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YAGT: Should I ask if we're still cool? [update] She IMed me...

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Originally posted by: SithSolo1
Nope, I get too nervous. The only reason I was with this one is because she approached me(I still don't know why). One of my roommates hasn't had a girl(or sex) since HS but does talk to girls. The other one has a girl but won't do anything with her. Then I have a pimp master friend that gets any girl he wants. I need to go downtown more but they've been really cracking down lately on fakes.
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Who cares... just go up to every girl you see... ugly, pretty, whatever... just make friends. don't even worry about rejection or whatever... just go have fun. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: boyRacer
Originally posted by: SithSolo1
Nope, I get too nervous. The only reason I was with this one is because she approached me(I still don't know why). One of my roommates hasn't had a girl(or sex) since HS but does talk to girls. The other one has a girl but won't do anything with her. Then I have a pimp master friend that gets any girl he wants. I need to go downtown more but they've been really cracking down lately on fakes.
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Who cares... just go up to every girl you see... ugly, pretty, whatever... just make friends. don't even worry about rejection or whatever... just go have fun. 🙂
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Ditto.

Every guy thinks he is going to ask for a relationship with every girl he talks to.

You just want to be friends first. Then you get to know their friends and their friends. Then eventually you feel very at home with a bunch of girls. Then it is nothing. You will not be stressing out and you will be very natural with them. Then if one you like more go and pursue her. If not you are still with a bunch of girls.

You need to be comfortable with girls. Once that is done you are set.

Koing

 
What I need to do is just have a huge AT kegger and invite all of you "ladies men" down here one weekend. Then we can all go downtown and reap the sweet rewards of this college town. That would be a blast. 😉
 
Originally posted by: SithSolo1
What I need to do is just have a huge AT kegger and invite all of you "ladies men" down here one weekend. Then we can all go downtown and reap the sweet rewards of this college town. That would be a blast. 😉
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Better yet, let's move the party over to Ann Arbor. Then I wouldn't have to drive so far.

But, about asking if you're still cool, do not (repeat: not) do it. It's the one thing that always seems to totally rub girls the wrong way. Seriously, I'm not sure why, but "confirming" the status of a relationship that's already on the rocks isn't too good of an idea.

Take comfort in the fact that she's still talking to you. My advice however, is to TRY to forget about her, as a strained online conversation doesn't really bode well for her hooking up with you in the future.
 
you can't change history. live with it as you don't have another possiblility. believe me, been there done that. get yourself a "what did we learn today?", learn from it and forget about the rest. life is a sume of your expirience.... you added bigtime this time around:beer:
 
Over the years, I?ve learned it if you want it a little less, it?ll come to you. Don?t chase it in desperation, it?ll move away from you. Besides, there are billions to bat at, so why obsessing? Look around, my friend. My sense is that she?s not that into you. Based on what you described above, I don?t mean to say this, but chances are you?re already creeping her out.
 
People here sure aren't nice to these relationship problems.

I would NEVER come to ask here...I think everyone treats you like you're a stalker/idiot.

Sometimes people are just overenthusiastic about a girl. Heck, if she was digging him, she might have liked how much he called. You never know.

It's just safter to play it cool - harder when you're excited, but safer.
 
Here's my general rule for calling girls. If it's their move next, no matter what the reason, DO NOT CONTINUE TO CALL THEM. Example: you leave her a message saying, "call me", the ball is now in her court. If she calls you back, that's good. If not, she probably doesn't want to and you should just forget it. Now possibly she didn't get your message for whatever reason, so just to make sure, I'd wait a reasonable amount of time (NOT one or two days) and try again. If she still doesn't call you back, forget it.
 
Forget about her. You worship her as if she was your wife. She isn't worth the pain you're going through. Go out there and find someone new.
 
No. Don't ask if you are still cool. Wait and see if she calls you or IMs you or whatever. If she doesn't talk to you for a week or two, call her and apologize and ask if you can be friends. I've been through something like this, except this girl pretty much ignored me whenever I tried to talk to her on AIM, for the whole summer, until I couldn't handle it any more and got pissed at her. Then I realized that she wasn't real to me, and hadn't been for weeks... That's what happens when you think about someone all the time and she never ever talks to you (though she says she likes you). It hurt to remember when she was real. I explained this to her, and she understood, and I IMed her a few times after that, but no more. I'm satisfied with the relative closure. She's had some other guy that she ignores as well, but he actually got to talk to her on the phone. Imagine that.

What I want to know is, how can you like someone and have no problem talking to him one or two times a week, and ignore him when you do talk?

Don't feel bad about it. Everyone has a breaking point. Mine is a couple months. My friend's is 6 months and counting. Yours is 6 days, which certainly makes it alot easier. Look at it as a learning experience, and know that at least you didn't let her screw around with you. She made you believe she liked you, then ignored you for a week and you let her know that you wouldn't take head games.

 
WoW, I thought this had died. omg, people really do care. 😀

Anyway, the ball is in her court. She's got a month before I call her back and let her know whats on my mind. :evil: j/k
 
LOL . . .

take innitivie
send her roses and tell her you miss her. = )

Nothing to loose

how is that for an ice breaker.

You been away from her long enough and she isnt with anyone so why not try again.

Worse thing that can happen . . . you dont talk to her which is where you are anyway.

proflowers has a sale for 24 roses and vase for 39.99 check deal site for info.
 
For the love of GOD! let the thread die. If you guys keep replying I'll have no reason to bump it next week. 😉
 
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