YAGT: My Girlfriend might be pregnant...

[eakers]

Originally posted by: Redhotjrm

Originally posted by: eakers
the cure for pregnancy is a good push down the stairs

I hope you're joking.

no i'm completely serious.

i get my boyfriend to push me down the stairs all the time!

 

[isaacmacdonald]

Originally posted by: yayo

Originally posted by: isaacmacdonald

Originally posted by: yayo

Originally posted by: isaacmacdonald

Originally posted by: Reon
abortion is always good. if you are gonna raise this kid and you are not ready, this kid will come out messed up. do you want him/her to have such a bad childhood? if anything, everyone should cherish his/her childhood because it should be a memorable one. think about it, it's not too late to turn to outside help if you can't talk to your parents.

exactly. aborting (especially later on) can be traumatizing, or so I've been told by my sister (she's had 2), but ultimately it can also be a lot more humane for the perspective child.

Abortion at any stage in pregnancy is traumatizing unless your a heartless bitch, skank whore.

Children aren't messed up because the parents were to young, children get messed up because the parents are stupid.

Err, and a great example of being smart and responsible is unintentionally getting your gf pregnant while you're in HS?

Mistakes happen in life.

If you screw up at work or school, you have to make up for those mistakes right? You have to study harder to get that grade or become more goal oriented in order to receive that raise or promotion.

All I'm saying is that sure there are options. Yes everyone deserves a good life. So does that child you created by mistake. People complain as if their life is over. Do you know how many children die each year who are in the governments custody, group homes and children's aid? Children who are raped, and beaten by step parents or foster parents? Your child might endure that one day all because you fvcked up and didn't want to take responsibility.

This is interesting because it highlights what I feel is a broken modality. You're highlighting how many children are raped, beaten, and exploited. You're pointing out that they deserve much better. You point out that all it takes is hard work, and the child can have a good life.

This is all very reasonable, but that's the problem. The majority of humans aren't ruled by reason. Highlighting the attrocities with the intention of reforming bad parents worldwide is like beating a dead horse. I prefer a more proactive approach.

 

[Topher]

Originally posted by: Magnum375

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein
Congrats MacGaven :beer:

You asshole, shut up you idiots saying congrats.

Who's the asshole? The miracle of birth is one of the greatest things life has to offer. Being a father is my greatest accomplishment, and everything else pales in comparison. So I'll say it too:

Congrats.

 

[Topher]

Originally posted by: Reon

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Reon
abortion is always good. if you are gonna raise this kid and you are not ready, this kid will come out messed up. do you want him/her to have such a bad childhood? if anything, everyone should cherish his/her childhood because it should be a memorable one. think about it, it's not too late to turn to outside help if you can't talk to your parents.

That is such a moronic statement. Abortion is not simply a solution. It's a choice that can take a huge toll on a woman, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Don't push her to do something that she may regret the rest of her life. The baby can grow up in an adoptive home and have a perfectly happy, normal life. If she gets an abortion, it could mean serious problems for her down the road.

oh yeah, and giving birth at age 18 is not gonna be detrimental to the girl's mental and physical health.

Studies have actually shown that women who give birth later in life (ie after 30 or even 40), have a higher rate of health problems later in life, such as osteoperosis. It has something to do with the hormones that are released into the body during the pregnancy. However, it's still probably not a good idea to get pregnant at 18 anyway.

 

[silverpig]

[more bad humour]

If she IS pregnant, you might as well get in as much sex in the next little while as you can... cause you KNOW your sex life is pretty much over now

[/more bad humour]

 

[Topher]

Originally posted by: chocobaR

Originally posted by: rbloedow

Originally posted by: chocobaR

Originally posted by: Tetsuo

Originally posted by: chocobaR

Originally posted by: rbloedow

Originally posted by: chocobaR If the girl is in her periods and you have sex with her, can she get pregnant? If yes, woohoo! :beer:

Common people - use the basic information you were taught in sex ed.

Yes, a women can get pregnant at anytime, it doens't matter if she's on the rag or not.

Oh sh!t...

I hope j00 are teh jokeinh

No I'm not... She said there was 0 chances of getting pregnant... I'm scared as hell right now...

Again, this is exactly what we're talking about. If you aren't mature, and responsible when it comes to sex, you shouldn't have it. This kid hasn't even taken a basic sex ed class, I'd be surprized if he even knows what sperm and eggs are.

Ah come on now... I know I made a mistake...

Now, are you man enough to take full responsiblity for your actions?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Reon
abortion is always good. if you are gonna raise this kid and you are not ready, this kid will come out messed up. do you want him/her to have such a bad childhood? if anything, everyone should cherish his/her childhood because it should be a memorable one. think about it, it's not too late to turn to outside help if you can't talk to your parents.

