Yeah divorce sucks.

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DWW

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Getting someone clipped only costs 5-10 thousand if you go to the right biker bar ;)
 

Doboji

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Thats what you get for getting married.

Always obey snoop's law:

We don't love dem hoes.

-Max
 

Pantoot

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Originally posted by: KB
Since his credit is already bad, he should apply for bankruptcy to remove his debts. I am pretty sure that absolves him from back child support payments, but I would check with a lawyer first.

Bankruptcy cannot save you from taxes, student loans, or child support.
 

Lioness

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My husband started cheating the last two year of marriage. I was pregnant and we had two children . He owned several corporations but claimed bankruptcy on the only corp. which exposed our personal assets. He let this corp. slide. He also owed the IRS approximately $125,000 in back taxes and interests regarding this corp. This forced me to claim bankruptcy because we signed many of the same contracts including tax returns. I lost all things of material value, house, vehicle etc. etc. as well as my good credit. My father was dying and eventually died of cancer. And of course we were going through divorce.

I faced, cheating and divorce, pregnancy & birth, bankruptcy, loosing all things of material value, IRS liens with back taxes owed and a death in the family, all within a two year span. .

During these crises I invited my X to attend the birth of his son, as he had with his other children. He attended the birth. Bonding was my objective, however I got much more than I expected from this difficult decision. I decided to put all the pain aside and leave it behind to concentrate solely on what was best for our children, and in doing so, this obviously had to involve fairness to their father. This helped me to think clearly and get through these times of crises. Eventually my ex began to follow suit. To give you an idea of how clearly I was thinking and being fair to all, I wrote up the guidelines to our divorce contract and he signed it without reservation.

Today we have the best relationship of any divorce couple I?ve met. We remain friends and the communication is great. My kids aren?t affected emotionally
 

rh71

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^ having children in the picture changes a lot of things... glad you could use that to your advantage in some way. Doesn't happen often at all... and I can't believe you overcame the cheating part.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: rh71
I was all set to question how a once-married-and-loving couple could whip out a b!tch like that... how can you do that to someone you cared about once before unless he did something like cheat ? How ?

Then you professed #17... the coke addiction. Messed up in the head.

Were they young when they married ? How did this poor guy get involved in someone so wacked that she's using her kids to get money from him ? Is he a saint himself ? Messed up situation... no... I'll call it what it really is... that's some fuct up sh!t. (sorry I love that line).

meh, they change over night. Its like they snap or something and turn into uber bitch. And the funny thing is they see nothing wrong with their behavior. Happens all the time.

A good buddy of mine said it best "Its like they turn into a new person, one you never knew who is bent solely on distroying your life"

Yeah, that about discribes it.
 

thecrecarc

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Originally posted by: Chaotic42
Divorce laws in America are screwed up.

I really hope for the best for your relative, and for a slow and painful death for his ex-wife.


i wish for his ex wife getting a slow painful death then right when shes about to die she magically stop dieing and continiue on the slow painful part but with nowhere to go so she suffers for enternity
 

rh71

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Originally posted by: thecrecarc
Originally posted by: Chaotic42
Divorce laws in America are screwed up.

I really hope for the best for your relative, and for a slow and painful death for his ex-wife.


i wish for his ex wife getting a slow painful death then right when shes about to die she magically stop dieing and continiue on the slow painful part but with nowhere to go so she suffers for enternity
hey i recall wishing that upon some people during HS! I wonder if they ever grew up or made something of themselves.
 

BatmanNate

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Man, if I were in that situation I'd liquidate my assets and flee to a foreign country where I could make a simple living and start anew.
 

GTaudiophile

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I'm 24 now. My parents divorced when I was 19 and a sophomore in college after 26 years of marriage. Yeah, it sucked then, and it still sucks now, though time heals some wounds. My mom has moved on completely, but my dad is still single and b!tches about her almost every day it seems. And things always get worse during Thanksgiving and Christmas!
 

BooGiMaN

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the laws today are screwed up ...a woman can declare you the father of her kid and if you dont contest it...you will have to pay child support

There are stories of guys moving out of their curent address not getting the summons and forced to pay childsupport even if it turns out they are not the father of the kid just because you were not there to contest the fact.

also some guys have paid child support thinking its their kid..when they find out otherwise the courts will not let them get out of paying because they have by initially paying acknowledged its ther kid....

the laws regarding childsupport are truly messed up..and the men will always end up beign the bad guys regardless of the situation....the laws are biased against men and favor women
 

slycat

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Originally posted by: BatmanNate
Man, if I were in that situation I'd liquidate my assets and flee to a foreign country where I could make a simple living and start anew.

yeah but then u may never see your kids again...whom u prolly really love.
 

BatmanNate

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Originally posted by: slycat
Originally posted by: BatmanNate
Man, if I were in that situation I'd liquidate my assets and flee to a foreign country where I could make a simple living and start anew.

yeah but then u may never see your kids again...whom u prolly really love.

In that case, I would forward money through untraceable channels to some unscrupulous recipient to have the EX assassinated in an "accidental" manner. :D
 

slycat

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Originally posted by: Lioness
My husband started cheating the last two year of marriage. I was pregnant and we had two children . He owned several corporations but claimed bankruptcy on the only corp. which exposed our personal assets. He let this corp. slide. He also owed the IRS approximately $125,000 in back taxes and interests regarding this corp. This forced me to claim bankruptcy because we signed many of the same contracts including tax returns. I lost all things of material value, house, vehicle etc. etc. as well as my good credit. My father was dying and eventually died of cancer. And of course we were going through divorce.

I faced, cheating and divorce, pregnancy & birth, bankruptcy, loosing all things of material value, IRS liens with back taxes owed and a death in the family, all within a two year span. .

During these crises I invited my X to attend the birth of his son, as he had with his other children. He attended the birth. Bonding was my objective, however I got much more than I expected from this difficult decision. I decided to put all the pain aside and leave it behind to concentrate solely on what was best for our children, and in doing so, this obviously had to involve fairness to their father. This helped me to think clearly and get through these times of crises. Eventually my ex began to follow suit. To give you an idea of how clearly I was thinking and being fair to all, I wrote up the guidelines to our divorce contract and he signed it without reservation.

Today we have the best relationship of any divorce couple I?ve met. We remain friends and the communication is great. My kids aren?t affected emotionally


yeah..but out of 1 of u, the other 1million are the exact opposite :|