YAGT: she might be on her way to the curb (new update)

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: Deeko
I haven't made more trips to her house at her request. When I say I don't mind the subway(I don't...you can't if you live here), she assumes I'm just saying that and that I really do hate it, and she says I shouldn't come. I've contemplated coming anyway, and just showing up at her door randomly w/ flowers or something, but problem is, she goes out alot. If she can't come over to Philly, she has friends pick her up. I can't blame her, do you think I sit here and mope when she doesn't come? So that makes that more difficult...I don't mind the trip, but taking it there and back for absolutely nothing because she already left is kinda a big risk.

As for when she had her surgery, no I wasn't there because her aunt was(I don't know why but she is really weird about me and her family. not her friends, just her close family, she's always afraid that they don't approve of me being with her). However, I woke up a half hour before she went(7:30) and sat there and anxiously waited for her to call and say she was out. As soon as she did, I left right away. That might not sound big...but keep in mind I'm noctornal(it is 5:00am and I'm wide awake, and thats normal), and I don't have class Fridays, so normally I would have slept till 2pm. I did the best I could.

I don't know what to believe, as to why this is happening. It is very feasble that she actually is losing interest, and doesn't want to hurt me, hence all this. However, its just as feasble that she really IS afraid of her dad saying she can't be with me, because she really is completely paranoid of him. She has never refuted a single thing he's said to his face since I've known her. That makes sense...as much as he was mad about her having the car out all the time, I'm sure normally if she had said on Sunday "Can I please go to his house, its his birthday", he'd say yes, but if he insists she not date at all, it would make sense that he still said no. I highly doubt she honestly thinks she'll be too busy...I was extremely busy this summer(I have class spring/summer, co-op fall/winter), I can almost insist more than she will be this fall, and I will have absolutely nothing to do when I'm on co-op after work...so time is not an issue. What is the real issue? Only she knows, and who knows if she'll actually tell me. Until then, there's only so much I can do. If it is her dad, and she refuses to fight back, what can I honestly do, short of actually talking to him? I've only met the man once.

You are a grown man, so take it like a men, THAT hepled a lot, didn't it, but i wil twist it for you it is seill the same thing, You have lost this girl, you are not the first and not the last.

This sh!t happens and it hurts, it hurts like fvck, and there is no escape you are going to have to deal with it.

A new GF helps but it is rarely honest and she will be a replacement, i am telling you to not fall for it, because you will be doing both or you a disfavor, now, you get out and present yourself in the scene instead,, have a row of one nighgters, have another row if you feel like it, perhaps when she is ready for you you will be ready for her. just a tip.

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: Klixxer

Originally posted by: Deeko
I haven't made more trips to her house at her request. When I say I don't mind the subway(I don't...you can't if you live here), she assumes I'm just saying that and that I really do hate it, and she says I shouldn't come. I've contemplated coming anyway, and just showing up at her door randomly w/ flowers or something, but problem is, she goes out alot. If she can't come over to Philly, she has friends pick her up. I can't blame her, do you think I sit here and mope when she doesn't come? So that makes that more difficult...I don't mind the trip, but taking it there and back for absolutely nothing because she already left is kinda a big risk.

As for when she had her surgery, no I wasn't there because her aunt was(I don't know why but she is really weird about me and her family. not her friends, just her close family, she's always afraid that they don't approve of me being with her). However, I woke up a half hour before she went(7:30) and sat there and anxiously waited for her to call and say she was out. As soon as she did, I left right away. That might not sound big...but keep in mind I'm noctornal(it is 5:00am and I'm wide awake, and thats normal), and I don't have class Fridays, so normally I would have slept till 2pm. I did the best I could.

I don't know what to believe, as to why this is happening. It is very feasble that she actually is losing interest, and doesn't want to hurt me, hence all this. However, its just as feasble that she really IS afraid of her dad saying she can't be with me, because she really is completely paranoid of him. She has never refuted a single thing he's said to his face since I've known her. That makes sense...as much as he was mad about her having the car out all the time, I'm sure normally if she had said on Sunday "Can I please go to his house, its his birthday", he'd say yes, but if he insists she not date at all, it would make sense that he still said no. I highly doubt she honestly thinks she'll be too busy...I was extremely busy this summer(I have class spring/summer, co-op fall/winter), I can almost insist more than she will be this fall, and I will have absolutely nothing to do when I'm on co-op after work...so time is not an issue. What is the real issue? Only she knows, and who knows if she'll actually tell me. Until then, there's only so much I can do. If it is her dad, and she refuses to fight back, what can I honestly do, short of actually talking to him? I've only met the man once.

