So I've met this girl and I really enjoy spending time with her... Two days in a row we've watched movies and drank coffee until 4 am and she's a blissfully wonderful girl. I just don't know when to make that move... I feel like it's too soon, even though we've spent very long days together, but worry that if I wait too long we'll slip into total friends mode... i know she loves hanging out with me but I can't figure out if it's cool or creepy to take it to the next level.
YAGT: When to make that move?
- Thread starter slackerinabox
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Which move are you trying to make? A Kiss?
Well don't push her down a flight of stairs if she doesn't feel the same way. Trust me, ladies don't like being pushed down the stairs.
Well don't push her down a flight of stairs if she doesn't feel the same way. Trust me, ladies don't like being pushed down the stairs.
meltdown75
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Go ahead and give it a shot, you'll never know until you try. Might as well lay your intentions out for her to see, you'll avoid confusion later on that way. You can make a lot of moves before 'THE move'. Start small and take it easy! She sounds cool. g/l
You make this "move" thing sound like it is something big. Dude, settle down and just relax. A pushy guy is a guy that won't be getting any anytime soon. You have to be persistent...but pushy?...no.
Tell her you want to go out for some food with her and then possibly do something fun afterwards (I'm not sure where you live, but some activity like putt-putt, bowling, etc would suffice). If she bites, she's probably interested and then you can "make your move" after the end of your first date. If she does not bite or seems reluctant to go out, try to ask her why and figure from there. If she's resistent to the idea, it's probably not looking much further than friends...
BUT DO THIS STUFF SOON before you do become friends.
Tell her you want to go out for some food with her and then possibly do something fun afterwards (I'm not sure where you live, but some activity like putt-putt, bowling, etc would suffice). If she bites, she's probably interested and then you can "make your move" after the end of your first date. If she does not bite or seems reluctant to go out, try to ask her why and figure from there. If she's resistent to the idea, it's probably not looking much further than friends...
BUT DO THIS STUFF SOON before you do become friends.
DivideBYZero
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Do it now. Wait any longer and you'll fear it more. This combined with her thinking you are not interested will result in her putting you on the friend ladder. Again, in turn, this will lead to you getting fvcked, but only in a bad way. 
DivideBYZero
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Modeps
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Just ask her permission to kiss her when you take her home. You might get some P00n out of it!
Truthfully, you just have to make sure she knows your intentions. Make that known with body language and flirting.
Truthfully, you just have to make sure she knows your intentions. Make that known with body language and flirting.
HardcoreRobot
Lifer
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watch a movie at home
sit close together, some sort of body contact, even if its just shoulders touching
if she digs you, it will happen. if she doesnt think of you like that, she will keep her distance
its really simple and happens naturally. if its not obvious its probably not there
sit close together, some sort of body contact, even if its just shoulders touching
if she digs you, it will happen. if she doesnt think of you like that, she will keep her distance
its really simple and happens naturally. if its not obvious its probably not there
DivideBYZero
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Whatever you do dont ask things like this
Can I kiss you or Can I hold your hand?
If she doesnt want you to kiss her, you will know, and by the 3rd date she doesnt want to be kissed you might as well forget it and move on.
Can I kiss you or Can I hold your hand?
If she doesnt want you to kiss her, you will know, and by the 3rd date she doesnt want to be kissed you might as well forget it and move on.
Yeah, sorry for seeming so clueless.. I sound like a 20 year old virgin.. I actually was in a relationship for nearly 7 years so that last time I made a "move" was .. well.. 7 years ago.. so I feel rusty, know what i mean? The girl made the move the last time I hooked up with someone and that was a few months ago..
asking for a kiss seems lame.. we're touchy and feely but she's european so maybe that's just how she is.. i dunno, we did have one of those double hugs last night.. argh, i'm an idiot..
asking for a kiss seems lame.. we're touchy and feely but she's european so maybe that's just how she is.. i dunno, we did have one of those double hugs last night.. argh, i'm an idiot..
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You've posted like 10 threads over the course of the last year or two talking about all those slutty suicide girls and "actresses" you're been wanting to get with (failing, might I add)
Of course it's okay to take it to the next level now. However, if you don't feel comfortable at this time, then don't!
The only issue I already see cropping out is the fact that your lazy behind is going to be sitting in the house for the most part. You're going to get too lazy to go out. The early signs are already showing. If you remember, this was an issue for you in your previous relationship. You can't get too comfortable to move your behind. Well, I guess if this chick is like that too and doesn't have a problem with it, then there's no issue. I just think that you should diversify rather than remain stale.
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