YAGT: the girl I went crazy over

[Banana]

Good god! You obsessed about this girl for 2 years?!

I'll count my losses and move on. It would just be nice if she told me where my shortcomings were, so I could have a basis for improvement with girls in the future.

You should've made a move on her, or moved on long ago, and
No, girls don't tell you what your shortcomings are. Not usually anyway. Finding out for yourself is part of the growing experience.

 

[DougK62]

You've barely communicated with her. YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS GIRL. How can you be so infatuated? All you want her for is to screw her - don't try to play it up as anything else.

Seek professional help immediately.

 

[Doboji]

Well I sent the following email to the Minnesota State police...

To Whom it may concern,

I am a subscriber to an online discussion forum where we discuss
everything from dating, to politics.

Recently I came across a very disturbing post from a member, about a
female the poster was interested in. Below is a link to the post.
I'm not sure what the appropriate action to take here is. But I would
consider myself derelict if I didnt at least pass this information on
to someone.

The poster appears to be a Steve Gjerdingen from the Twin Cities area.
I myself am from the Washington DC area....

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1365764
(cut and paste the above into your browser)

Thank you for your time,

 

[bobbybe01]

Originally posted by: Doboji
Well I sent the following email to the Minnesota State police...

To Whom it may concern,

I am a subscriber to an online discussion forum where we discuss
everything from dating, to politics.

Recently I came across a very disturbing post from a member, about a
female the poster was interested in. Below is a link to the post.
I'm not sure what the appropriate action to take here is. But I would
consider myself derelict if I didnt at least pass this information on
to someone.

The poster appears to be a Steve Gjerdingen from the Twin Cities area.
I myself am from the Washington DC area....

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1365764
(cut and paste the above into your browser)

Thank you for your time,

Are you serious?????

 

[Doboji]

Are you serious?????

yes

 

[bobbybe01]

Originally posted by: Doboji

Are you serious?????

yes

Here ya go bud

 

[shopbruin]

i've only read through page one, and already your emails to her and your responses have utterly infuriated me as a female. if you ever emailed stuff like this to me and then posted that you hate me guts i would so never speak to you again. you don't deserve a girl with your attitude.

Originally posted by: skywalker66
Anyways, after a year at a community college i transfer into the college I'm currently at. Which is a private Christian college. I found out she was going there, which is both a good and a bad thing. I learn a little bit about her, she seems like the perfect girl, and lets just say that I developed a bit of an obsession about her.

A LITTLE? aren't you the king of YAGT's here?

Well, I didnt think to ask her out before she left for Ecuador when she studied abroad 2nd semester. But I figured I would shoot her an email just to see if she checks it, and then i could talk to her through there while she was gone.

She replied back, said she would be checking it. so I sent her a couple emails, she replied to the first one but not the 2nd. then she sent out a few mass-audience emails (updates on her trip sent to like 30 people)

ok that's a nice way to keep up communication. but....

Anyways, I decided to just drop the bomb, tell her that I liked her and asked her if she wanted to hang out any time after she got back. Here's how the email went that I sent her:


Hey Linda,

I just wanted to tell you that you are a super attractive girl (in more ways
than one) and that you seem to be very successful at life.
I am both in a semi-romantic trance (I had a crush on you since them Dairy
Queen days) and I am envious of your seemingly perfect ways. If you care to
hang out at all (after you get back of course) just let me know. I definately
wouldnt mind getting to know you better and while thats happening, maybe learn
a few of your tips at life.
So, let me know what you think! (soon after you read this, preferably)

Sincerely,
Steve

PS: please dont share this email with other people, regardless of how, ironic,
funny, or scary it may seem, it took a LOT (and I mean unbelievably insane
crazy amount) of guts to write! And please note, the email is dead serious,
even if you may think otherwise.

ok fine it took a lot of guts. but you were... slightly frightening in this letter (yes girlstalker66). if i read a letter like this i'd be like "wtf did i do to deserve a weirdo stalking me after three emails.

