YAGT: the girl I went crazy over

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Kev

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Doboji
Well I sent the following email to the Minnesota State police...

To Whom it may concern,

I am a subscriber to an online discussion forum where we discuss
everything from dating, to politics.

Recently I came across a very disturbing post from a member, about a
female the poster was interested in. Below is a link to the post.
I'm not sure what the appropriate action to take here is. But I would
consider myself derelict if I didnt at least pass this information on
to someone.

The poster appears to be a Steve Gjerdingen from the Twin Cities area.
I myself am from the Washington DC area....

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1365764
(cut and paste the above into your browser)

Thank you for your time,

wow, you out-idioted the OP. what a sh*tty thing to do
 

BladeWalker

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Aug 31, 2002
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Originally posted by: Doboji
Doboji, many young men (or boys) go through phases like Steve. Whether they become stalkers is another matter altogether. You can't report someone on presumption. Cops will just laugh at you.

BTW Steve, women suck at closure. Get on with your life. Move on.

Perhaps... I never went through this stage... don't know anyone else who did either... there's something very wrong here...

Who knows... maybe the police already have a file on this guy? How much police work would it take to at least call the kid up and ask whats going on. That alone might be enough to help this situation.

If everyone says nothing though, and we read about it in the paper a few months from now... then we'll all feel like dog sh!t.

-Max

I have a friend (happily married with two kids right now) who went through that phase also. He is normal otherwise. Any obsessive behavior is unhealthy and it took quite a bit of convincing from me and some other friends to get him out of it. Time is a good healer also. What Steve needs are support from his friends (I hope to God he has some) and other activities to keep him busy.
 

bobbybe01

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May 30, 2004
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Although the following song was heralded as one of the wedding anthems for the 80's, it was more fitting for this type of situation:

Every breath you take
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I'll be watching you

Every single day
Every word you say
Every game you play
Every night you stay
I'll be watching you

O can't you see
You belong to me
How my poor heart aches with every step you take

Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you

Since you've gone I been lost without a trace
I dream at night I can only see your face
I look around but it's you I can't replace
I keep crying baby please

Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you
 

daveymark

Lifer
Sep 15, 2003
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Originally posted by: bobbybe01
Although the following song was heralded as one of the wedding anthems for the 80's, it was more fitting for this type of situation:

Every breath you take
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I'll be watching you

Every single day
Every word you say
Every game you play
Every night you stay
I'll be watching you

O can't you see
You belong to me
How my poor heart aches with every step you take

Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you

Since you've gone I been lost without a trace
I dream at night I can only see your face
I look around but it's you I can't replace
I keep crying baby please

Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you



Where's puffy?
 

mAdMaLuDaWg

Platinum Member
Feb 15, 2003
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Originally posted by: BladeWalker
Originally posted by: Doboji
Doboji, many young men (or boys) go through phases like Steve. Whether they become stalkers is another matter altogether. You can't report someone on presumption. Cops will just laugh at you.

BTW Steve, women suck at closure. Get on with your life. Move on.

Perhaps... I never went through this stage... don't know anyone else who did either... there's something very wrong here...

Who knows... maybe the police already have a file on this guy? How much police work would it take to at least call the kid up and ask whats going on. That alone might be enough to help this situation.

If everyone says nothing though, and we read about it in the paper a few months from now... then we'll all feel like dog sh!t.

-Max

I have a friend (happily married with two kids right now) who went through that phase also. He is normal otherwise. Any obsessive behavior is unhealthy and it took quite a bit of convincing from me and some other friends to get him out of it. Time is a good healer also. What Steve needs are support from his friends (I hope to God he has some) and other activities to keep him busy.

If he had friends, I REALLY doubt he would be posting the same topic about the same girl 100x times under different screenames. Either he is just a troll who has nothing better to do than make-up stupid posts or this is serious. From the semantics of his posts, I'm beginning to believe the latter.
Anyway, if he is joking, I think its hightime he comes clean because this could become real serious for him.
 

SP33Demon

Lifer
Jun 22, 2001
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Dude, she was busy giving dirty Sancho's and gettin' donkey punched by Latino's, because there's no biz like Ecuadoe biz (i.e. gettin' tossed while studying abroad). Your lack of confidence, experience, and high femininity makes you about as eligible to mate with this girl as William Hung and Jennifer Garner. Get over it, you aren't mating material. But there's still hope yet, I heard that Planned Parenthood is still looking for a Birth Control posterboy. ;)
 

Rookie

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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
I have come to the conclusion that there needs to be a seperate forum for YAGTs.



I second that... I need an entertainment thread!
 

