air and perhaps remain friends with you and I got all caught up in the moment. [NOTE: I broke it off with her weeks ago because she is flaky, only to have her beg to come meet up with me Saturday. Probably because she was horny, now she is back to flakey after getting it out of her system.]
?Type A Girl? says:
I do not feel that I can give you the realtionship that you so much deserve right now.
?Type A Girl? says:
This decision is about me and what's best for me and thus I do feel guilty that I am being selfish like that.......
?Type A Girl? says:
however, if I don't take care of me, no one else is going to make this better.
?Type A Girl? says:
I never, ever, ever wanted to hurt you in any way and I am very sincere in that...I just can't put energy into "us" when I don't even have any for my daughters.
?Type A Girl? says:
I have to heal and I can't do that when I am trying to be so busy with everything else.
?Type A Girl? says:
I'm done.
?Me? says:
brb
?Type A Girl? says:
If you are angry with me, i totally understand. If you never talk to me again, I wouldn't hold it against you.
?Type A Girl? says:
I just have to be honest with you.....that's how I am and I am honest no matter what.
?Type A Girl? says:
i just want you happy and I don't feel that I can do that right now at this point in my life.
?Type A Girl? says:
I want you to be happy and have what you dream of....that is my wish for you. My wish for me is that I can someday smile and really mean it and my heart doesn't hurt so much.
?Type A Girl? says:
I am going to go and do some stuff so I will not know what you think right now, however, I hope that you will at least send me a message eventually and that you don't hate me. If I don't hear from you, then I wish you all the best.

I hope you enjoyed that as much as I did.

 

[czech09]

You're pretty much decided for girl A by what you wrote in your first post - why is this thread still going?

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: MagnusTheBrewer
Ask Mommy and Daddy which girl you should marry. Sounds like they've done pretty well for you so far.

'Course, you could just decide what you want out of life on your own.

wtf do my parents have to do with any of this?

The sad part is you don't know.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: shuttleboi
At 22 the OP is not ready to settle down yet, so this will not be his eventual wife. There is still plenty of time to look around and try things out.

It's like getting a job at 22; just try out different jobs and locations while you're still young. Then when you're in your 30s, start thinking about settling down.

Umm, what?

 

[Al Neri]

Originally posted by: JLGatsby

Originally posted by: Perknose
My fallback position is that I just don't much like you.

The only reason people don't like me is because they know I'm right. *tries to keep a straight face*

either that or the fact that you are a troll :roll:

 

[nsx98]

You say 'devoted' but I read DESPERATE. Sounds like she only wants you for your nest, uh, I mean house, and your fathering abilities.

Girl A sounds like she has picked you even though apparently she could have her choice of several.

However, without pics, it's really impossible to choose.

 

[tm37]

Originally posted by: jbourne77
I've always been a "Girl B" type of guy. I like a "domesticated" girl who likes to socialize now and then, rather than a party girl who likes to sleep now and then.

My idea woman is one with a few close friends, who would rather sit at home with me and watch a movie than go to a bar.

i first read that As sodomize

 

[Dr. Detroit]

I'll take girl A.

Time for you to get a life an girl A sounds like she will help you live a bit closer to the edge.

 

[zixxer]

up for edit

 

[Chaotic42]

B

Edit: Do you *own* your home or do you have a mortgage?