Did you not read the part ""He was happy with a 60k salary and a simple life...". " ? That to me means that he was the type of guy who settles down with that type of lifestyle. Making 60K is not bad at all, but if you want to everything life has to offer then you're not going to settle down with 60k and a simple life.
This isn't about a house or a car, I'm looking at the bigger picture. If i were to date a girl making say, 30K working at k-mart, and she was fine with that, i don't think i'd want to stick with her that long. I want a girl to try and make it big with me, someone to push you to strive harder, "a chick to ride or die with" haha
Bulk Beef
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I would say that dropping a guy b/c he's "blue collar" and he's "happy with a 60k salary and a simple life" is pretty shallow and materialistic, but what really puts this woman over the top is that she's so comfortable with her shallowness and materialism that she would actually say that sh*t.
these are the kinds of woman you run from immediately and tell them to their face why.
Shallow and gold digger don't even begin to touch her distored view of reality.
-edit- Bit of advice to the OP. You'll meet a lot of these at your age and career. I have to dodge them as well.
Shallow and gold digger don't even begin to touch her distored view of reality.
-edit- Bit of advice to the OP. You'll meet a lot of these at your age and career. I have to dodge them as well.
well, the question should be does she want the 150k lifestyle from you or is she gonna go out and get it herself. but from the sound of your post, especially the "..that's what I've grown up with.." she's a golddigger. So yea, forget about her. there are plenty of good "women" out there.
Exactly...what would have happened if you'd said the same thing to her, being in a career where you'd never make that kind of cash, like a teacher or something. I wonder if she would've even seen you the 2nd or 3rd day...
everyone wants a good life for themselves and their children, but even as a single mom, it's WAY down the priority list for me. i want to make sure my ideals and personality are compatible. but if money a high ideal for someone, personally i think that's just shallow. money will never make you happy.
Just my .02...
-TekChik
Wait until that $200,000 a year lifestyle isn't looking so good anymore when she meets a guy that makes millions. She'll probably dump an "aspiring" guy such as yourself for somebody who is already well established anyway. No loss at all here. What a wench.
She's looking to have whatever she wants. If you're going to be a whipped pansy who will provide that for her, then go for it. Otherwise, run away.
Thanks for the advice guys. Its quite validating to see that my interpretations were completely reasonable. I think I was thrown off by the fact that her e-mail was so accusatory and shocking that I started to question whether I was in fact the wrong one. I'm now mad at myself for even questioning my instinct.
You, sir, were not wrong in the least. I feel sorry for the next guy, though...but fortunately that's not your problem.
Always trust your instincts. The fact that she mentioned money (particular figures) TWICE means she's definitely a golddigger. A woman should like/love you for you, not the size of your pocketbook. Good for you :beer:
Ummm... Seems to be a lot of calling her a gold digger and worse...
I gotta ask... Is she on the path to make that kind of money or at least pull in 1/2 of what she wants? If so, then there is nothing wrong with wanting that kind of lifestlye. Especially if she is accustommed to it. If I am not mistaken, there is a large % of marriages that break up cause of money. Getting that sorted and out of the way upfront is a good thing. As opposed to thinking that love is all that matters and finding differently after the knot is tied.
If, as some here seem to think, she is looking for someone to provide her a certain lifestyle and she has no plans on contributing to that lifestlye.. that she just wants a man to give it to her... then it is a good thing that she told you right off the bat so you can find someone not as spoiled and lazy.
the fact that she told you that on the first meeting is a bit shocking, I will admit.
I gotta ask... Is she on the path to make that kind of money or at least pull in 1/2 of what she wants? If so, then there is nothing wrong with wanting that kind of lifestlye. Especially if she is accustommed to it. If I am not mistaken, there is a large % of marriages that break up cause of money. Getting that sorted and out of the way upfront is a good thing. As opposed to thinking that love is all that matters and finding differently after the knot is tied.
If, as some here seem to think, she is looking for someone to provide her a certain lifestyle and she has no plans on contributing to that lifestlye.. that she just wants a man to give it to her... then it is a good thing that she told you right off the bat so you can find someone not as spoiled and lazy.
the fact that she told you that on the first meeting is a bit shocking, I will admit.
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Ummm... Seems to be a lot of calling her a gold digger and worse...
I gotta ask... Is she on the path to make that kind of money or at least pull in 1/2 of what she wants? If so, then there is nothing wrong with wanting that kind of lifestlye. Especially if she is accustommed to it. If I am not mistaken, there is a large % of marriages that break up cause of money. Getting that sorted and out of the way upfront is a good thing. As opposed to thinking that love is all that matters and finding differently after the knot is tied.
If, as some here seem to think, she is looking for someone to provide her a certain lifestyle and she has no plans on contributing to that lifestlye.. that she just wants a man to give it to her... then it is a good thing that she told you right off the bat so you can find someone not as spoiled and lazy.
the fact that she told you that on the first meeting is a bit shocking, I will admit.
umm?
Mentioning money especially salary in any way shape or form on the first couple of dates is a HUGE red flag.
dump her. She's not interested in you.
If nothing else, ask to be $uck buddies and carry your own condoms. Never use ones she provided. She might poke holes in them so she can trap you with a baby.
Never get serious, you'd lose in the end.
If nothing else, ask to be $uck buddies and carry your own condoms. Never use ones she provided. She might poke holes in them so she can trap you with a baby.
Never get serious, you'd lose in the end.
Thanks RagingBITCH and PAnzerIV!
From reading the responses it seems like other people have met this girl too. Or one very similar...
From reading the responses it seems like other people have met this girl too.
Or one very similar...golddigger - yes probably.
she's trying to mask it with "her upbringing" story.
what does she do for a living?
she's trying to mask it with "her upbringing" story.
what does she do for a living?
Markfw
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I think the correct term is "high maintenance", and I know several women like that, and they admit it. They are used to a life of luxury, and want to maintain a "high society" lifestyle. Nothing wrong with that, if that the way YOU want to live. Otherwise you are not compatable. I would never go out with this woman, but she is OK to say what she did. Honesty is allways good.
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Um... well, if she came back with a bad response over email, and you've got two red flags going off after two meetings. then you should probably go with your gut and not waste your time with this "woman".
Seriously, you're late twenties, you're in law school, and she lives some distance away from you. Pass on this one.
Seriously, you're late twenties, you're in law school, and she lives some distance away from you. Pass on this one.
She's graduating law school, but didn't do particularly well and has no plans for a job. She says she doesn't want to work in firm, but something more policy oriented.
Is she Indian too?
well, If she's also graduating from law school she must be smart.
she would only be a gold digger if she was trying to rely on someone one else for money.
if she's capable of affording that kind of lifestyle for herself than she's probably just being
honest about how she feels about that sort of thing. I wouldn't discredit her for it.
my 2cents.
well, If she's also graduating from law school she must be smart.
she would only be a gold digger if she was trying to rely on someone one else for money.
if she's capable of affording that kind of lifestyle for herself than she's probably just being
honest about how she feels about that sort of thing. I wouldn't discredit her for it.
my 2cents.
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