Honkus

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Jan 3, 2003
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That girl has no obligation whatsoever to respond to your prodding, dramatic, attention-whorish email . The thing that scares me the most is the fact that you don't see it that way. You have become, without a doubt, the most pathetic example of a human being I have ever seen. This has gone beyond pity, beyond aggravation. You are the bouyant turd in this girl's toilet bowl that just won't flush down. Do this girl a big favor and get the fvck out of her life. She doesn't deserve this kind of treatment.

Yours in hate,
Honkus
 

booger711

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Jun 15, 2004
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this is already pathetic enough, i say we end this thread. skywalkers got enough attention already
 

Shelly21

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May 28, 2002
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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: bR
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
I have come to the conclusion that there needs to be a seperate forum for YAGTs.

Text

I know about YAGT.org. I meant that since people insist on posting their YAGTs here, sometimes as well as YAGT and sometimes despite YAGT, we might as well make a forum on it.

And it was more of a joke than anything else :laugh:

He posts there already, or used to.
 

Stark

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Jun 16, 2000
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ok skywalker, listen up.

You blew it with this girl. Move on. She thinks you're weird and she's too nice to blow you off. I've been in your shoes, as have most nice guys who develop the sort of "obsession from afar" you've described.

So drop it.

Now, it's time to learn from your mistakes.

1. Never wimp out and give up control. They should have taught you in your college about the husband's role leaders of the household and the wife's different role in the marriage.

when you wrote this:
1) have i burned any bridges with you? in terms of ever having a chance at
appearing really attractive in your eyes? or.. 2) did i lack something from
the beginning? and if so, what was that? dont worry, this kind of information
in the long run will only help me, not hurt me.
by the way, hows everything going?
you were essentially saying "I don't have the capacity to lead you. In any future relationship you may have with me, I will be dependent on you. I am weak and needy."

Not a good way to earn points with a strong Christian girl. She's looking for a guy who she can entrust her spiritual, emotional, and financial future with. Not a wuss who can't even ask her out without turning into a pile of over-emotional goo.

2. Avoid obsessive-type relationships. Find a girl you get along well with and develop a relationship naturally. You need to spend time with someone and develop a friendship that can turn into a marriage. Fantasy girls never make good wives in real life.

3. Be cool. Like Fonzie. Girls don't hate dorks, only uncool dorks.

4. Never send the girl another email. Anything more and you will make her fear you and tell everyone around her that you are scarry. You don't need that kind of rep at your tiny college. Drop it now and she may take it as a compliment and let you off easy.
 

Ilmater

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Jun 13, 2002
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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
I have come to the conclusion that there needs to be a seperate forum for YAGTs.
There just needs to be a different thread for YAGTs for ages under 21. Maybe some 20-year-olds have their sh1t together, but they can't drink, so this is just another place where they need to grow up more first.

I'm sorry OP, but that's just sad. You have to learn that if you ask a girl out that you haven't seen in quite some time at random that you're going to freak her out. First, you shouldn't have done that (should have thanked God she took it as well as she did). Second, you shouldn't have sent that response. She's in Ecuador, you haven't seen her face-to-face for at least quite a few months, and you expected her to act differently?

If you get an inkling to e-maiil her agian, why don't you post it here first and get some logical people to read it over first. You've pretty much ruined any chance you have the way it is, so I would leave it alone unless she replies.
 

TuxDave

Lifer
Oct 8, 2002
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On the other side of things, how did your other project go? The one where you said you were going find a group of guy friends?
 

rnmcd

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May 2, 2000
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Originally posted by: skywalker66
Hey, you guys remember that deal about that girl that I liked awhile back, right?

Anyways, to refresh ur minds, or if you havent heard:
We used to work at a dairy queen together for one summer. I had only 3 shifts with her, but I swear she was the most beautiful girl I'd ever met. Then, the summer went by and I didnt see her or get a chance to ask her out and college started that fall, so i quit that job.
For now I'm just going to refer to her as Linda, thats not her real name, but u get the idea.

Anyways, after a year at a community college i transfer into the college I'm currently at. Which is a private Christian college. I found out she was going there, which is both a good and a bad thing. I learn a little bit about her, she seems like the perfect girl, and lets just say that I developed a bit of an obsession about her.

Well, I didnt think to ask her out before she left for Ecuador when she studied abroad 2nd semester. But I figured I would shoot her an email just to see if she checks it, and then i could talk to her through there while she was gone.

