I never thought that I'd be writing one of these posts, but I guess I see the use in asking a group of intelligent, and otherwise regular people this question behind the safety of anonymity.
Before you think otherwise, I am a male in my late twenties - my avatar is just for kicks. Anyhow, I recently had been talking with a woman (I say woman because she's my age as well, and I wanted to distinguish this post from the YAGT threads which seem to be about highschool romances and such). I met this woman through a distant family friend and we seem to hit it off over the phone. Since I had spring break coming up (I'm in my third year of law school), I volunteered to go visit her. She lives in a major city.
When I got there, I stayed at a hotel and we hung out during the 3 days I was there. While it wasn't the most smooth experience, we both admitted that we were at least physically attracted to each other and that we had a lot of things in common, which made is feel comfortable during my stay. However, a few things really struck me:
The first night, however, after having dinner and a few drinks, we started talking about our wants in life. She said, and I quote, "I really want a 150k to 200k lifestyle, because that's what I've grown up with." I brushed it off, assuming that she was saying that because she knew I was going to be working at a prestigious law firm and that was her (awkward way) of showing compatibility.
The next night, at dinner, we talked about past relationships, and she said, "I broke up with my last boyfriend because he was blue collar." I was shocked, but this time probed further, asking "What do you mean?" to which she responded, "He was happy with a 60k salary and a simple life...".
Now, upon returning home to where I live, I let a few days go by and then e-mailed her saying that I enjoyed hanging out with her, but I had a few questions, and then asked her, in a nice way, why she had such an expectation of luxury.
She sent an e-mail accusing me of misconstruing statements and taking things out of context, saying that money has never been a "central figure" in her mind, and that she only mention her Ex as blue-collar to illsutrate their different upbringing.
NOW.....let me ask you. From what she said, and in WHATEVER context she said it, would you agree with me, that I was reasonable in thinking of her as a golddigger?
Before you think otherwise, I am a male in my late twenties - my avatar is just for kicks. Anyhow, I recently had been talking with a woman (I say woman because she's my age as well, and I wanted to distinguish this post from the YAGT threads which seem to be about highschool romances and such). I met this woman through a distant family friend and we seem to hit it off over the phone. Since I had spring break coming up (I'm in my third year of law school), I volunteered to go visit her. She lives in a major city.
When I got there, I stayed at a hotel and we hung out during the 3 days I was there. While it wasn't the most smooth experience, we both admitted that we were at least physically attracted to each other and that we had a lot of things in common, which made is feel comfortable during my stay. However, a few things really struck me:
The first night, however, after having dinner and a few drinks, we started talking about our wants in life. She said, and I quote, "I really want a 150k to 200k lifestyle, because that's what I've grown up with." I brushed it off, assuming that she was saying that because she knew I was going to be working at a prestigious law firm and that was her (awkward way) of showing compatibility.
The next night, at dinner, we talked about past relationships, and she said, "I broke up with my last boyfriend because he was blue collar." I was shocked, but this time probed further, asking "What do you mean?" to which she responded, "He was happy with a 60k salary and a simple life...".
Now, upon returning home to where I live, I let a few days go by and then e-mailed her saying that I enjoyed hanging out with her, but I had a few questions, and then asked her, in a nice way, why she had such an expectation of luxury.
She sent an e-mail accusing me of misconstruing statements and taking things out of context, saying that money has never been a "central figure" in her mind, and that she only mention her Ex as blue-collar to illsutrate their different upbringing.
NOW.....let me ask you. From what she said, and in WHATEVER context she said it, would you agree with me, that I was reasonable in thinking of her as a golddigger?
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