SithSolo1
Diamond Member
Ok, last night I snapped. I just couldn't take it anymore.
Setup: Met girl last day of school. Went out 3 times. She left town to go to another school 3hrs from here. Before she left we were talking daily for about 6 days. She told me to call/IM her once she got up to school. After she left I called her the day she got up there(a Thursday). She was really busy so I said i would call back some other time. Called her again Friday left a message just to see what was up. Nothing, voice mail. Called Monday to see how classes went. Nothing, voice mail.
Events of last night:Called last night a few times. 1st time from my phone. Nothing, let it ring 4 times and hung up. 2nd time 20-30mins later from roommates phone. Nothing, let it ring 4 times. 30-40mins later she calls roommates phone back, he said he had dialed the wrong number. Called her back about 15 mins later from my phone. Rings 4 times and voice mail picks up. *SNAP* I flipped out relatively speaking. My message is as follows: "Hey Ash, its J. Just checking to see if your alive. If you call me back thats great, if not thats ok too. I just wish I knew one way or the other. Hope to see you next year, probably won't though. Thats ok, anyway bye." 15mis later I get a voice mail from her: "Hey J, its Ashley. I see that you been trying to call me quite a bit(3 times in 6 days). Sorry you haven't gotten me I've just been reeeaally busy. Ya know with school starting back and all, I don't have much time to talk. So uh, yeah just calling back to see what you need. Uh, if you catch me thats cool. I'll probably be doing HW or something. bye." So I called her back and apologized for the message. I told her I had had a bad day and that Calculus was kicking my ass. I asked her how classes were going and she said well. She told me she was sorry for not calling but she'd been really busy meeting everyone since its a small school and that she's in a lot of activities. She said she usually busy for the first half of the year and that the first 2 weeks are the worst. I told her not to worry that it was my fault and that I should have know she'd be busy. She told me she had been planning to call me but she just hadn't found the time. As we ended the conversation I told her I would call her later and she told me weekends were the best time, so I told her I would call Sat or Sun. She said Sun was better because she'd be busy with choir practice Sat. And so I parted with an "I call you later."
Why I snapped:1) I am not used to people not calling me back within a few hours to a day. All my friends call me back after a few hours. Family is the same way. If I don't hear back from people I start to think the worst. Its a habit, I don't know why or when I started doing this but I do it all the time. So you can see not hearing from her in 6 days was driving me insane. Maybe she lost her phone, maybe she hates me though I don't know why, maybe she's in the hospital, maybe etc.
2) If she was too "busy" to call me back why did she call my roommate back who she doesn't even know?
What I got from her attitude in the phone call and the message: From the message I got that she was angry, confused, protective, and unsure. From the phone call I got that she still cared(though not as much as the first few times I called her).
What I predict will happen:I will call her Sunday. She won't pick up. I'll leave her a message telling her to call me back. I will never hear from nor see her again. :brokenheart:
Summary: Met girl, went out a few times, talked for a while. Told me to call/IM her after she was gone. Called girl 3 times in 6 days. Never called my phone back but did return roommates "wrong number call" back. I called left last hope message. She left me message saying I call a lot and her life is too busy to call me back. I called her back, we talked. I told her I would call back, she told me Sunday is best day. We'll see what happens.
EDITED Update:
I talked to her online yesterday, we didn't say much but it was better than nothing and a lot more than I had expected. Leaving that message was probably the stupidest thing I have done in my life and I would give anything to take it back. I would destroy my custom build computer. I would give up my pampered life style, anything. Anyway, I just want to know if I should ask her if we are still friends but I don't know if its the right thing to do. 🙁
EDITED Update 2:
Well, she IM'ed me out of the blue yesterday:
Her: "Hey, how r u?"
Me:"finr, how are you?"
2mins go by
M:"So what have you been up too?"
1min goes by
H:"great!!!!!!!!"
H:"i've been really busy"
M:"what have have you been busy with?"
5mins go by
H:"school and clubs"
H:"brb"
2mins go by
M:"Hey, I'm gonna go grab some lunch with a friend. ttyl(tonight)"
End of conversation. Now, she IMed me. I haven't called her or IM'd her in 5 days. So it was looking good, until the long pauses between her replies. I mean wtf. If you're busy don't start a conversation with someone through IM. I haven't talked to her since yesterday so I'll see if I can talk to her tonight. I was gonna ask her if you she wanted to come down for our football party but I don't know if that would be the best idea. Maybe I should ask if she would mind me coming up there. Forgive any spelling errors as I'm not on my computer so I don't have spcheck.