You are a grown man, so take it like a men, THAT hepled a lot, didn't it, but i wil twist it for you it is seill the same thing, You have lost this girl, you are not the first and not the last.

This sh!t happens and it hurts, it hurts like fvck, and there is no escape you are going to have to deal with it.

A new GF helps but it is rarely honest and she will be a replacement, i am telling you to not fall for it, because you will be doing both or you a disfavor, now, you get out and present yourself in the scene instead,, have a row of one nighgters, have another row if you feel like it, perhaps when she is ready for you you will be ready for her. just a tip.

Fpr you who think this is a horrible use of women, well if sex i what they want, we are all sexual beings, no matter how hare we try to repress it.

Actually, this was how i found my current girl, best thing that ever happend to me.

 

[Apathetic]

Originally posted by: Deeko
Oh god, 30 minutes each way, that's horrid. :roll:

More often than not. But when I only see her once a week, or less, how many chances do I get?

I have to agree with you. A half hour is nothing. It takes me a half hour just to get to work every day.

Dave

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: Apathetic

Originally posted by: Deeko
Oh god, 30 minutes each way, that's horrid. :roll:

More often than not. But when I only see her once a week, or less, how many chances do I get?

I have to agree with you. A half hour is nothing. It takes me a half hour just to get to work every day.

Dave

Would YOU drive for 30+30 + the rest of the time to be bored for a few hours?

I wouldn't.

 

[Apathetic]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
Geekbabe......are you not reading Deeko's posts?

Clearly Deeko has bent over backwards for this girl, yet she has done nothing of the sort. I understand she has family problems, etc., but that's no excuse for not calling someone back, cancelling on numerous occasions, and for being a total flake half the time. I'm sorry, that kind of behavior from any girl is not acceptable. I don't know what kind of fantasy land you live in, but in a 2-WAY relationship it means both people are honest and trustworthy. Clearly this girl is nothing of the sort.

I have to agree with you here. Deeko, I'm sorry to say it, but you're being played. Break up with her.

In Deeko's defense, I have to say that the constant last-minute cancellations would REALLY piss me off too after a while. It would be understandable and acceptable if say she was working/struggling her way though school and needed all the hours at work she could get her hands on. That doesn't seem to be the case here.

Dave

 

[Apathetic]

Originally posted by: Klixxer

Originally posted by: Apathetic

Originally posted by: Deeko
Oh god, 30 minutes each way, that's horrid. :roll:

More often than not. But when I only see her once a week, or less, how many chances do I get?

I have to agree with you. A half hour is nothing. It takes me a half hour just to get to work every day.

Dave

Would YOU drive for 30+30 + the rest of the time to be bored for a few hours?

I wouldn't.

Bored?? I don't remember reading any of the threads where anyone's suggested that the relationship is having problems because one or both of them are bored. It seems like the have fun when they get together, it's just that they don't get together very often becasue of last minute cancellations.

Now, If I was bored with girl, she wouldn't be my girlfriend for very long. It wouldn't matter if she lived 5 minutes from me. I would easilly drive 30 minutes each way to be with someone whom I found to be fun+exciting. Throw in a little cuddling time+smooching and I'm there!

Dave

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: Apathetic

Originally posted by: Klixxer

Originally posted by: Apathetic

Originally posted by: Deeko
Oh god, 30 minutes each way, that's horrid. :roll:

More often than not. But when I only see her once a week, or less, how many chances do I get?

I have to agree with you. A half hour is nothing. It takes me a half hour just to get to work every day.

Dave

Would YOU drive for 30+30 + the rest of the time to be bored for a few hours?

I wouldn't.

Bored?? I don't remember reading any of the threads where anyone's suggested that the relationship is having problems because one or both of them are bored. It seems like the have fun when they get together, it's just that they don't get together very often becasue of last minute cancellations.

