I don't think my dad has hit me at all when I was young, but damn my mom would whoop my ass good. Good thing she straightened me out at a young age though 
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This is a prime example of why physical abuse is still necessary in today's society. I've seen too many teens today who run off at the mouth to authority figures and go so far as to say that they're not scared of their parents because they can "take them." It would be a cold day in hell before I thought that.
One of the first wood working projects I ever helped my step father on turned out at the end of the day to be the "Board of Education." I sanded, shaped, stained and wood burned all my brothers and my sister's names into it. I got whacked with it only two or three times, each time I know I was deserving of it. What I did wrong was explained to me, the punishment selected (grounded, no Nintendo, board of education, etc.) and then was administered in short order. Never in a violent or angry manner. I think that is the key to spanking. Speak calmly, explain the wrong doing, let the child know why they are being punished and what they should do so it doesn't happen again. Spank, allow time to recover (cry, think about it, etc.) and then go back with a hug and a final explanation. That's how it was done to me and I can't look back and say there was anything wrong with it.
belt from dad
wooden spoon from mom.
if we were at my grandfather's house, there was a willow tree across the street and my mom would 'go cut a switch'.
wooden spoon from mom.
if we were at my grandfather's house, there was a willow tree across the street and my mom would 'go cut a switch'.
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I was whipped with a belt, hit with a switch, and grounded on occasions. It had a positive effect more than negative.
My @sswipe (part-time) dad tried giving me a lecture once. He struck a nerve and soon after that I remember his head striking the wall. He is a total piece of 5hit. This will make the 5th year in a row that he hasn't called me to eish me a "Merry Christmas". He is only a father to the kids he didn't actually conceive........
Yes, amongst other things.
Physical discipline only teaches you to fear.
I can say I am very distant from my family.
Physical discipline only teaches you to fear.
I can say I am very distant from my family.
Sorry you had to go thru that, tec699.
IMO Beating a child senseless is child abuse, assault. Should be investigated by the police, the parent should be prosecuted. No excuses.
That kind of behavior clearly has passed beyond "discipline" and moved into the territory of emotional & physical abuse.
What's the evidence physical "discipline" in the form of beatings or hittings or spankings does any good at all?
Got hit a couple of times, not too effective in my opinion. How does hitting your kids teach them to be good people? Think about it, how does hitting someone make them internalize good values and morals? That makes no sense. Obviously punishment for doing wrong is necessary, but is hitting really more effective than other kinds of punishment?
A quick "pay attention" smack, like when a kid is going to walk into the street, works for me. But physical punishment just doesn't seem very effective to me. Maybe my parents just didn't beat me enough :roll:
A quick "pay attention" smack, like when a kid is going to walk into the street, works for me. But physical punishment just doesn't seem very effective to me. Maybe my parents just didn't beat me enough :roll:
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I got belted a few times, but I honestly don't remember the reasons.
My 13 yr old bro has got hit maybe once.. and that was around 10 years ago (he doesn't even remember getting hit, he was too young). Right now he's not afraid to curse in front of my parents, which is beyond me. I'm 20 and I still don't feel comfortable enough to curse in front of my parents.
My 7 yr old bro, who is a menace, doesn't listen to anyone, and doesn't get in trouble for misbehaving. My parents are just too lax with my little brothers. At his age, and even now to some extent, I'm scared of what my parents would do to me if I were to really get out of line.
My 13 yr old bro has got hit maybe once.. and that was around 10 years ago (he doesn't even remember getting hit, he was too young). Right now he's not afraid to curse in front of my parents, which is beyond me. I'm 20 and I still don't feel comfortable enough to curse in front of my parents.
My 7 yr old bro, who is a menace, doesn't listen to anyone, and doesn't get in trouble for misbehaving. My parents are just too lax with my little brothers. At his age, and even now to some extent, I'm scared of what my parents would do to me if I were to really get out of line.
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Belt? Like my dad would ruin a perfectly good belt on us...
No, he had an oak paddle with about 100 holes drilled in it, said "attitude ajustment" in holes. and those words were imprinted on my ass for about two weeks after I flucked up.
My dad made the art of ass whoopin into a science. The paddle design was holed for maximum velocity while still able to pack a punch due to red oaks mass. It was coated with tha thick shallac you find on BB courts for added strength... The grip was a contured bicycle grip for his comfort and control.
Six boys get a little crazy at times...and sometimes we even got caught and my dad not much into talking.
PS my dad's 67 and I think he could still kick my ass. Runs 5 miles a day, golfs everyday 36... six foot five about 250...
No, he had an oak paddle with about 100 holes drilled in it, said "attitude ajustment" in holes. and those words were imprinted on my ass for about two weeks after I flucked up.
My dad made the art of ass whoopin into a science. The paddle design was holed for maximum velocity while still able to pack a punch due to red oaks mass. It was coated with tha thick shallac you find on BB courts for added strength... The grip was a contured bicycle grip for his comfort and control.
Six boys get a little crazy at times...and sometimes we even got caught and my dad not much into talking.
PS my dad's 67 and I think he could still kick my ass. Runs 5 miles a day, golfs everyday 36... six foot five about 250...
Originally posted by: Zebo
Belt? Like my dad would ruin a perfectly good belt on us...
No, he had an oak paddle with about 100 holes drilled in it, said "attitude ajustment" in holes. and those words were imprinted on my ass for about two weeks after I flucked up.
My dad made the art of ass whoopin into a science. The paddle design was holed for maximum velocity while still able to pack a punch due to red oaks mass. It was coated with tha thick shallac you find on BB courts for added strength... The grip was a contured bicycle grip for his comfort and control.
Six boys get a little crazy at times...and sometimes we even got caught and my dad not much into talking.
PS my dad's 67 and I think he could still kick my ass. Runs 5 miles a day, golfs everyday 36... six foot five about 250...
Designer paddles? Lol my dad eats twice as much as i do but at 52 he only weighs 110. About 5'7 to.
Originally posted by: Rogue
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This is a prime example of why physical abuse is still necessary in today's society. I've seen too many teens today who run off at the mouth to authority figures and go so far as to say that they're not scared of their parents because they can "take them." It would be a cold day in hell before I thought that.
a.) kids shouldn't be afraid of their parents, but they should respect them
b.) you shouldn't have to abuse your kids to get them to respect you
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I got the belt and a paddle as a child. I've never laid a hand on my son though in his 2 1/2 years of life so far.
I got hit a couple times, but other than that nothing really. It scares me sometimes with all these ways of "torture". Though I know it does give kids character, I don't think I could let myself hit my own kids if I get any in the future.
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