She said this:
"hey steve-
how are you? um, thank you for your email, it was very nice, i was really
surprised to get it! well, it would be fun to hang out in a group of some sort
when i get back. im not too sure what you mean by that, i enjoy being friends
with you. i hope this semester is treating you well, hasta luego! -Linda"
--------------------------

aka I AM NOT INTERESTED. please drop the subject. i'm not comfortable one on one with you, therefore i only want to see you in a group and then FROM THERE. but FRIENDS FIRST.

so yea, not the best response...

or not the response you wanted.

after that I sent her this email:
------------------
hey Linda,
how are you? its good to hear that you are having a good time out there in
ecuador. it sounds like you are really growing from this experience!
say, i was going to ask you a few questions:
1) have i burned any bridges with you? in terms of ever having a chance at
appearing really attractive in your eyes? or.. 2) did i lack something from
the beginning? and if so, what was that? dont worry, this kind of information
in the long run will only help me, not hurt me.
by the way, hows everything going?

--your friend in Christ, Steve
-----------------------

this is the stupidest email i have ever read in my entire friggin life. "have i burned any bridges with you?" how many times have you talked to her? could you NOT TELL from the first email she was NOT INTERESTED IN YOU AT THE TIME but was actually willing to hang out with you in a group of friends? you go to a chrisitan school, go to the same bible study or something. and yes you do lack something, the ability NOT to stalk this poor girl. she's studying abroad in ecuador and now she has a friggin stalker to come home to. you just made yourself look uber desperate in this response and i wouldn't respond either.

unfortunately I received no response. I waited 3 weeks then sent another email out and still none, the wussy girl didnt reply back with anything! I wanted to hear at least something from her, instead of dead silence. Heck, it would have been alright if she just said, "steve, I do not want to answer your questions"
ANYTHING! But no, nothing.

you scared her off.

Well I didnt see her until she came back at the end of the year and I only saw her for a brief instant (since she was going someplace) and i didnt get a chance to ask her about the email she didnt reply to.

girlstalker66

Well, now it is summer, and this crap is just infuriating me, infuriating me to no degree, the fact that theres been no communication between me and her since December except for those few lousy emails.

you scared the bloody hell out of her. you wonder WHY she's not responding to you? you were extremely stalkerish in every email you sent her, from your declaration of your romantic trance but yet you did this all over email... barring the circumstances of course.

Anyways, if anything I just want to ask her what she thought about the 2nd email. And I want to know now. I know what church she goes to (since she told me) and yea we obviously both dont live too far from each other, so I could easily stop by her church on a Sunday morning, say hi to her there, and then ask her this question, about why she didnt respond.

STOP STALKING HER! she obviously does not want any contact with you right now so don't initiate by GOING TO HER DAMN CHURCH especially if you don't go to the same one. and asking her "OMG WHY ARE YOU NOT RESPONDING TO MY DECLARATIONS OF LOVE" would get a slap in the face from me.

And if she wants to hang out sometime before this summer is over, then great. If not, then oh well, I'll count my losses and move on. It would just be nice if she told me where my shortcomings were, so I could have a basis for improvement with girls in the future.

i can tell you your shortcomings right here. you don't have any confidence and latch on to girls way too damn easily. and when they don't respond the way YOU want, because all girls should love you as you love them, you get desperate. desperation does not get you girls. attitude change needed.

Anyways, do you guys say that:

1) I risk it, and show up to her church on one of these sundays (I've been there a few times before, its a nice church and they have a good pastor) ? Or will that make her call the stalker police on me?

STALKER POLICE. like i said, its not normal for you, and she'll know you're following her.

2) Should I just wait until the school year starts when I bump into her at school, and then ask her about the email she didnt reply to? (and believe me, waiting until school starts will be a LONG month, I want to ask her now if at all possible)

if you're so damn intent on following her, try to get into the same activities of her (clubs, etc) and stop obsessing.

3) Or should I just not bring it up at all, count my losses, consider any hope with her gone for a lifetime, and save face while I still can?

you have no face left. you already scared her off. might as well not talk to her and move on.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Doboji

Are you serious?????

yes

:beer:

 

[PanzerIV]

Originally posted by: bobbybe01

Originally posted by: Doboji
Well I sent the following email to the Minnesota State police...

