YAGT: So she wants to get engaged......bad...

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Just let her know how you feel, the ball will be in her court after that.

But it won't stop her from pressuring me to conform....and it won't stop her from wanting to stay over EVERY night. I've been pretty firm in letting her know how I feel, but she doesn't ever honor that....every time I think about it, it makes me realize that maybe she's not the one.

So what? My gf wants to stay over, or for me to stay over there every night. I tell her I can't, and that's that. No pressure. Maybe you shouldn't date children. 😛

 

[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: toekramp

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey
Tell her you aren't ready. If she can't deal, she's not the one.

That's what I did....then I came back to work to get some stuff done in the office while she pouts and cries.

She's pregnant.

That's kind of a dick move, leaving her while she's ballin'. But she is being unreasonable, so I don't blame you.

LOL....she's not pregnant.

Have you tested lately?

Yes...she just got off her period Sunday. Considering I've been busy with exams, it's highly unlikely....

what you mean is it's highly unlikely YOU got her pregnant

Good point....Yeah....I'd hope that if she is, it belongs to someone else.... The last thing I need is child support payments.

 

[toekramp]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey
How much college does she have left? Tell her it'd be better if you two discussed the marriage thing when she finishes. The better her GPA, the better the bling.

She's basically a sophmore at this point....she's got probably 3+ years left. I think she wants a candlelight ceremony in her sorority....it's something they do when they get engaged....totally wanting it for the wrong reasons....though she does really love me- 😕

sorostitues are scary

 

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey
How much college does she have left? Tell her it'd be better if you two discussed the marriage thing when she finishes. The better her GPA, the better the bling.

She's basically a sophmore at this point....she's got probably 3+ years left. I think she wants a candlelight ceremony in her sorority....it's something they do when they get engaged....totally wanting it for the wrong reasons....though she does really love me- 😕

That's stupid. Offer to fly her to vegas to get married by Elvis. If she says no, then she just wants the wedding for the wedding. :evil:

 

[CrazyDe1]

Originally posted by: bobbybe01
You little bitch, most of us here can't even get a gf, and you're complaining bc some chick wants to be with you?!

Seriously...I would just have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Lay the cards out on the table. Let her know that you respect how she feels and that you do love her. Evaluate yourself and see if there is really any reason why you wouldn't be ready to get married...

This is retarded...

What reason is there to get married? Just to say that you're married? As long as you're together what does marriage change except make things final forever?

If she was the right one and he was ready to be married there'd be no doubt in his mind and he'd have done it already. Evaluating yourself and deciding you should get married is f*ckin stupid...

 

[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Just let her know how you feel, the ball will be in her court after that.

But it won't stop her from pressuring me to conform....and it won't stop her from wanting to stay over EVERY night. I've been pretty firm in letting her know how I feel, but she doesn't ever honor that....every time I think about it, it makes me realize that maybe she's not the one.

So what? My gf wants to stay over, or for me to stay over there every night. I tell her I can't, and that's that. No pressure. Maybe you shouldn't date children. 😛

I think that's the trick....she's young, but doesn't know it. I hate that.

 

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Just let her know how you feel, the ball will be in her court after that.

But it won't stop her from pressuring me to conform....and it won't stop her from wanting to stay over EVERY night. I've been pretty firm in letting her know how I feel, but she doesn't ever honor that....every time I think about it, it makes me realize that maybe she's not the one.

So what? My gf wants to stay over, or for me to stay over there every night. I tell her I can't, and that's that. No pressure. Maybe you shouldn't date children. 😛

I think that's the trick....she's young, but doesn't know it. I hate that.

Me too, that's why I date a woman. 😎

 

[TheLonelyPhoenix]

Tell her exactly what you posted. 🙂 That you're not ready for the commitment and you want to be completely and totally sure of it when the time comes.

And if she doesn't think you're worth waiting on, well... would you really want to marry someone like that anyway?

 

[thirdlegstump]

Don't worry man. It's just that time of the month.

 

[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Just let her know how you feel, the ball will be in her court after that.

But it won't stop her from pressuring me to conform....and it won't stop her from wanting to stay over EVERY night. I've been pretty firm in letting her know how I feel, but she doesn't ever honor that....every time I think about it, it makes me realize that maybe she's not the one.

So what? My gf wants to stay over, or for me to stay over there every night. I tell her I can't, and that's that. No pressure. Maybe you shouldn't date children. 😛

I think that's the trick....she's young, but doesn't know it. I hate that.

