YAGT

[dirtboy]

Realizing your life is better off without her always did it for me.

 

[Darkstar757]

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I know many people on here will disagree with me (or even get angry with me) but I wanted to put in my .02.

DarkStar, don't take it the wrong way but the problem is that you were the "perfect gentleman". Always dependable, always there for her, and always predictable. Her ex-boyfriend must have been the jerk who is never dependable, unpredictable, and exciting. Honestly, many girls find guys like you to be marriage material, at best, but nothing more -- but notice I didn't say all.

Listen to the great advice everyone here has given you and pick up a hobbie of your choice. Get out and meet people. Social interaction will help you alleviate your sorrows and remember, it's not the end of the world. There are plenty of women out there and don't be ashamed of being labeled single because that's what you are now. Dwelling on the past will only bring pain and keep in mind that she was not the woman for you.

One question I have is, why did you allow your then-g/f to talk to her ex? Ex's talk to one another because either one side or both sides aren't ready to give up on the feelings they once shared -- or those feelings may still exist. It is NEVER acceptable for a dating couple to allow one another to talk to their ex's because something like this is bound to happen. Take charge and be the man in the relationship, instead of this sissy goody-two-shoes who'll bend over backwards with a lease around your neck. When she says "Jump", the incorrect answer is "How high?".

Ranger

You sound just like my father and you are truly right. I thank you for taking the time to be honest and respond to this thread. I sometime wish my mother didnt push so hard for me to be a gentlemen because it has made me weak when it comes to women. However I plan on buying a 9mm this weekend and going to the gun range etc. Im sick of being the nice guy and now I plan on taking care of myself first. I will no longer caiter to women the way I once did in the past. I will also not allow a women to get that close to me again for quite a long time. Because I am chirstrian I can just go out and sleep with women whom I dont intend or marrying. Thus my religous stance had created a dependency for a relaionship becuase I could cuddle kiss etc with out breaking the boundaries of my relegion. However at this point I have to step back and close down the shop. Honestly the way men treat women and vice versa today I am starting to think I may never have a family. I refuse to share my life,my passions my fears, my joys with a person who will take this and weild it like how a dumb three year old child holds a knife. In spite a major change of my stance when it comes my manhood needs to happen. So like the lone ranger I step back in the world a cold quite and soon to be gun slanging cowboy(who dont take no sh&t) from no women.

Darkstar

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Kill someone. You'll instantly feel better.

 

[azazyel]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
Ranger

You sound just like my father and you are truly right. I thank you for taking the time to be honest and respond to this thread. I sometime wish my mother didnt push so hard for me to be a gentlemen because it has made me weak when it comes to women. However I plan on buying a 9mm this weekend and going to the gun range etc. Im sick of being the nice guy and now I plan on taking care of myself first. I will no longer caiter to women the way I once did in the past. I will also not allow a women to get that close to me again for quite a long time. Because I am chirstrian I can just go out and sleep with women whom I dont intend or marrying. Thus my religous stance had created a dependency for a relaionship becuase I could cuddle kiss etc with out breaking the boundaries of my relegion. However at this point I have to step back and close down the shop. Honestly the way men treat women and vice versa today I am starting to think I may never have a family. I refuse to share my life,my passions my fears, my joys with a person who will take this and weild it like how a dumb three year old child holds a knife. In spite a major change of my stance when it comes my manhood needs to happen. So like the lone ranger I step back in the world a cold quite and soon to be gun slanging cowboy(who dont take no sh&t) from no women.

Darkstar

I give up....maybe you should go find that Skywalker dude and hang out with him

 

[IHYLN]

YAGT, the only way to go from idiot to a stupid sap on ATOT.

 

[kranky]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757

You sound just like my father and you are truly right. I thank you for taking the time to be honest and respond to this thread. I sometime wish my mother didnt push so hard for me to be a gentlemen because it has made me weak when it comes to women. However I plan on buying a 9mm this weekend and going to the gun range etc. Im sick of being the nice guy and now I plan on taking care of myself first. I will no longer caiter to women the way I once did in the past. I will also not allow a women to get that close to me again for quite a long time. Because I am chirstrian I can just go out and sleep with women whom I dont intend or marrying. Thus my religous stance had created a dependency for a relaionship becuase I could cuddle kiss etc with out breaking the boundaries of my relegion. However at this point I have to step back and close down the shop. Honestly the way men treat women and vice versa today I am starting to think I may never have a family. I refuse to share my life,my passions my fears, my joys with a person who will take this and weild it like how a dumb three year old child holds a knife. In spite a major change of my stance when it comes my manhood needs to happen. So like the lone ranger I step back in the world a cold quite and soon to be gun slanging cowboy(who dont take no sh&t) from no women.

