- Jun 16, 2000
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My girlfriend is really annoying.
She's been canceling on me left and right. Whenever she's actually here, things are like they've always been, but when she's not, it seems I'm on the complete bottom of her priorities. If ANYTHING comes up, she'll do that.
What started this off, about a month ago, she left for a two week vacation in Florida. I was gonna come down for a few days, things got messed up and I didn't. The day she came back, she was supposed to pick me up from work, and we were gonna go back to my place...she calls me 2 hours before I'm done work, and tells me she agreed to babysit for her family...that lives over 2 hours away! If that didn't piss me off enough, she was doing it the next morning, and PROMPTLY drove up there...she could have easily come over for a few hours and then gone up that night.
Since then, she's canceled on me more than a few times. One night she was having a party at her house, was supposed to call me when a) she knew if she was having it and b) if I should come over regardless, "misunderstood", and called me at 3am asking why I wasn't there. She's agreed to work for people, this and that...whatever comes up.
Recently, its gotten worse...her dad(she is in college but lives at home, cuz she goes to a local school) has decided she's being unapreciative and not helping enough, and doesn't let her take the car out overnight anymore. She considers it a waste of time to only drive up here for a few hours(she lives about 30 minutes or more away, depending on traffic). So basically, I haven't seen her in a week. I've seen her 4 times in the past month(which includes florida). She didn't even come down Sunday night...for my birthday!
Just now, she was gonna try to convince her dad to let her stay out tonight. She hadn't talked to him as of 4 when I went to class...she goes to work at 5, he goes at 7...right when she got home at 9:30, she told me she couldn't keep the car out. I don't even think she asked him(she's deathly afraid of him). Then, before I even could entertain the topic of her coming over for a few hours, she stopped responding to me(AIM), and then put up an away message saying she's out.
I think she's gonna get one last chance to turn this sh!t around, or she's done. I know she doesn't want to break up, but she really can't expect me to live with this. Its not even the fact that I don't get to see her that often, I can live with that, its the fact that she continually says 'yea ill come over' and then cancels the next day. I'm sick of it.
Edit: by popular demand, clifnotes of updates are here in the first post.
-She came up to my school to a mutual friends'
-didnt tell me she was coming
-called me to tell me she was wasted, didnt really invite me
-showed up at my apartment 20 minutes later
-i was very angry
-later i went to friends' house
-we had a very long talk eventually
-i dragged out of her that her dad said she can't have a boyfriend during school
-she insisted that she still has all the same feelings for me and wants no one else
-she basically wouldnt let me leave until she fell asleep
-she called me as soon as she woke up this morning
-at this point i dont know what to believe
New update cliffnotes:
-she's been acting like we're still together since my last post
-she came over last night, there were 2 parties, my fraternity and the mutual friend's
-she left the Pike party without telling me to go to the other
-i was angry, went over there to talk to her
-she says she really wants to be with me but knows it won't work in the long run(she's transfering a few hours away either in the spring or next year)
-i say if thats what you want to do, i can't talk to you at all anymore
-she goes back inside, i tell her if she goes in this will be the last time we speak
She's been canceling on me left and right. Whenever she's actually here, things are like they've always been, but when she's not, it seems I'm on the complete bottom of her priorities. If ANYTHING comes up, she'll do that.
What started this off, about a month ago, she left for a two week vacation in Florida. I was gonna come down for a few days, things got messed up and I didn't. The day she came back, she was supposed to pick me up from work, and we were gonna go back to my place...she calls me 2 hours before I'm done work, and tells me she agreed to babysit for her family...that lives over 2 hours away! If that didn't piss me off enough, she was doing it the next morning, and PROMPTLY drove up there...she could have easily come over for a few hours and then gone up that night.
Since then, she's canceled on me more than a few times. One night she was having a party at her house, was supposed to call me when a) she knew if she was having it and b) if I should come over regardless, "misunderstood", and called me at 3am asking why I wasn't there. She's agreed to work for people, this and that...whatever comes up.
Recently, its gotten worse...her dad(she is in college but lives at home, cuz she goes to a local school) has decided she's being unapreciative and not helping enough, and doesn't let her take the car out overnight anymore. She considers it a waste of time to only drive up here for a few hours(she lives about 30 minutes or more away, depending on traffic). So basically, I haven't seen her in a week. I've seen her 4 times in the past month(which includes florida). She didn't even come down Sunday night...for my birthday!
Just now, she was gonna try to convince her dad to let her stay out tonight. She hadn't talked to him as of 4 when I went to class...she goes to work at 5, he goes at 7...right when she got home at 9:30, she told me she couldn't keep the car out. I don't even think she asked him(she's deathly afraid of him). Then, before I even could entertain the topic of her coming over for a few hours, she stopped responding to me(AIM), and then put up an away message saying she's out.
I think she's gonna get one last chance to turn this sh!t around, or she's done. I know she doesn't want to break up, but she really can't expect me to live with this. Its not even the fact that I don't get to see her that often, I can live with that, its the fact that she continually says 'yea ill come over' and then cancels the next day. I'm sick of it.
Edit: by popular demand, clifnotes of updates are here in the first post.
-She came up to my school to a mutual friends'
-didnt tell me she was coming
-called me to tell me she was wasted, didnt really invite me
-showed up at my apartment 20 minutes later
-i was very angry
-later i went to friends' house
-we had a very long talk eventually
-i dragged out of her that her dad said she can't have a boyfriend during school
-she insisted that she still has all the same feelings for me and wants no one else
-she basically wouldnt let me leave until she fell asleep
-she called me as soon as she woke up this morning
-at this point i dont know what to believe
New update cliffnotes:
-she's been acting like we're still together since my last post
-she came over last night, there were 2 parties, my fraternity and the mutual friend's
-she left the Pike party without telling me to go to the other
-i was angry, went over there to talk to her
-she says she really wants to be with me but knows it won't work in the long run(she's transfering a few hours away either in the spring or next year)
-i say if thats what you want to do, i can't talk to you at all anymore
-she goes back inside, i tell her if she goes in this will be the last time we speak
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