You can either stand up for yourself, your can lay down for her.
In my opinion, you should stand up for yourself. Appologize for not calling, but that is it. You didn't do anything wrong with the other girl, so don't even acknowledge her accusations. You are faithful, so don't even respond to her suggestions with anything other than a denial. You don't have anything to appologize for in that catagory, so don't appologize.
Second, I think this appointed phone call time is crap. Do you put restrictions on her? What if she hadn't been around to receive the call? Does she get demerits for something like that? If you are unhappy with the call situation, now is NOT the time to try and change it, but keep this incident in your head and say something in a few weeks.
R
In my opinion, you should stand up for yourself. Appologize for not calling, but that is it. You didn't do anything wrong with the other girl, so don't even acknowledge her accusations. You are faithful, so don't even respond to her suggestions with anything other than a denial. You don't have anything to appologize for in that catagory, so don't appologize.
Second, I think this appointed phone call time is crap. Do you put restrictions on her? What if she hadn't been around to receive the call? Does she get demerits for something like that? If you are unhappy with the call situation, now is NOT the time to try and change it, but keep this incident in your head and say something in a few weeks.
R
I did say I was going to call, I know I ****** up by not calling and apologized. She then accused me of cheating on her and that is a whole new ball game as far as I am concerned. I am really sorry I didn't call her when I said I would but there is no way in hell she is going to disrespect me by accusing me of cheating. That is way out of line as far as I am concerned. I pride myself on being the guy that everyone trusts because that is just who I am.
A resposibility is making sure your rent is paid. A responsibility is not calling your girlfriend at a specific hour so she doesn't get mad and accuse you of cheating. In the age of cell phones, this is ridiculous anyway, as nothing prevents you from calling from someone else's bed.
And all of the guy friends are boning her, I might add. You don't wanna be the guy everyone trusts, because that's the guy that gets cheated on the most.
who cares, she will get over it... force her to check in with you during her vacation... see if she is able to do it.
He didn't tell her he would call he was told to call when he got home and probably when to get home.
So after that long, she's still accusing you of cheating?
Might be time to bail, or at the very least tell her to stop being such a bitch about you hanging out with female friends.
- M4H
Dude, putting up with this sh*t is going to ruin your relationship, not help it. I put up with this kind of sh*t then blew-up after 9 years of marriage and 2 kids, it almost cost me my family and marriage. After some intense marriage counselling we have a united family again but it will never be the same. Once you let this happen it only gets worse, you repress your feelings, she thinks everything is fine and that it is ok with you. You'll only have yourself to blame in the end because you let it happen.
I'd like to also say that a little jealousy by your girlfriend is a good thing. It's when your girlfriend starts to believe that she could never lose you that things go downhill fast.
But don't let her make you have to prove you're not a cheater after 9 months in a relationship. Tell her calmly that you're really sorry for not calling when you said you would, and that you aren't cheating. Then tell her that you aren't going to listen to any more accusations and want her to really think for an hour about if she truly believes you're that untrustworthy and what that would mean for your relationship. Hang up, and wait for her to call back in 10 minutes apologizing. Respond to her accusations in that manner a couple of times and it'll stop happening.
She's bluffing, and you should call her on it. She doesn't really think you were cheating, but she's insecure and you groveling for an hour will make her feel better. You could take the abuse and calm her fears like she wants, but the problem is that you will fall into a pattern where you always have to do that. I prefer to have a relationship where I don't have to worry that every time I'm late i'll have to prove im not a cheater.
But don't let her make you have to prove you're not a cheater after 9 months in a relationship. Tell her calmly that you're really sorry for not calling when you said you would, and that you aren't cheating. Then tell her that you aren't going to listen to any more accusations and want her to really think for an hour about if she truly believes you're that untrustworthy and what that would mean for your relationship. Hang up, and wait for her to call back in 10 minutes apologizing. Respond to her accusations in that manner a couple of times and it'll stop happening.
She's bluffing, and you should call her on it. She doesn't really think you were cheating, but she's insecure and you groveling for an hour will make her feel better. You could take the abuse and calm her fears like she wants, but the problem is that you will fall into a pattern where you always have to do that. I prefer to have a relationship where I don't have to worry that every time I'm late i'll have to prove im not a cheater.
DainBramaged
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A lot of girls get dissapointed when there guy doesn't call and if your out with another lady and then didn't call she's probably suspicious wether you did anything or not no matter how much she can trust you. If you were just hanging around she probably wouldn't have gotten as upset. She'll get over it.
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