Darkstar

I would suggest that this is the exact wrong time to be making major changes in your behavior.

 

[Darkstar757]

why would you say that?

 

[kranky]

Because being in a highly emotional state isn't conducive to clear thinking.

Aside from that, acting in a way that's not your true nature will make you unhappy.

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
Well after four months of semi happiness I have ha d another bad experience. My girl broke up with me yesterday and left me for her EX. Well after this im done with women and I am taking a serious vacation from them. Do any of you divorced ATOT folks has any idea s of things i can do to keep her off my mind and for me to stay off women period.

I could rant about how much she hurt me but im so numb and hurt blehhh its not even worth it.


Please folks no bashing I need some honest friendly help here.


Darkstar🙁

My friend... listen closely.... THERE ARE SO MANY GOOD FISH IN THE SEA IT'S RIDICULOUS....
You WILL find someone else... I'm willing to bet large sums of money on it... Take a deep breath... KNOW that you will be fine... and begin looking at ways to improve your life as a single person for the couple weeks or less it's going to take you to be completely over it...

-Max

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
Well after four months of semi happiness I have ha d another bad experience. My girl broke up with me yesterday and left me for her EX. Well after this im done with women and I am taking a serious vacation from them. Do any of you divorced ATOT folks has any idea s of things i can do to keep her off my mind and for me to stay off women period.

I could rant about how much she hurt me but im so numb and hurt blehhh its not even worth it.


Please folks no bashing I need some honest friendly help here.


Darkstar🙁

Did you take my advice that I offered in this thread?

Text

-Max

 

[IHYLN]

LOL nice find :thumbsup::beer:

 

[Bleep]

Do Not EVER get involved with a woman that has recently became divorced!!!!
Her and her ex both had issues and you took one of them into your heart. Are you looking for simi happiness? if so you found it, why settle for simi why not full?
It is time for you to grow up and be a man not some wimp that falls apart when things dont go your way. Not much sympathy from here. You made your bed now you have to sleep in it.

Bleep

 

[brigden]

I love it when you emotionally and socially retarded geeks blame women for your relationship woes.

 

[alm4rr]

have sex with her friends
Time tested and proven method

 

[ragazzo]

She had emotional bagage to begin with. You said it yourself: you treated her like a lady, with love and respect. It's not your fault that the relationship ended. You shouldn't be any less confident. It's her loss, not yours. There are plenty of other women out there who want your attention 😉 In the meantime, hobbies, friends, families, travel and EXERCISE. Make yourself even more marketable. And yeah, don't bend over backward everytime your gf asks you to do something. If you think it's a reasonable request, then do it. otherwise, say no.

 

[SickBeast]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
Man you know Life is really hard folks. I mean im very grateful I live in the US and have food, clothes etc. I have fought depression twice in my life and believe me when I tell you that it is one of the hardest things in your life to deal with. With this blow I have lost allot of confidence in myself and how I treat people. I was nothing but a gentlemen with this young lady. She just ups and calls me and says im leaving and thats it. Blehh if i wasnt at work a think I would curl up in a ball and cry my eyes out.(Not that it would help any). After being hurt like this is just furthers my feelings on how you treat people. One day when I do have kids im not going to allow my son or daughter to be a player etc, but to respect other peoples feelings. I did nothing to deserve this treatment and I hope that KARMA's justice is swift and hard.

Dude my first suggestion is to go out and get some counselling. The simple fact that you posted this stuff tells me that you need someone to talk to and someone to listen.

Time will heal your wounds. Go out and enjoy your freedom. You have noone to answer to; enjoy it while it lasts. :beer:

 

[Klixxer]

Well, i am divorced but i dunno if i can help you.

You can do what i have done for a few years i guess, get on with your life and have fun.

I'm on a vacation from relationships, not from women, doubt that would work for you though, you seem to needy so you would just fall into a new relationship.

 

[clamum]

I hear ya. Just broke up with my girlfriend of 1 yr 9 months. :thumbsdown:

 

[HamSupLo]

what happened on getting yourself an azn woman? maybe that might get you out of your funk. And hit the gym hard...aren't you working on getting rid of the man titties?

 

[maxcom]

bacon, biscuits, and gravy

bacon cures all