Me too, that's why I date a woman. 😎

I've dated women that were like that too.... I dated a 28 year old accountant when I was 22. She made around $60gs a year.... It was nice cause she bought me some awesome Bday presents and knew her way around a mattress. (though wasn't trashy) But alas....she got mushy on me too and wanted me to committ.....and it wasn't that serious on my end because of the age difference. I'm just not ready to settle down....I have too many good years and not enough milage on these tires to cash it in. 😉

 

I've been going out with my gf for almost 1 year and 10 months.... She wants to get engaged....bad. She started crying tonight and asking me if I thought she was the one or what. I don't know what to tell her cause I'm not ready for that yet....of course I let her know. She's 19 and will turn 20 in 2 months just before our 2 year anniversary of being bf/gf. I'm 24. What should I do? I seriously haven't even thought about getting married or even engaged yet. I feel like I'm too young and not ready for the committment....but she's been pressuring me since last year.

Isn't she the one that I remember you saying you were afraid she was pregnant, but you had no intent to stay with her? Well, if that's the case, that's pretty impressive that you were able to stay with her for 1 year and 10 months. However, if you don't feel ready to be engaged, then don't. Just be upfront about it with her, and be willing to bear the consequences if she feels it's worth breaking up the relationship over this issue. Obviously in that case, her priority is different from yours. Also, if you tell her that you aren't prepared to commit, at least give her some hopes if you do think she's likely the one that you will spend the rest of your life with ... I mean some tentative period. But never give in to pressure. Marriage is a serious thing to commit to; and it is not to be taken lightly, even if it's an engagement.

 

[TheLonelyPhoenix]

Originally posted by: DearQT
Isn't she the one that I remember you saying you were afraid she was pregnant, but you had no intent to stay with her? Well, if that's the case, that's pretty impressive that you were able to stay with her for 1 year and 10 months.

Latex > *.

 

[Corn]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
.....though wasn't trashy............

Bummer, eh?

 

[ragazzo]

she's way too young for marriage. a few years down the road and she'll question her life and accomplishments. then she'll say that she didn't meet enough guys and she regrets that. finally, divorce and you pay child support. nice, ey?

 

[ragazzo]

if you're brave, you can just get engaged with her now and then tell her you'll marry her after she graduates. voila, you've just bought yourself 3 more years.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: ragazzo
if you're brave, you can just get engaged with her now and then tell her you'll marry her after she graduates. voila, you've just bought yourself 3 more years.

Why lie ? why take somebody's good years away from them ?

 

[StageLeft]

You do know what to do. That's obvious in your first post. You just don't know HOW to do it. You know that you should not get engaged yet, but you know it will be hard to tell her. But, you have to. Remember, and this is important, that if she acts bitchy and breaks up with you over it, it was the best thing you ever did. 1 year and 10 months I can understand pressure if you're 30, or 40, but she's 20, God what is she in a rush for?

 

[Cobalt]

Originally posted by: OulOat
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[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: cobalt

Originally posted by: OulOat
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You mean improper? 😛 I know what you're saying though.... 😉

 

[EvilYoda]

wow...24 and 20 and she's been pushing for a year? That's rather disturbing really...I could never, ever, see myself agreeing to something like that so early. Some people just know, but even then, I'd give myself to live life a little before anchor's away.

good luck with that 😉

 

[Cobalt]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: cobalt

Originally posted by: OulOat
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You mean improper? 😛 I know what you're saying though.... 😉

^^

EDIT: But seriously if you aren't ready, tell her. I don't think I or anyone else has anything left to say other than what's been said.

 

[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
wow...24 and 20 and she's been pushing for a year? That's rather disturbing really...I could never, ever, see myself agreeing to something like that so early. Some people just know, but even then, I'd give myself to live life a little before anchor's away.

good luck with that 😉

Well....I'm a decent guy that's about to graduate. I have a solid job, a nice car, truck, boat, and I just bought a house. I like to travel and do all kinds of fun things... She's lived a sheltered life and I can see that she sees me as living part of the american dream? She's got a younger brother and sister at home since her mother remarried and she wants to get out of THAT situation. But she's never really had to stand on her own two feet...it makes me wonder if she'd survive without having so many people help her out. I still don't know how driven she is, but I'm happy that she's at least taking college classes and trying to work her way through since her parents don't seem to care enough to help.

 

[Shame]

1. Buy her a kitten.
2. If she keeps mentioning marriage, buy her another kitten.
3. Repeat as necessary. She'll either figure it out, or will turn into one of those freaky cat women. 😛

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: ragazzo
she's way too young for marriage. a few years down the road and she'll question her life and accomplishments. then she'll say that she didn't meet enough guys and she regrets that. finally, divorce and you pay child support. nice, ey?

Bingo! This is EXACTLY what happens in the majority of marriages that start this young, especially if the girl is in college.
She'll be all in love for a few years, and after college, at some point she'll start to think that she settled down too soon, and that'll be that.

19 is too young, that fact that she "pouts and cries" when you took off is evidence enough.

You'd have been much better off with that 28 year old you dated before, assuming you were ready, too. 6 years is nothing, and the older you get, the less an age difference matters.

 

[DaiShan]

You started dating her when she was 17 and you were 22? There is your problem. Don't date high school girls esp after you have graduated college... You're probably her first long term relationship. Seriously tho go find someone who is a bit more mature...