She replied back, said she would be checking it. so I sent her a couple emails, she replied to the first one but not the 2nd. then she sent out a few mass-audience emails (updates on her trip sent to like 30 people)

Anyways, I decided to just drop the bomb, tell her that I liked her and asked her if she wanted to hang out any time after she got back. Here's how the email went that I sent her:


Hey Linda,

I just wanted to tell you that you are a super attractive girl (in more ways
than one) and that you seem to be very successful at life.
I am both in a semi-romantic trance (I had a crush on you since them Dairy
Queen days) and I am envious of your seemingly perfect ways. If you care to
hang out at all (after you get back of course) just let me know. I definately
wouldnt mind getting to know you better and while thats happening, maybe learn
a few of your tips at life.
So, let me know what you think! (soon after you read this, preferably)

Sincerely,
Steve

PS: please dont share this email with other people, regardless of how, ironic,
funny, or scary it may seem, it took a LOT (and I mean unbelievably insane
crazy amount) of guts to write! And please note, the email is dead serious,
even if you may think otherwise.



She said this:
"hey steve-
how are you? um, thank you for your email, it was very nice, i was really
surprised to get it! well, it would be fun to hang out in a group of some sort
when i get back. im not too sure what you mean by that, i enjoy being friends
with you. i hope this semester is treating you well, hasta luego! -Linda"
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so yea, not the best response...

after that I sent her this email:
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hey Linda,
how are you? its good to hear that you are having a good time out there in
ecuador. it sounds like you are really growing from this experience!
say, i was going to ask you a few questions:
1) have i burned any bridges with you? in terms of ever having a chance at
appearing really attractive in your eyes? or.. 2) did i lack something from
the beginning? and if so, what was that? dont worry, this kind of information
in the long run will only help me, not hurt me.
by the way, hows everything going?

--your friend in Christ, Steve
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unfortunately I received no response. I waited 3 weeks then sent another email out and still none, the wussy girl didnt reply back with anything! I wanted to hear at least something from her, instead of dead silence. Heck, it would have been alright if she just said, "steve, I do not want to answer your questions"
ANYTHING! But no, nothing.

Well I didnt see her until she came back at the end of the year and I only saw her for a brief instant (since she was going someplace) and i didnt get a chance to ask her about the email she didnt reply to.


Well, now it is summer, and this crap is just infuriating me, infuriating me to no degree, the fact that theres been no communication between me and her since December except for those few lousy emails.

Anyways, if anything I just want to ask her what she thought about the 2nd email. And I want to know now. I know what church she goes to (since she told me) and yea we obviously both dont live too far from each other, so I could easily stop by her church on a Sunday morning, say hi to her there, and then ask her this question, about why she didnt respond.

And if she wants to hang out sometime before this summer is over, then great. If not, then oh well, I'll count my losses and move on. It would just be nice if she told me where my shortcomings were, so I could have a basis for improvement with girls in the future.


Anyways, do you guys say that:

1) I risk it, and show up to her church on one of these sundays (I've been there a few times before, its a nice church and they have a good pastor) ? Or will that make her call the stalker police on me?

2) Should I just wait until the school year starts when I bump into her at school, and then ask her about the email she didnt reply to? (and believe me, waiting until school starts will be a LONG month, I want to ask her now if at all possible)

3) Or should I just not bring it up at all, count my losses, consider any hope with her gone for a lifetime, and save face while I still can?


This thing is really ailing me. What should I do?

Dude, this IS an awesome post. It reminds me of myself back in the day, when a great looking girls could knock your aunt connie's sock off and keep you mesmerized in just the thought of her for, what seemed to be, all time.

All I have to say is don't be deterred from doing this again in the future. You only live once. Matter of fact, go right up to this girl, put it on the line and have her tell you yes or no. You will be so happy for an answer.

Who does she look like? I love the womens.
 

xchangx

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Mar 23, 2000
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quote:

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Originally posted by: Doboji
Well I sent the following email to the Minnesota State police...


quote:

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To Whom it may concern,

I am a subscriber to an online discussion forum where we discuss
everything from dating, to politics.

Recently I came across a very disturbing post from a member, about a
female the poster was interested in. Below is a link to the post.
I'm not sure what the appropriate action to take here is. But I would
consider myself derelict if I didnt at least pass this information on
to someone.

The poster appears to be a Steve Gjerdingen from the Twin Cities area.
I myself am from the Washington DC area....

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1365764
(cut and paste the above into your browser)

Thank you for your time,

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wow, you out-idioted the OP. what a sh*tty thing to do

I'm agreeing with Kev here. Kid just has some girl problems.
 

PanzerIV

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Dec 19, 2002
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Originally posted by: TuxDave
On the other side of things, how did your other project go? The one where you said you were going find a group of guy friends?

Last I heard he and the Catholic priests were getting along famously!