Originally posted by: skywalker66
Hey, you guys remember that deal about that girl that I liked awhile back, right?
Anyways, to refresh ur minds, or if you havent heard:
We used to work at a dairy queen together for one summer. I had only 3 shifts with her, but I swear she was the most beautiful girl I'd ever met. Then, the summer went by and I didnt see her or get a chance to ask her out and college started that fall, so i quit that job.
For now I'm just going to refer to her as Linda, thats not her real name, but u get the idea.
Anyways, after a year at a community college i transfer into the college I'm currently at. Which is a private Christian college. I found out she was going there, which is both a good and a bad thing. I learn a little bit about her, she seems like the perfect girl, and lets just say that I developed a bit of an obsession about her.
Well, I didnt think to ask her out before she left for Ecuador when she studied abroad 2nd semester. But I figured I would shoot her an email just to see if she checks it, and then i could talk to her through there while she was gone.
She replied back, said she would be checking it. so I sent her a couple emails, she replied to the first one but not the 2nd. then she sent out a few mass-audience emails (updates on her trip sent to like 30 people)
Anyways, I decided to just drop the bomb, tell her that I liked her and asked her if she wanted to hang out any time after she got back. Here's how the email went that I sent her:
Hey Linda,
I just wanted to tell you that you are a super attractive girl (in more ways
than one) and that you seem to be very successful at life.
I am both in a semi-romantic trance (I had a crush on you since them Dairy
Queen days) and I am envious of your seemingly perfect ways. If you care to
hang out at all (after you get back of course) just let me know. I definately
wouldnt mind getting to know you better and while thats happening, maybe learn
a few of your tips at life.
So, let me know what you think! (soon after you read this, preferably)
Sincerely,
Steve
PS: please dont share this email with other people, regardless of how, ironic,
funny, or scary it may seem, it took a LOT (and I mean unbelievably insane
crazy amount) of guts to write! And please note, the email is dead serious,
even if you may think otherwise.
She said this:
"hey steve-
how are you? um, thank you for your email, it was very nice, i was really
surprised to get it! well, it would be fun to hang out in a group of some sort
when i get back. im not too sure what you mean by that, i enjoy being friends
with you. i hope this semester is treating you well, hasta luego! -Linda"
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so yea, not the best response...
after that I sent her this email:
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hey Linda,
how are you? its good to hear that you are having a good time out there in
ecuador. it sounds like you are really growing from this experience!
say, i was going to ask you a few questions:
1) have i burned any bridges with you? in terms of ever having a chance at
appearing really attractive in your eyes? or.. 2) did i lack something from
the beginning? and if so, what was that? dont worry, this kind of information
in the long run will only help me, not hurt me.
by the way, hows everything going?
--your friend in Christ, Steve
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unfortunately I received no response. I waited 3 weeks then sent another email out and still none, the wussy girl didnt reply back with anything! I wanted to hear at least something from her, instead of dead silence. Heck, it would have been alright if she just said, "steve, I do not want to answer your questions"
ANYTHING! But no, nothing.
Well I didnt see her until she came back at the end of the year and I only saw her for a brief instant (since she was going someplace) and i didnt get a chance to ask her about the email she didnt reply to.
Well, now it is summer, and this crap is just infuriating me, infuriating me to no degree, the fact that theres been no communication between me and her since December except for those few lousy emails.
Anyways, if anything I just want to ask her what she thought about the 2nd email. And I want to know now. I know what church she goes to (since she told me) and yea we obviously both dont live too far from each other, so I could easily stop by her church on a Sunday morning, say hi to her there, and then ask her this question, about why she didnt respond.
And if she wants to hang out sometime before this summer is over, then great. If not, then oh well, I'll count my losses and move on. It would just be nice if she told me where my shortcomings were, so I could have a basis for improvement with girls in the future.
Anyways, do you guys say that:
1) I risk it, and show up to her church on one of these sundays (I've been there a few times before, its a nice church and they have a good pastor) ? Or will that make her call the stalker police on me?
2) Should I just wait until the school year starts when I bump into her at school, and then ask her about the email she didnt reply to? (and believe me, waiting until school starts will be a LONG month, I want to ask her now if at all possible)
3) Or should I just not bring it up at all, count my losses, consider any hope with her gone for a lifetime, and save face while I still can?
This thing is really ailing me. What should I do?