Have a couple of :beer:'s. Only 4 months? Of semi happiness? LOL, time to take off your panties and go hang out with your friends or something.
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Hyperblaze
Lifer
Damn, that's all that is needed?
FrustratedUser
Lifer
Afraid so....
Hyperblaze
Lifer
Time to hit the bars then!
kranky
Elite Member
It's easy to focus on the negative things at a time like this, but take time to remember what is good.
First, you now know this girl wasn't the one for you, and it only took four months. Some people end up married for years before they come to that realization. You are now farther ahead in finding the right one.
Next, you are talking about one girl out of the billions on the planet. There's no reason to believe that what happened this time is going to always be the case. Every person is different, so don't project what she did onto every other girl. Some are players, but many are not.
Next, remember you benefited from the four month relationship. You will know better how to avoid this type of person in the future, and by your own admission you did have some good times.
Next, don't judge your self-worth by whether or not you have a girlfriend. Breaking up doesn't make you less of a person. When the time is right, it will work out. Don't come down on yourself by the way she broke it off, because that's on her, not you.
Next, don't wish ill on her. That keeps you from getting over it and prolongs your pain. You had a relationship, it's now done. Let her go her way, and you go yours. Nothing wrong with that and it doesn't mean you screwed up. You said "After being hurt like this is just furthers my feelings on how you treat people." That's a good attitude; don't take away from that by dwelling on how you want her to suffer.
Finally, although it's painful now, you can grow as a person from the breakup. You might have done some things in the four months that you will do better in the future. That will make you a better person in your next relationship.
Allow yourself to feel bad at this time because that's normal. You had feelings for her, so of course it will be painful. But it will pass quickly enough.
First, you now know this girl wasn't the one for you, and it only took four months. Some people end up married for years before they come to that realization. You are now farther ahead in finding the right one.
Next, you are talking about one girl out of the billions on the planet. There's no reason to believe that what happened this time is going to always be the case. Every person is different, so don't project what she did onto every other girl. Some are players, but many are not.
Next, remember you benefited from the four month relationship. You will know better how to avoid this type of person in the future, and by your own admission you did have some good times.
Next, don't judge your self-worth by whether or not you have a girlfriend. Breaking up doesn't make you less of a person. When the time is right, it will work out. Don't come down on yourself by the way she broke it off, because that's on her, not you.
Next, don't wish ill on her. That keeps you from getting over it and prolongs your pain. You had a relationship, it's now done. Let her go her way, and you go yours. Nothing wrong with that and it doesn't mean you screwed up. You said "After being hurt like this is just furthers my feelings on how you treat people." That's a good attitude; don't take away from that by dwelling on how you want her to suffer.
Finally, although it's painful now, you can grow as a person from the breakup. You might have done some things in the four months that you will do better in the future. That will make you a better person in your next relationship.
Allow yourself to feel bad at this time because that's normal. You had feelings for her, so of course it will be painful. But it will pass quickly enough.
azazyel
Diamond Member
Alright, time for some friendly advice. One thing you need to get to sink into your brain is that a women will not make you happy. In fact by definition women are frustrating, annoying, incomprehensible and will generally lead to misery. Got it? The next time you see a good looking women I want to remember that. Don't let thoughts of walking on the beach while holding hands enter your brain or anything of that sort of mushy crap. To help with this I suggest going out and buying a CD called Vulgar Display of Power by Pantera. Listen to the song "you take this love" over and over again. Then when your heart stops skipping a beat every time you see a skirt you will know you have made progress. Then you can start entering the arena of women again. But when you do look for sex not relationships and more importantly tell them that is all your interested in. Don't be a jerk about it just be strait up with them about what you want and what you don't want. Infact knowing those two things can be very attractive to the other sex.
FrustratedUser
Lifer
:beer:
Darkstar757
Diamond Member
Thanks Bro
That really ment allot
Im just kind of confused and emotional right now. I am just going to shut down my love factory because I have found when you are nice people f$ck you over. SO WORLD ANOTHER NICE GUY JUST LEFT THE FSCKING BUILDING.
Darkstar757
Diamond Member
i have had 3 serious ones and i have dates lots of women
azazyel
Diamond Member
Hankerton - you are correct. I loved this song when I was in High School.