Setup: Met girl last day of school. Went out 3 times. She left town to go to another school 3hrs from here. Before she left we were talking daily for about 6 days. She told me to call/IM her once she got up to school. After she left I called her the day she got up there(a Thursday). She was really busy so I said i would call back some other time. Called her again Friday left a message just to see what was up. Nothing, voice mail. Called Monday to see how classes went. Nothing, voice mail.
Events of last night:Called last night a few times. 1st time from my phone. Nothing, let it ring 4 times and hung up. 2nd time 20-30mins later from roommates phone. Nothing, let it ring 4 times. 30-40mins later she calls roommates phone back, he said he had dialed the wrong number. Called her back about 15 mins later from my phone. Rings 4 times and voice mail picks up. *SNAP* I flipped out relatively speaking. My message is as follows: "Hey Ash, its J. Just checking to see if your alive. If you call me back thats great, if not thats ok too. I just wish I knew one way or the other. Hope to see you next year, probably won't though. Thats ok, anyway bye." 15mis later I get a voice mail from her: "Hey J, its Ashley. I see that you been trying to call me quite a bit(3 times in 6 days). Sorry you haven't gotten me I've just been reeeaally busy. Ya know with school starting back and all, I don't have much time to talk. So uh, yeah just calling back to see what you need. Uh, if you catch me thats cool. I'll probably be doing HW or something. bye." So I called her back and apologized for the message. I told her I had had a bad day and that Calculus was kicking my ass. I asked her how classes were going and she said well. She told me she was sorry for not calling but she'd been really busy meeting everyone since its a small school and that she's in a lot of activities. She said she usually busy for the first half of the year and that the first 2 weeks are the worst. I told her not to worry that it was my fault and that I should have know she'd be busy. She told me she had been planning to call me but she just hadn't found the time. As we ended the conversation I told her I would call her later and she told me weekends were the best time, so I told her I would call Sat or Sun. She said Sun was better because she'd be busy with choir practice Sat. And so I parted with an "I call you later."
Why I snapped:1) I am not used to people not calling me back within a few hours to a day. All my friends call me back after a few hours. Family is the same way. If I don't hear back from people I start to think the worst. Its a habit, I don't know why or when I started doing this but I do it all the time. So you can see not hearing from her in 6 days was driving me insane. Maybe she lost her phone, maybe she hates me though I don't know why, maybe she's in the hospital, maybe etc.
2) If she was too "busy" to call me back why did she call my roommate back who she doesn't even know?
What I got from her attitude in the phone call and the message: From the message I got that she was angry, confused, protective, and unsure. From the phone call I got that she still cared(though not as much as the first few times I called her).
What I predict will happen:I will call her Sunday. She won't pick up. I'll leave her a message telling her to call me back. I will never hear from nor see her again. :brokenheart:
Summary: Met girl, went out a few times, talked for a while. Told me to call/IM her after she was gone. Called girl 3 times in 6 days. Never called my phone back but did return roommates "wrong number call" back. I called left last hope message. She left me message saying I call a lot and her life is too busy to call me back. I called her back, we talked. I told her I would call back, she told me Sunday is best day. We'll see what happens.
EDITED Update:
I talked to her online yesterday, we didn't say much but it was better than nothing and a lot more than I had expected. Leaving that message was probably the stupidest thing I have done in my life and I would give anything to take it back. I would destroy my custom build computer. I would give up my pampered life style, anything. Anyway, I just want to know if I should ask her if we are still friends but I don't know if its the right thing to do. 🙁
EDITED Update 2:
Well, she IM'ed me out of the blue yesterday:
Her: "Hey, how r u?"
Me:"finr, how are you?"
2mins go by
M:"So what have you been up too?"
1min goes by
H:"great!!!!!!!!"
H:"i've been really busy"
M:"what have have you been busy with?"
5mins go by
H:"school and clubs"
H:"brb"
2mins go by
M:"Hey, I'm gonna go grab some lunch with a friend. ttyl(tonight)"
End of conversation. Now, she IMed me. I haven't called her or IM'd her in 5 days. So it was looking good, until the long pauses between her replies. I mean wtf. If you're busy don't start a conversation with someone through IM. I haven't talked to her since yesterday so I'll see if I can talk to her tonight. I was gonna ask her if you she wanted to come down for our football party but I don't know if that would be the best idea. Maybe I should ask if she would mind me coming up there. Forgive any spelling errors as I'm not on my computer so I don't have spcheck.
