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SickBeast

Lifer
Jul 21, 2000
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Well, here's the story:

I have a friend who recently showed interest in me, and I reciprocated it. So, we're going to start dating in the very near future. Well, maybe we will anyways.

See, there's a problem. She's best friends with her ex-boyfriend, and she just loves to talk about the guy with me. I've told her that it makes me uncomfortable and that it's inappropriate, but then she gets mad and says "but he's my best friend!". Here's the thing: they're still having sex. So here is this girl, coming onto me, but meanwhile she's off screwing her ex-boyfriend. Not only that, but she expects me to TALK about this person and somehow CARE? Give me a break! She even says she expects me to hang out with the two of them when they're "hanging out" together "as friends".

So. My question is: Does this relationship seem doomed for failure before it even begins? Am I blowing this way out of proportion and getting upset about this for no reason at all?

Any suggestions would be great, and please no flames or trolling.
 
bradruth

bradruth

Lifer
Aug 9, 2002
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She's fvcking this guy and saying you will be going out soon? Yeah, that's not one I'd stick around for.
 
rh71

rh71

No Lifer
Aug 28, 2001
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I never really believed this statement applies, but in this case...

If you have to ask... it doesn't look good.

Seriously ... do you think she will stop thinking about him ? NO.
 
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FrustratedUser

Lifer
Aug 16, 2001
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Originally posted by: SickBeast
Well, here's the story:

I have a friend who recently showed interest in me, and I reciprocated it. So, we're going to start dating in the very near future. Well, maybe we will anyways.

See, there's a problem. She's best friends with her ex-boyfriend, and she just loves to talk about the guy with me. I've told her that it makes me uncomfortable and that it's inappropriate, but then she gets mad and says "but he's my best friend!". Here's the thing: they're still having sex. So here is this girl, coming onto me, but meanwhile she's off screwing her ex-boyfriend. Not only that, but she expects me to TALK about this person and somehow CARE? Give me a break! She even says she expects me to hang out with the two of them when they're "hanging out" together "as friends".

So. My question is: Does this relationship seem doomed for failure before it even begins? Am I blowing this way out of proportion and getting upset about this for no reason at all?

Any suggestions would be great, and please no flames or trolling.
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Hmmm... threesome.
 
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SickBeast

Lifer
Jul 21, 2000
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OK thanks guys. It's obvious, and you all have confirmed what I feared. I'm not going to talk to her anymore. It'll just be awkward getting those emails asking me WTF is going on. Maybe I'll just block her.
 
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Orsorum

Lifer
Dec 26, 2001
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Originally posted by: SickBeast
OK thanks guys. It's obvious, and you all have confirmed what I feared. I'm not going to talk to her anymore. It'll just be awkward getting those emails asking me WTF is going on. Maybe I'll just block her.
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I wouldn't block her outright, I'd explain to her why you don't want to pursue it... then run like hell.
 
Pliablemoose

Pliablemoose

Lifer
Oct 11, 1999
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I don't know what your problem is, if you're secure with yourself, why can't she have friends that she fvcks occasionally? I mean I've been with lots & lots of women since you asked, and I'm making lots of money now & I'm well respected, but that moving away from the original subject that I'm eminently able to answer decisively for you because of my vast experience with relationships & the many many women I've slept with (I didn't mention that did I?). But if you're secure, there's no harm in a woman keeping her old BF that she's slept with because it's all relative, morals are an artificial construct, especially for someone like me.

Have I mentioned I've had exra marital affairs with my wife's friends & how much money I make & how fvcking cool I am?










Cliff notes:

She'll screw around on you, if you're interested in monogamy & exclusivity, you're looking in the wrong place with this one.
 