Now, If I was bored with girl, she wouldn't be my girlfriend for very long. It wouldn't matter if she lived 5 minutes from me. I would easilly drive 30 minutes each way to be with someone whom I found to be fun+exciting. Throw in a little cuddling time+smooching and I'm there!

Dave

Well, sitting in some guys apartment because it is late probbly isn't what anyone finds funny.

IF you live to be my age and go through relationships you will realize that most of the time, when one is content, the other is bored.

There is a reason whe doesn't want to go out to him, and as this feels like talking behind his back but with him listening i am not entirely comfortable, but better to do so than talking about him in a forum whch he won't or can't read.

 

[EvanGeliSt]

Originally posted by: Yo_Ma-Ma

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
Geekbabe......are you not reading Deeko's posts?

Clearly Deeko has bent over backwards for this girl, yet she has done nothing of the sort. I understand she has family problems, etc., but that's no excuse for not calling someone back, cancelling on numerous occasions, and for being a total flake half the time. I'm sorry, that kind of behavior from any girl is not acceptable. I don't know what kind of fantasy land you live in, but in a 2-WAY relationship it means both people are honest and trustworthy. Clearly this girl is nothing of the sort.

He doesn't have a car, so he's not bending over backwards in the sense of travel time, but he does seem like he is more serious about the relationship than she might be.

I 2nd that. At least from reading the WHOLE ThREaD (wow that is long). However, I think it's hard to make statements on whether who's right/wrong. Let Deeko settle this himself.

Good luck. *I know how it feels

 

[Deeko]

apathetic, yea I used to drive PAST where she lives every day, in rush hour, when I was working full time on co-op. its really not a big deal...it took her 35 minutes to get home this morning, and that was at 8am.

Klixxer, I guess I gotta go over this again...we don't just sit in my apartment. We go out to whatever we can, clubs, parties, etc(we are in college you know), if there really is nothing going on, we play drinking games(again....college, thats what we do), hang out with people in my building, whatever. At absolute worst we'll sit down and watch a movie.

 

[Stark]

wow, this is even worst then the last Deeko YAGT.

Dude, find a nice girl and be a nice boyfriend. Stop going for psychos/lushes/girls with major issues.

/end

 

[NutBucket]

Dump the B!tch and post :camera:

 

[PanzerIV]

Deeko are you really that dense? She cancels out on you constantly and worst of all she visits your FRIEND practically next door and doesn't even tell you! Then you see her car AGAIN and she didn't tell you she was there. This after claiming she can't take the car to begin with. Somebody that wants to be with you and around you doesn't do that. Wake up man, it's over.

 

[Deeko]

No, I saw the car on my way home from my friends house where I was talking to her. I just didn't know that she had driven, I clearly knew she was thre by that point.

 

[datalink7]

Dude, it is very annoying when people post "Update in post #___". You had to update your thread starting post to post that... why not just post the update in the starting post!?!?!

So annoying searching the thread for "Power #___" to find the update when it takes no extra effort to copy/paste it into the starting post.

I know someone else agrees with me on this one.

BTW... kick her to the curb

 

[Deeko]

I originally said pg 3. they said that wasn't good enough. So I changed it. updating first post = annoying...read the thread!

 

[Rufio]

Originally posted by: Deeko
I originally said pg 3. they said that wasn't good enough. So I changed it. updating first post = annoying...read the thread!

everyone's pages are different ..depending on post view.

updating the first post is the shiznit......putting your post in the middle of the thread sucks.

 

[Deeko]

Update is in the first post now.

 

[Deeko]

luvly-style pic....only because i enjoy toying with you

 

[Storm]

Deja vu?

Cmon you've already have like a 3k thread about your previous gf.

No more plz.

I think you need to read every post luvly had in the previous thread and write it down so you remmeber

 

[Yax]

Its so obvious.

DEEKO = Bootycall.

Edit:
Just be glad you're gettin some and stop trying to make anymore out of it. You'll only end up with a broken heart.