To Whom it may concern,

I am a subscriber to an online discussion forum where we discuss
everything from dating, to politics.

Recently I came across a very disturbing post from a member, about a
female the poster was interested in. Below is a link to the post.
I'm not sure what the appropriate action to take here is. But I would
consider myself derelict if I didnt at least pass this information on
to someone.

The poster appears to be a Steve Gjerdingen from the Twin Cities area.
I myself am from the Washington DC area....

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1365764
(cut and paste the above into your browser)

Thank you for your time,

Are you serious?????

I wasn't joking in my earlier post that this guy displays classic serial killer tendencies based upon this and past posts. He reminds me Richard Speck a lot. I doubt the police will do anything on Doboji's email alone but he can't say he didn't make it known.

 

[BladeWalker]

Doboji, many young men (or boys) go through phases like Steve. Whether they become stalkers is another matter altogether. You can't report someone on presumption. Cops will just laugh at you.

BTW Steve, women suck at closure. Get on with your life. Move on.

 

[apac]

How many more YAGT threads will it take before the term "skywalkered" is coined?

 

[HardcoreRobot]

Originally posted by: PanzerIV

Originally posted by: bobbybe01

Originally posted by: Doboji
Well I sent the following email to the Minnesota State police...

To Whom it may concern,

I am a subscriber to an online discussion forum where we discuss
everything from dating, to politics.

Recently I came across a very disturbing post from a member, about a
female the poster was interested in. Below is a link to the post.
I'm not sure what the appropriate action to take here is. But I would
consider myself derelict if I didnt at least pass this information on
to someone.

The poster appears to be a Steve Gjerdingen from the Twin Cities area.
I myself am from the Washington DC area....

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1365764
(cut and paste the above into your browser)

Thank you for your time,

Are you serious?????

I wasn't joking in my earlier post that this guy displays classic serial killer tendencies based upon this and past posts. He reminds me Richard Speck a lot. I doubt the police will do anything on Doboji's email alone but he can't say he didn't make it known.

He also displays the tendencies of a dumbass. He hasn't made any threats, hes just an emotional retard. No need to call the police...

 

[Doboji]

Doboji, many young men (or boys) go through phases like Steve. Whether they become stalkers is another matter altogether. You can't report someone on presumption. Cops will just laugh at you.

BTW Steve, women suck at closure. Get on with your life. Move on.

Perhaps... I never went through this stage... don't know anyone else who did either... there's something very wrong here...

Who knows... maybe the police already have a file on this guy? How much police work would it take to at least call the kid up and ask whats going on. That alone might be enough to help this situation.

If everyone says nothing though, and we read about it in the paper a few months from now... then we'll all feel like dog sh!t.

-Max

 

[Chrono]

OMFGWTFWATERMELONSWITHTHEBBQ.

You are dumb. Telling her that you like her obviously going to disturb/scare her. WTF were you thinking? You deserve no g/f.

Learn from your mistakes then carry on from there.

 

[captains]

Originally posted by: xcript
#4 - become a serial killer.

She can be your first victim.

:thumbsup:

 

[mAdMaLuDaWg]

Originally posted by: Doboji

Doboji, many young men (or boys) go through phases like Steve. Whether they become stalkers is another matter altogether. You can't report someone on presumption. Cops will just laugh at you.

BTW Steve, women suck at closure. Get on with your life. Move on.

Perhaps... I never went through this stage... don't know anyone else who did either... there's something very wrong here...

Who knows... maybe the police already have a file on this guy? How much police work would it take to at least call the kid up and ask whats going on. That alone might be enough to help this situation.

If everyone says nothing though, and we read about it in the paper a few months from now... then we'll all feel like dog sh!t.

-Max

:thumbsup:

 

[halik]

what the #@$%@#$%

girlstalker66 = teh weirdo
At some point one of her friends will kick your ass...

 

[ragazzo]

:shakes fist:
LISTEN TO FRESIA!

