This is going to sound ridiculous. You have been warned.
I went out with this girl for three years, and she was amazing. The best times of my life were spent with her, we were each other's first loves, etc. I never planned for an end to it.
So this year we both go to college, five hours away from wach other. We kept it going, and for a while it was fine. We had been used to some seperation because she lived two hours away from me in the summers. We visited at college, so it wasnt liek we hadn't seen each other for five months.
Two months ago, things started getting a little weird - she started to tell me how it was not ok for me to have girls alone in my room (I live on a coed floor), and she told me she wasnt ok with me drinking.
Instead of trying to talk about it and convince her that these were normal and that I deserved her trust, I was upset that she did not trust me. We would argue for hours on the phone, but somehow I always thought it would work out OK. We stayed together through the arguments, and there were definately bright spots in there.
Fast forward to thanksgiving break. I meet her for coffee and she says that "we can never work again." At the moment, I'm upset with her, so I let it go and dont think anything of it. We talk, and finish out coffees and say goodnight. A few days later, back at school, i call her up and she finally tells me that she has a new boyfriend. I, of course, am stunned, first of all because I thought that we could still work things out, and secondly because even if we were broken up, I thought it would take more time for her to get over our three-year relationship than four days. It certainly is taking me longer.
Anyway being the guy i am, i sent her some emails in which I asked her to think through things and I also asked her to please explain why she did what she did. She just got more angry, and it all came to a head yesterday when she decided to tell me that her family hates me (I always respected and liked them) and they never did think i was good guy, and she hates me and never wants to hear or see from me again. The last words she said to me were "I only have one thing to say to your despicable face before I never see it again...fvck you."
I guess that helped in a way, because I was having a lot of trouble getting over her because i still thought of her as the nicest, sweetest person I had ever known. She was, for a long time. I just don't know where he hostility and everythign came from, and it really confuses me. The worst part, though, is knowing (as she said) that she wil never remember me as a good guy, and will never remember our time together fondly. I always wanted to remember her well, because the time we spent was honestly the best time i have had. We always said that no matter where we go, no matter who we're with, there will be a little part of our hearts that will always remember each other. It makes me feel worse than I have ever felt to know that that is not true for her.
Thanks for listening to my babbling.
Matt
I went out with this girl for three years, and she was amazing. The best times of my life were spent with her, we were each other's first loves, etc. I never planned for an end to it.
So this year we both go to college, five hours away from wach other. We kept it going, and for a while it was fine. We had been used to some seperation because she lived two hours away from me in the summers. We visited at college, so it wasnt liek we hadn't seen each other for five months.
Two months ago, things started getting a little weird - she started to tell me how it was not ok for me to have girls alone in my room (I live on a coed floor), and she told me she wasnt ok with me drinking.
Instead of trying to talk about it and convince her that these were normal and that I deserved her trust, I was upset that she did not trust me. We would argue for hours on the phone, but somehow I always thought it would work out OK. We stayed together through the arguments, and there were definately bright spots in there.
Fast forward to thanksgiving break. I meet her for coffee and she says that "we can never work again." At the moment, I'm upset with her, so I let it go and dont think anything of it. We talk, and finish out coffees and say goodnight. A few days later, back at school, i call her up and she finally tells me that she has a new boyfriend. I, of course, am stunned, first of all because I thought that we could still work things out, and secondly because even if we were broken up, I thought it would take more time for her to get over our three-year relationship than four days. It certainly is taking me longer.
Anyway being the guy i am, i sent her some emails in which I asked her to think through things and I also asked her to please explain why she did what she did. She just got more angry, and it all came to a head yesterday when she decided to tell me that her family hates me (I always respected and liked them) and they never did think i was good guy, and she hates me and never wants to hear or see from me again. The last words she said to me were "I only have one thing to say to your despicable face before I never see it again...fvck you."
I guess that helped in a way, because I was having a lot of trouble getting over her because i still thought of her as the nicest, sweetest person I had ever known. She was, for a long time. I just don't know where he hostility and everythign came from, and it really confuses me. The worst part, though, is knowing (as she said) that she wil never remember me as a good guy, and will never remember our time together fondly. I always wanted to remember her well, because the time we spent was honestly the best time i have had. We always said that no matter where we go, no matter who we're with, there will be a little part of our hearts that will always remember each other. It makes me feel worse than I have ever felt to know that that is not true for her.
Thanks for listening to my babbling.
Matt
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