This is the problem. Death threats are never acceptable. Period. Someone saying "gaming culture is dead" is not a death threat. You may perceive it as an attack on your culture, and it's appropriate to respond with a rebuttal for why that person is full of crap. But death threats are never the answer. If someone said the NFL is on its way out, am I allowed to threaten to kill them? Of course not; that's insane. The point that PA was making is that as soon as you make death threats, you not only undermine your argument, you also become toxic to everyone around you making the same argument. It completely destroys any credibility or opportunity for dialogue. The LAST thing people should do if they want to be taken seriously is try to rationalize the death threats: they weren't that serious, that happens on the internet, she threatened our culture. Bull****. Stop trying to defend the indefensible.
I mean, this is a gaming board, so chances are most people here agree that Sarkeesian and her ilk go way overboard in their critique of gaming culture. But as a mature adult I also know that "she should die" is not an appropriate response. Gamergate dropped the ball by letting the conversation become about death threats and sexism instead of actual issues concerning journalistic ethics, and they've doubled-down on it in here every single time someone tries to rationalize the threats that have been issued. What possible use is there in saying "death threats ensued, yada yada" as though that's some run-of-the-mill thing? It shouldn't be, and it's going to alienate lots of people who might otherwise support the cause.
Everything you said is totally true, but also totally irrelevant. Virtually nobody on the internet thinks death threats are okay or acceptable. But they have nothing to do with gamergate, except that a tremendous number of people are making a tremendous fallacy of blaming them for it.
I could go into another argument about how a tiny fringe of anonymous creeps online don't represent anyone, but it's a lot easier to just point to the vast number of people associated with gamergate who also got death threats. Both men and women, mind you. And if anyone counters this by claiming that the tally is (much?) higher on the anti side, I'd say look into it and decide for yourself. Just because the media doesn't care about one side of it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Here's one example from yesterday:
https://twitter.com/ForemanErik/status/522529173705736192/photo/1
Since the recipient is a male, he gets threats of having his penis cut off as opposed to having something inserted in his vagina (note that Brianna Wu's attacker threatened her husband in a similar way). On the anti-GG woman's side that makes the news as a death threat and rape threat. On the pro-GG side it gets nothing whatsoever. It's hard to blame people for not knowing that these things happen on both sides and regardless of gender, because if you google search for death threats against gamergaters all you get is page after page of Anita Sarkeesian and Brianna Wu, and eventually Zoe Quinn. I only found the above reference buried on reddit. But since I've following it I've seen this happen over and over again.
Furthermore, I have literally seen on at least two occasions anti-GG people blaming GGers for getting death threats based on whom they associate with. The cognitive dissonance is astounding.
Frankly, I've never seen such a widespread media smear campaign based on such a blatantly false narrative in all of my life. Oh, I'm not saying they didn't happen, I was probably just too gullible to realize it. The only consolation in all of this is seeing first hand people start to realize that they're being lied to. Especially when such wisdom comes from unlikely places - I recommend anyone more curious about the issue to read this article from a gamergate opponent:
https://<storify dot com>/LadyFuzztail/gamergate-may-be-a-victim-of-a-false-flag-operati (sigh, another censored link, please fix it)