Originally posted by: freesia39
i've only read through page one, and already your emails to her and your responses have utterly infuriated me as a female. if you ever emailed stuff like this to me and then posted that you hate me guts i would so never speak to you again. you don't deserve a girl with your attitude.

Originally posted by: skywalker66
Anyways, after a year at a community college i transfer into the college I'm currently at. Which is a private Christian college. I found out she was going there, which is both a good and a bad thing. I learn a little bit about her, she seems like the perfect girl, and lets just say that I developed a bit of an obsession about her.

A LITTLE? aren't you the king of YAGT's here?

Well, I didnt think to ask her out before she left for Ecuador when she studied abroad 2nd semester. But I figured I would shoot her an email just to see if she checks it, and then i could talk to her through there while she was gone.

She replied back, said she would be checking it. so I sent her a couple emails, she replied to the first one but not the 2nd. then she sent out a few mass-audience emails (updates on her trip sent to like 30 people)

ok that's a nice way to keep up communication. but....

Anyways, I decided to just drop the bomb, tell her that I liked her and asked her if she wanted to hang out any time after she got back. Here's how the email went that I sent her:


Hey Linda,

I just wanted to tell you that you are a super attractive girl (in more ways
than one) and that you seem to be very successful at life.
I am both in a semi-romantic trance (I had a crush on you since them Dairy
Queen days) and I am envious of your seemingly perfect ways. If you care to
hang out at all (after you get back of course) just let me know. I definately
wouldnt mind getting to know you better and while thats happening, maybe learn
a few of your tips at life.
So, let me know what you think! (soon after you read this, preferably)

Sincerely,
Steve

PS: please dont share this email with other people, regardless of how, ironic,
funny, or scary it may seem, it took a LOT (and I mean unbelievably insane
crazy amount) of guts to write! And please note, the email is dead serious,
even if you may think otherwise.

ok fine it took a lot of guts. but you were... slightly frightening in this letter (yes girlstalker66). if i read a letter like this i'd be like "wtf did i do to deserve a weirdo stalking me after three emails.

She said this:
"hey steve-
how are you? um, thank you for your email, it was very nice, i was really
surprised to get it! well, it would be fun to hang out in a group of some sort
when i get back. im not too sure what you mean by that, i enjoy being friends
with you. i hope this semester is treating you well, hasta luego! -Linda"
--------------------------

aka I AM NOT INTERESTED. please drop the subject. i'm not comfortable one on one with you, therefore i only want to see you in a group and then FROM THERE. but FRIENDS FIRST.

so yea, not the best response...

or not the response you wanted.

after that I sent her this email:
------------------
hey Linda,
how are you? its good to hear that you are having a good time out there in
ecuador. it sounds like you are really growing from this experience!
say, i was going to ask you a few questions:
1) have i burned any bridges with you? in terms of ever having a chance at
appearing really attractive in your eyes? or.. 2) did i lack something from
the beginning? and if so, what was that? dont worry, this kind of information
in the long run will only help me, not hurt me.
by the way, hows everything going?

--your friend in Christ, Steve
-----------------------

this is the stupidest email i have ever read in my entire friggin life. "have i burned any bridges with you?" how many times have you talked to her? could you NOT TELL from the first email she was NOT INTERESTED IN YOU AT THE TIME but was actually willing to hang out with you in a group of friends? you go to a chrisitan school, go to the same bible study or something. and yes you do lack something, the ability NOT to stalk this poor girl. she's studying abroad in ecuador and now she has a friggin stalker to come home to. you just made yourself look uber desperate in this response and i wouldn't respond either.

unfortunately I received no response. I waited 3 weeks then sent another email out and still none, the wussy girl didnt reply back with anything! I wanted to hear at least something from her, instead of dead silence. Heck, it would have been alright if she just said, "steve, I do not want to answer your questions"
ANYTHING! But no, nothing.

you scared her off.