This Love
If ever words were spoken
Painful and untrue
I said I loved but I lied
In my life
All I wanted
Was the keeping
Of someone like you
As it turns out
Deeper within me
Love was twisted and pointed at you
--Never ending pain, quickly ending life --
(Chorus)
You keep this love, thing, child, toy
You keep this love, fist, scar, break
You keep this love
I'd been the tempting one
Stole her from herself
This gift in pain
Her pain was life
And sometimes I feel so sorry
I regret this the hurting of you
But you make me so unhappy
I'd take my life and leave love with you
--I'd kill myself for you, I'd kill you for myself --
(Chorus)
No more head trips
This Love
If ever words were spoken
Painful and untrue
I said I loved but I lied
In my life
All I wanted
Was the keeping
Of someone like you
As it turns out
Deeper within me
Love was twisted and pointed at you
--Never ending pain, quickly ending life --
(Chorus)
You keep this love, thing, child, toy
You keep this love, fist, scar, break
You keep this love
I'd been the tempting one
Stole her from herself
This gift in pain
Her pain was life
And sometimes I feel so sorry
I regret this the hurting of you
But you make me so unhappy
I'd take my life and leave love with you
--I'd kill myself for you, I'd kill you for myself --
(Chorus)
No more head trips
BlueWeasel
Lifer
*group hug* 😀
Darkstar757
Diamond Member
does anyone have that song they are talking about or a link to it so i can hear it?
Darkstar757
Diamond Member
bleh i need to cut off these sad songs are making me feel worse
KB
Diamond Member
You can't give up on women for one minute because you can't have a heterosexual relationship without them.
To get over her, you should learn from this experience and try to go out there and find another GF. Heck it might even make her jealous and want you back.
There is your problem. Women want to be ignored and mistreated. They like a challenge and want to change a man if they can. If you act like a gentleman then they will lose interest in you and go back with their abuseful EX. I speak from experience. I have been with my girlfriend for 8 years and rarely give her complements, make her pay half of everything(if she can afford it) and ignore her when the TV is on or when I am playing games and she loves me for it. Good luck!
I know many people on here will disagree with me (or even get angry with me) but I wanted to put in my .02.
DarkStar, don't take it the wrong way but the problem is that you were the "perfect gentleman". Always dependable, always there for her, and always predictable. Her ex-boyfriend must have been the jerk who is never dependable, unpredictable, and exciting. Honestly, many girls find guys like you to be marriage material, at best, but nothing more -- but notice I didn't say all.
Listen to the great advice everyone here has given you and pick up a hobbie of your choice. Get out and meet people. Social interaction will help you alleviate your sorrows and remember, it's not the end of the world. There are plenty of women out there and don't be ashamed of being labeled single because that's what you are now. Dwelling on the past will only bring pain and keep in mind that she was not the woman for you.
One question I have is, why did you allow your then-g/f to talk to her ex? Ex's talk to one another because either one side or both sides aren't ready to give up on the feelings they once shared -- or those feelings may still exist. It is NEVER acceptable for a dating couple to allow one another to talk to their ex's because something like this is bound to happen. Take charge and be the man in the relationship, instead of this sissy goody-two-shoes who'll bend over backwards with a lease around your neck. When she says "Jump", the incorrect answer is "How high?".
DarkStar, don't take it the wrong way but the problem is that you were the "perfect gentleman". Always dependable, always there for her, and always predictable. Her ex-boyfriend must have been the jerk who is never dependable, unpredictable, and exciting. Honestly, many girls find guys like you to be marriage material, at best, but nothing more -- but notice I didn't say all.
Listen to the great advice everyone here has given you and pick up a hobbie of your choice. Get out and meet people. Social interaction will help you alleviate your sorrows and remember, it's not the end of the world. There are plenty of women out there and don't be ashamed of being labeled single because that's what you are now. Dwelling on the past will only bring pain and keep in mind that she was not the woman for you.
One question I have is, why did you allow your then-g/f to talk to her ex? Ex's talk to one another because either one side or both sides aren't ready to give up on the feelings they once shared -- or those feelings may still exist. It is NEVER acceptable for a dating couple to allow one another to talk to their ex's because something like this is bound to happen. Take charge and be the man in the relationship, instead of this sissy goody-two-shoes who'll bend over backwards with a lease around your neck. When she says "Jump", the incorrect answer is "How high?".
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