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GroundZero

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Originally posted by: EvilYoda
I don't know you, and I know the women even less, so I won't give you any "advice".

But I will clap my hands for you and say "bravo"...for once, an ATOT YAGT with attractive women. Whichever one you decide to be with...it's not really that bad, is it. ;)

that may be my biggest problem!
both of them are great but, i can't screw up their lives for sex.
the horror of it all! lmao!
it sucks having a good moral code and a conscience.

 

conjur

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Jun 7, 2001
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Well...be sure to let me know which one you don't go with. I'd be more than happy to console her. ;)


But, seriously, why is the 'old' relationship on and off again? Fights? Incompatibility? Fear of commitment? Think that one through before you toss her aside completely for someone you don't know. And, one more thing, if the new one is already introducing you to her kids...well...that's just not a very smart thing to do if you just met.

Oh...and don't 'play' a single mom...esp. if you've met the kids. Don't f*** with the kids' minds.
 

The second one looks like the girl who would skip her pill to get pregnant and then collect!
 

jacob0401

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You keep saying they're both young for you...so exactly how old are you? Just wondering.
 

hzl eyed grl

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Remember that you're not only playing them, but also their kids. Even if you didn't meet them (which it sounds like you did) hurting their mom will definitely affect them.
 

Mandrill

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How old are they? they look real young for you at 34. Bastard ;)

but seriously, I am concerned about the kid thing. It sounds like you've met the kids already. You didn't give a time frame of how long you knew the women before you met the kids. How long was it? IMO a person should always hold off on meeting the kids/being introduced as a boyfriend type thing until you are sure you are wanting to stick around/get serious.
It can really mess with the kids minds if they see daddy or mommy with different partners.
 

GroundZero

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Originally posted by: Mandrill
How old are they? they look real young for you at 34. Bastard ;)

but seriously, I am concerned about the kid thing. It sounds like you've met the kids already. You didn't give a time frame of how long you knew the women before you met the kids. How long was it? IMO a person should always hold off on meeting the kids/being introduced as a boyfriend type thing until you are sure you are wanting to stick around/get serious.
It can really mess with the kids minds if they see daddy or mommy with different partners.

28, and 26 respectively.
mel i had lived with for about 2 years. herr boys are 5 and 9
jill has a 1 1/2 year old boy and a 13 yr old girl. i know she started rreally young.
the boys are my buds! always will be. and they have no illusions as to who i am.
met a sleeping baby basically on the other one. her daughter was out for a sleepover with a frriend for the weekend with herr dad

 

conjur

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Originally posted by: GroundZero
Originally posted by: Mandrill
How old are they? they look real young for you at 34. Bastard ;)

but seriously, I am concerned about the kid thing. It sounds like you've met the kids already. You didn't give a time frame of how long you knew the women before you met the kids. How long was it? IMO a person should always hold off on meeting the kids/being introduced as a boyfriend type thing until you are sure you are wanting to stick around/get serious.
It can really mess with the kids minds if they see daddy or mommy with different partners.

28, and 26 respectively.
mel i had lived with for about 2 years. herr boys are 5 and 9
jill has a 1 1/2 year old boy and a 13 yr old girl. i know she started rreally young.
the boys are my buds! always will be. and they have no illusions as to who i am.
met a sleeping baby basically on the other one. her daughter was out for a sleepover with a frriend for the weekend with herr dad

26 and has a 13 year-old daughter? Damn! That's not young...that's pre-pubescent!! :Q :Q


And, btw, yourr keyboarrd's 'rr' key is sticking. ;)
 

GoingUp

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The new one is amazing... have fun if you want, but dont add another kid to the equation.

Edit: well if the 26 year old has a 13 year old daughter, it should tell you something about her.... as tempting as it is, I would move on.
 

MacGaven

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Again, I want to give you props because you're a bad-ass.

but

Is your name MilfHunter?
 

AnyMal

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So you just met that girl last night and she readily jumped in bed with you...hmmmm.. I think the real question here is what's her agenda? If her previous "record" is of any indication, I would run from her as fast as possible no matter how good she's in the sack. Oh, and you are not ready for a serious relationship if you're asking us who you should be with. Just my $0.02
 

TallBill

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Chose one.. go with the new one.. cuz when things mess up, the old one will still be there. But, not at the same time..
 

TallBill

Lifer
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Originally posted by: AnyMal
So you just met that girl last night and she readily jumped in bed with you...hmmmm.. I think the real question here is what's her agenda? If her previous "record" is of any indication, I would run from her as fast as possible no matter how good she's in the sack. Oh, and you are not ready for a serious relationship if you're asking us who you should be with. Just my $0.02

Realize that they are older... this isnt a high school relationship.
 

Joker81

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Take them both but do staggering so you really won't be playing both.


girl 1: on--off--on--off--etc
girl 2: off--on--off--on--etc

You should go with the new girl cuz it seems like you can always fall back on your old one if need be.
 

Sid59

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you should introduce them to each other and let their kids play together. Tell them the truth and let the party of 2 hot chicks in one bed ensue.
 

KK

Lifer
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Were either of them married at anytime? 13 is a little you to be popping out kids, but she is good looking. Does either one have a decent job?

KK