Well I didnt see her until she came back at the end of the year and I only saw her for a brief instant (since she was going someplace) and i didnt get a chance to ask her about the email she didnt reply to.

girlstalker66

Well, now it is summer, and this crap is just infuriating me, infuriating me to no degree, the fact that theres been no communication between me and her since December except for those few lousy emails.

you scared the bloody hell out of her. you wonder WHY she's not responding to you? you were extremely stalkerish in every email you sent her, from your declaration of your romantic trance but yet you did this all over email... barring the circumstances of course.

Anyways, if anything I just want to ask her what she thought about the 2nd email. And I want to know now. I know what church she goes to (since she told me) and yea we obviously both dont live too far from each other, so I could easily stop by her church on a Sunday morning, say hi to her there, and then ask her this question, about why she didnt respond.

STOP STALKING HER! she obviously does not want any contact with you right now so don't initiate by GOING TO HER DAMN CHURCH especially if you don't go to the same one. and asking her "OMG WHY ARE YOU NOT RESPONDING TO MY DECLARATIONS OF LOVE" would get a slap in the face from me.

And if she wants to hang out sometime before this summer is over, then great. If not, then oh well, I'll count my losses and move on. It would just be nice if she told me where my shortcomings were, so I could have a basis for improvement with girls in the future.

i can tell you your shortcomings right here. you don't have any confidence and latch on to girls way too damn easily. and when they don't respond the way YOU want, because all girls should love you as you love them, you get desperate. desperation does not get you girls. attitude change needed.

Anyways, do you guys say that:

1) I risk it, and show up to her church on one of these sundays (I've been there a few times before, its a nice church and they have a good pastor) ? Or will that make her call the stalker police on me?

STALKER POLICE. like i said, its not normal for you, and she'll know you're following her.

2) Should I just wait until the school year starts when I bump into her at school, and then ask her about the email she didnt reply to? (and believe me, waiting until school starts will be a LONG month, I want to ask her now if at all possible)

if you're so damn intent on following her, try to get into the same activities of her (clubs, etc) and stop obsessing.

3) Or should I just not bring it up at all, count my losses, consider any hope with her gone for a lifetime, and save face while I still can?

you have no face left. you already scared her off. might as well not talk to her and move on.

 

[bobbybe01]

This movie could be too good to be true

or

this one 🙁

 

[dxkj]

Lol, from that post you sound like a real "friend in Christ". Until she gets busy and doesnt respond to an email.


Send her like 30 emails saying the same thing over and over. That will work well.

 

[pyonir]

Holy fvck you are pathetic.

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Move on. She already gave you an answer: she doesn't like you "that way" and doesn't want to answer your questions. Cut your losses and save face.

I hate this woman. Her not responding to me was incredibally rude. I hate her with a passion. I am going to be disgusted sick at seeing her at my college next fall.

This is not resolved. I need to resolve this somehow. I need to front her about how much of a rude bitch she is for not responding. There has to be someway that I can do this.

paging dr Freud....

on the sidenote, using the term "friend in Christ" in any way, shape or form will most likely preclude you from having any kind of relation with A woman.

 

[y2kc]

reminds me of an old Doobie Brothers tune.

------------------------------------------------------
He came from somewhere back in her long ago
The sentimental fool don?t see
Tryin? hard to recreate
What had yet to be created once in her life

She musters a smile
For his nostalgic tale
Never coming near what he wanted to say
Only to realize
It never really was

She had a place in his life
He never made her think twice
As he rises to her apology
Anybody else would surely know
He?s watching her go

But what a fool believes he sees
No wise man has the power to reason away
What seems to be
Is always better than nothing
And nothing at all keeps sending him...

Somewhere back in her long ago
Where he can still believe there?s a place in her life
Someday, somewhere, she will return
----------------------------------------------------------

leave her alone. say nothing to her... please.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: pyonir
Holy fvck you are pathetic.

Yup.

 

[Kev]

Originally posted by: Ketteringo

Originally posted by: nd
Maybe your e-mails were mistakingly flagged as Spam by a faulty filter. You should probably re-send your e-mail to her every few days with slightly different wording just to make sure she got it.

This sounds like the way to go.

You also might want to try sending it from different email addresses, with different subject lines.

and print out the email addresses and send them to her home.

then make one of those pretty collage letters where you use clippings from magazine titles.