 

[ApplebottomedGurl]

Originally posted by: silverpig
Wait till you hit it first at least.

hahaha dayum..sweet and to the point

 

[ApplebottomedGurl]

Originally posted by: Deeko
She's actually currently unable to bone anyone. She recently had surgery on her cervix, she can't have sex for another 2 weeks. So while she might be courting...she isn't boning.

surgery on cervix??..thats a first..ima use that one..lol

but then again, are you sure she didnt have an ABORTION?..and maybe daddy had to pay for it..so maybe why he says she cant have a boyfriend??..hmmm something to think about buddy..

 

[Deeko]

She did have the surgery. She wasn't lying about that.

Its now officially over and done with. The past week she's been acting like we're still together, calling me every night, etc. She came up last night. My fraternity had a party last night, as did the mutual friend. Pike parties end at 2, so we were gonna go to the friend's house afterwards. Everything was fine, it was still like we were still together, until about 1:30. She went outside to make a phone call to the one girl at the friend's house, and she never came back. I was pretty angry. 1) She didn't really know where she was going, young girls should not be walking the streets of Philly at 2am by themselves, especially when they don't know where they're going and 2) she just left without telling me.

So I go over there, and she doesn't understand why I'm angry. I say fvck this and I go to leave, she follows me out. We talk for a little...basically, she's been acting this way because she really wants to be with me, but she knows it can't work in the long run. Either in the spring in next fall she's transfering to main campus, which is several hours from here. I understand her thinking it can't work then, but I don't see what that has to do with now. Well, she says she'll get way too attached and it will hurt too much when she leaves. Now..my roommate dumped his gf for that exact reason(it wont work in the long run), realized it was stupid, and got back with her 3 days later. My girl said he was an idiot for doing that, and then she is now doing the same thing.

I told her basically I think you're making the wrong decision, but its your decision to make, and if that is what you want to do, we can't do this anymore. You can't be coming over here and kissing me and acting like you're still my girlfriend. You can't be calling me every night. It just won't work, it will hurt both of us too much, and just drag the pain out longer than it has to. If you want to break up, we're done completely, I'm not talking to you at all anymore. She says she can't do this conversation anymore because it hurts too much. She goes to go back inside...I say if you go in now, then this will be the last time we ever talk. She went in.

So I was pretty angry at that point, but holdin strong at this point. She called me 3 times today and I've yet to pick up. So there ya go.

 

[ajayjuneja]

you run away, the girl chases you, always happens!

congrats deeko for doing the right thing!

Now go find a non-flaky gal.

 

[RagingBITCH]

Originally posted by: Deeko
She did have the surgery. She wasn't lying about that.

Its now officially over and done with. The past week she's been acting like we're still together, calling me every night, etc. She came up last night. My fraternity had a party last night, as did the mutual friend. Pike parties end at 2, so we were gonna go to the friend's house afterwards. Everything was fine, it was still like we were still together, until about 1:30. She went outside to make a phone call to the one girl at the friend's house, and she never came back. I was pretty angry. 1) She didn't really know where she was going, young girls should not be walking the streets of Philly at 2am by themselves, especially when they don't know where they're going and 2) she just left without telling me.

So I go over there, and she doesn't understand why I'm angry. I say fvck this and I go to leave, she follows me out. We talk for a little...basically, she's been acting this way because she really wants to be with me, but she knows it can't work in the long run. Either in the spring in next fall she's transfering to main campus, which is several hours from here. I understand her thinking it can't work then, but I don't see what that has to do with now. Well, she says she'll get way too attached and it will hurt too much when she leaves. Now..my roommate dumped his gf for that exact reason(it wont work in the long run), realized it was stupid, and got back with her 3 days later. My girl said he was an idiot for doing that, and then she is now doing the same thing.

I told her basically I think you're making the wrong decision, but its your decision to make, and if that is what you want to do, we can't do this anymore. You can't be coming over here and kissing me and acting like you're still my girlfriend. You can't be calling me every night. It just won't work, it will hurt both of us too much, and just drag the pain out longer than it has to. If you want to break up, we're done completely, I'm not talking to you at all anymore. She says she can't do this conversation anymore because it hurts too much. She goes to go back inside...I say if you go in now, then this will be the last time we ever talk. She went in.

So I was pretty angry at that point, but holdin strong at this point. She called me 3 times today and I've yet to pick up. So there ya go.

Holding strong? It's a fvcking girl dood...get over it.