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qaa541

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Jun 25, 2004
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It's really not worth the trouble. Plenty of other women in the sea. Drop her now before you get steamrolled later. If she is still having sex with her ex, she will never truly be yours. I dont think you are blowing this out of proportion at all. Hell, if I found out a girl I was dating was still having sex with the ex, I'd drop her fast cuz that's a sure sign of (future) drama right here.
 
bradruth

bradruth

Lifer
Aug 9, 2002
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Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
I don't know what your problem is, if you're secure with yourself, why can't she have friends that she fvcks occasionally? I mean I've been with lots & lots of women since you asked, and I'm making lots of money now & I'm well respected, but that moving away from the original subject that I'm eminently able to answer decisively for you because of my vast experience with relationships & the many many women I've slept with (I didn't mention that did I?). But if you're secure, there's no harm in a woman keeping her old BF that she's slept with because it's all relative, morals are an artificial construct, especially for someone like me.

Have I mentioned I've had exra marital affairs with my wife's friends & how much money I make & how fvcking cool I am?
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You forgot the "[/Alkemyst]" for the less informed. ;)
 
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Goosemaster

Lifer
Apr 10, 2001
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Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
I don't know what your problem is, if you're secure with yourself, why can't she have friends that she fvcks occasionally? I mean I've been with lots & lots of women since you asked, and I'm making lots of money now & I'm well respected, but that moving away from the original subject that I'm eminently able to answer decisively for you because of my vast experience with relationships & the many many women I've slept with (I didn't mention that did I?). But if you're secure, there's no harm in a woman keeping her old BF that she's slept with because it's all relative, morals are an artificial construct, especially for someone like me.

Have I mentioned I've had exra marital affairs with my wife's friends & how much money I make & how fvcking cool I am?









Cliff notes:

She'll screw around on you, if you're interested in monogamy & exclusivity, you're looking in the wrong place with this one.
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You have money? Since when? Why was I not informed?
 
Pliablemoose

Pliablemoose

Lifer
Oct 11, 1999
25,195
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Originally posted by: bradruth
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
I don't know what your problem is, if you're secure with yourself, why can't she have friends that she fvcks occasionally? I mean I've been with lots & lots of women since you asked, and I'm making lots of money now & I'm well respected, but that moving away from the original subject that I'm eminently able to answer decisively for you because of my vast experience with relationships & the many many women I've slept with (I didn't mention that did I?). But if you're secure, there's no harm in a woman keeping her old BF that she's slept with because it's all relative, morals are an artificial construct, especially for someone like me.

Have I mentioned I've had exra marital affairs with my wife's friends & how much money I make & how fvcking cool I am?
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You forgot the "[/Alkemyst]" for the less informed. ;)
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Well, I've actually been @ that place in my head a time or 2. Not for some time though. I think the excessive use of alcohol & hallucinogens didn't help me;)
 
mugs

mugs

Lifer
Apr 29, 2003
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Originally posted by: bradruth
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
I don't know what your problem is, if you're secure with yourself, why can't she have friends that she fvcks occasionally? I mean I've been with lots & lots of women since you asked, and I'm making lots of money now & I'm well respected, but that moving away from the original subject that I'm eminently able to answer decisively for you because of my vast experience with relationships & the many many women I've slept with (I didn't mention that did I?). But if you're secure, there's no harm in a woman keeping her old BF that she's slept with because it's all relative, morals are an artificial construct, especially for someone like me.

Have I mentioned I've had exra marital affairs with my wife's friends & how much money I make & how fvcking cool I am?
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You forgot the "[/Alkemyst]" for the less informed. ;)
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Haha. :thumbsup:
 
bradruth

bradruth

Lifer
Aug 9, 2002
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Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Well, I've actually been @ that place in my head a time or 2. Not for some time though. I think the excessive use of alcohol & hallucinogens didn't help me;)
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:Q
 
Pliablemoose

Pliablemoose

Lifer
Oct 11, 1999
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Originally posted by: Goosemaster


You have money? Since when? Why was I not informed?
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I give it away:D

Win Pliablemoose's Money

Originally posted by: bradruth
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Well, I've actually been @ that place in my head a time or 2. Not for some time though. I think the excessive use of alcohol & hallucinogens didn't help me;)
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:Q
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Decades ago, in a galaxy far far away. Glad I lived through it.
 
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