I feel with you. Just experienced the same a few months back or almost atleast...
My ex (been with her for 4 years) didn't have a job and, well it was up to me to make ends meet and it had been a time of 3-4 months where I had work really much and then when I came home, she was never there, could notice though that she had just left 15-20mins ago, since there was still humid in the bathroom after a shower etc. This kept on going for almost two weeks, I came home and she had just left and didn't return until REAL late, when I was sleeping or up worrying.
Then came a party and we had both decided to have some fun and get over the past few weeks. While there she during the eveing starts to get a bit to cozy with a friend of mine and I tell her this, that I didn't appriciate it to much and we end up having a huge fight, while drunk.. not to good. Anyways we tried to talk about it, did in some way make up, I thought, boy was I wrong..
End of story is that I found out she had been out having "fun" with that guy I considered my friend, while I had been home sleeping to be able to work and earn some money, confronted her with it. Got an all-out tears outbreak, appologies etc and stupid as I am I accepted the appology. But what do you think she does?? She FRIGGING goes out and do it again WITH the same guy. I am not a very violent guy, but let's just say I felt like breaking things, preferably humans
One week after I just moved back home, got a new job and now I am earning a lot more money, feeling helluva lot better and I'm actually looking brighter on my future than ever
//MrFlashy
My ex (been with her for 4 years) didn't have a job and, well it was up to me to make ends meet and it had been a time of 3-4 months where I had work really much and then when I came home, she was never there, could notice though that she had just left 15-20mins ago, since there was still humid in the bathroom after a shower etc. This kept on going for almost two weeks, I came home and she had just left and didn't return until REAL late, when I was sleeping or up worrying.
Then came a party and we had both decided to have some fun and get over the past few weeks. While there she during the eveing starts to get a bit to cozy with a friend of mine and I tell her this, that I didn't appriciate it to much and we end up having a huge fight, while drunk.. not to good. Anyways we tried to talk about it, did in some way make up, I thought, boy was I wrong..
End of story is that I found out she had been out having "fun" with that guy I considered my friend, while I had been home sleeping to be able to work and earn some money, confronted her with it. Got an all-out tears outbreak, appologies etc and stupid as I am I accepted the appology. But what do you think she does?? She FRIGGING goes out and do it again WITH the same guy. I am not a very violent guy, but let's just say I felt like breaking things, preferably humans
One week after I just moved back home, got a new job and now I am earning a lot more money, feeling helluva lot better and I'm actually looking brighter on my future than ever //MrFlashy
Don't sweat it, your lucky you found this out before you married her. You should be celebrating that you found out how she is before you married her.
Originally posted by: Majesty
Yeah. Even so, what's your point?
my point is this:
i know VERY few people who started dating before they were 20 that are still together today. (meaning people who dated in high school and are still together/married 5 years later).
all i can say i am impressed that you survived 10 years since 17. i'm sorry to hear about you loss...and too bad it didn't happen sooner. i dated a girl 3 years (nothing even comparable to you, but the same thing happened. she stopped loving me and got together w/ someone else like a week later) and all i can say i that i wish that she made this decision when i was 18 and not wasted 2 years. try your best to move on, i found that out the hard way. don't ever miss her again, as she will never feel the same for you again.
Kadarin
Lifer
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That does suck, but if you've been dating her exclusively for the last 10 years (since she was 17), it's not much of a surprise. She's still young, been dating you for a long time (so a lot of your relationship with her becomes routine), and she goes to Cuba and meets someone new and "exciting". Next thing you know, poof, you're ass-out.
I am not a very violent guy, but let's just say I felt like breaking things, preferably humans
I think I know what you mean. One of my friends told me that another "friend" of mine told him some years ago that he wouldn't bother stealing my, in that time, girlfriend. But, at least, I know what my ex think of this guy and it's not shinny.. hehe
Am still waiting for my ex.
But seriously though, 10 Years is a long time. I thought wasting 3 years with my ex was long but DAMN. Just go out and meet new people. Oh fvck beer, go for the hard stuff. Good luck man.
After all that, you can finally understand why you see sluts getting killed when they go on vacation. They act like sneaky little whores and get themselves in trouble.
That's why you need to keep them on a short leash. The guys who say how "confident" they are, are really clueless. This stuff happens behind your back. You can't trust anyone.
That's why you need to keep them on a short leash. The guys who say how "confident" they are, are really clueless. This stuff happens behind your back. You can't trust anyone.
Originally posted by: robothouse77
Originally posted by: Majesty
Yeah. Even so, what's your point?
my point is this:
i know VERY few people who started dating before they were 20 that are still together today. (meaning people who dated in high school and are still together/married 5 years later).
all i can say i am impressed that you survived 10 years since 17. i'm sorry to hear about you loss...and too bad it didn't happen sooner. i dated a girl 3 years (nothing even comparable to you, but the same thing happened. she stopped loving me and got together w/ someone else like a week later) and all i can say i that i wish that she made this decision when i was 18 and not wasted 2 years. try your best to move on, i found that out the hard way. don't ever miss her again, as she will never feel the same for you again.
I agree. This same thing happened to my friend. He was going out with his girlfriend since his sophmore year of high school (she is a year younger). They dated all through college. A year after she graduated College, She dumped him for another guy. He was devistated. THEN to top it off, the same (almost) exact thing happened to his brother!
Both girls in this situation never really had more then one serious relationship. My theory is that girls have to sew their oats (just like guys). I'll bet you were her first serious relationship.
Edit: Spelling
This kind of thing happens, especially when people have been in a committed, long-term relationship since they were young. She may have begun to feel like life was slipping by and she never had the opportunity to enjoy some of the options available to single people. 10 years though is a long time and it's going to be rough on you getting over it. My suggestion is to get laid as soon as possible, as often as possible.
and drink lots of :beer:
and drink lots of :beer:
Not only was I her only serious relationship, I was her first boyfriend. Period.
Maybe it was foolish of me to think this girl was my soulmate.
Girls are the devil. Christians have it all wrong. Satan lives on with a vagina on this very Earth!
10 years is pretty good though without her wanting to stray away...props to that you must have been a badass boyfriend to keep a girl w/o other exp. that long.
now, then, head to the bar, order the hottest girl a drink, and let the good times roll!
FYI:
The Keyboard you sold me a couple of years ago for $5 died a year after.
Thanks again for the great deal
better to find out now than later...that's what everyone told me after a 2.5 year relationship
/got 99 problems but the bitch ain't one
/got 99 problems but the bitch ain't one
She probably started letting go awhile back already and was just keeping it together for the sake of it. Looks like that trip to Cuba was the breaking point, even more so if she really met someone else there. Most likely since she said she didn't miss you nor was glad to see you at the airport cause she's thinking of that new hunk she just met.
Life's a b1tch but it still must go on.
Life's a b1tch but it still must go on.
SMOGZINN
Lifer
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I was in the exact situation, down to the sudden 'what do you want to do about the funiture' talk. I fell in love at the age of 17, and stayed with her (faithfully) for 13 years before she left me because "she just didn't feel the spark anymore" and I have never heard from her since. Hard to think that the most important person in your life for the last 13 years doesn't want to talk to you any more.
Well, here I am almost 2 years later, and I am doing okay. I am not as happy as I was before, but I am also not as naive. I have had other girlfriends since, and will have more still. So will you. Hard to hear right now, I know it was for me. You are feeling lonely and abandonded. Find yourself some good friends and make a nuicance of yourself for a few weeks, they will put up with it, that is why they are good friends. Go out and have some fun, go to clubs and flirt shamlessly, just to remind yourself that there is a good side to being single. Mainly remember that YOU are who you are takeing care of now. Do a good job.
Your last 10 years werent lived for 'nothig' ...
Sure, you lost your girlfriend... From how you described her - your better off without her.
Everything you learnt over the past 10 years, all the stuff you experianced, moving up in the work world, etc. are all worth living for... put her behind you, get a new job, go buy yourself something you've always wanted and realize how much better you are without her in your life... Soon a good one will come along
Sure, you lost your girlfriend... From how you described her - your better off without her.
Everything you learnt over the past 10 years, all the stuff you experianced, moving up in the work world, etc. are all worth living for... put her behind you, get a new job, go buy yourself something you've always wanted and realize how much better you are without her in your life... Soon a good one will come along
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