That is such a moronic statement. Abortion is not simply a solution. It's a choice that can take a huge toll on a woman, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Don't push her to do something that she may regret the rest of her life. The baby can grow up in an adoptive home and have a perfectly happy, normal life. If she gets an abortion, it could mean serious problems for her down the road.

Convenient half truth, o'picketer of abortion clinics.

A first trimester abortion is simply just a D&C. Those of you that don't know what a D&C is have no business reading this far.

I dated a girl that had to have two D&Cs due to "improper drainage" during her periods or words to that effect. The lining didn't "drain out" like it was supposed to. It's a simple scraping of the uterus that if done correctly does not have "serious side effects down the road."

Ten years later, she's a mother of two happy, healthy kids. Everyone is fine.

MacGaven
Good luck. You'll need it.

 

[XZeroII]

Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. Abortion is NOT a choice. You both made the choice when you decided to have sex. My best friend became a father about 2.5 weeks ago. He went through lots of this. Abortion is killing an innocent person. It doesn't matter how you look at it or from what angle. People who have abortions should be jailed for murder.

 

[mrCide]

Originally posted by: XZeroII
Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. Abortion is NOT a choice. You both made the choice when you decided to have sex. My best friend became a father about 2.5 weeks ago. He went through lots of this. Abortion is killing an innocent person. It doesn't matter how you look at it or from what angle. People who have abortions should be jailed for murder.

actually it is a choice, and not everyone has to think the same way as you do. thx

 

[SP33Demon]

Here we go, the anti abortion zealots come out of the woodwork. I can see where this thread is heading... *flush*

 

[Mookow]

To who ever it was that had sex with his g/f while she was on the rag:

are you telling us you werent using a condom for that? wtf?

 

[anxi80]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon
Here we go, the anti abortion zealots come out of the woodwork. I can see where this thread is heading... *flush*

yep. luckily, i already made my comments, i had another, but ill slowly back away from this thread after seeing what i missed yesterday...

 

[imported_Papi]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Reon
abortion is always good. if you are gonna raise this kid and you are not ready, this kid will come out messed up. do you want him/her to have such a bad childhood? if anything, everyone should cherish his/her childhood because it should be a memorable one. think about it, it's not too late to turn to outside help if you can't talk to your parents.

That is such a moronic statement. Abortion is not simply a solution. It's a choice that can take a huge toll on a woman, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Don't push her to do something that she may regret the rest of her life. The baby can grow up in an adoptive home and have a perfectly happy, normal life. If she gets an abortion, it could mean serious problems for her down the road.

Convenient half truth, o'picketer of abortion clinics.

A first trimester abortion is simply just a D&C. Those of you that don't know what a D&C is have no business reading this far.

I dated a girl that had to have two D&Cs due to "improper drainage" during her periods or words to that effect. The lining didn't "drain out" like it was supposed to. It's a simple scraping of the uterus that if done correctly does not have "serious side effects down the road."

Ten years later, she's a mother of two happy, healthy kids. Everyone is fine.

MacGaven
Good luck. You'll need it.

Did she have endometriosis?

D&C's are usually given when you've miscarried due to things like tubule pregnancies, are having an abortion or have taken the abortion pill and were to far along and need to be cleaned out. Or if you have or have had endometriosis and it's growing to a point where the blood cannot escape. Like you mentioned... I guess.

moving on...

Abortions can cause mental problems, not physical ones. Todays abortions are so advanced, they do not effect your future child bearing chances.

Having a child at younger age is easier on the body physically. You still have to act like a mother, hence finding the mature you ASAP!

 

[geckojohn]

Originally posted by: Mookow
To who ever it was that had sex with his g/f while she was on the rag: are you telling us you werent using a condom for that? wtf?

 

[imported_Papi]

Originally posted by: XZeroII
Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. Abortion is NOT a choice. You both made the choice when you decided to have sex. My best friend became a father about 2.5 weeks ago. He went through lots of this. Abortion is killing an innocent person. It doesn't matter how you look at it or from what angle. People who have abortions should be jailed for murder.

Thats ridiculous. HAHA

 

[Jennie]

I have had two abortions and it was a hard choice, but it's nothing that will haunt you if people just mind their own business.

I have two children now, and i am glad i made the choices i did, giving birth was a LOT harder than having an abortion.

When it comes to adoption vs abortion, giving birth and having to give up your baby, what is the point? Do ANY of you fools really believe that THAT would be easier on a womans mental health?

You americanos are wierd sometimes.

 

[TravisT]

Eeek, i probably shouldn't have stumbled across this thread as this is a pretty touchy situation for me. For those of you who may not know, i had a daughter when I was 17, got married when i was 17 (not shotgun style), and I am pleased to say that I can now think back and find those days pleasant.

All in all it was pretty scary at first, but the only advice I can give is that it has happened, just take it one day at a time for a while, get a job (after school) and start saving now so that you'll have something to fall back on if needed.

For those of you who insist on saying things like 'Don't have sex if you arn't mature enough to handle it'.... I'm sure this guy feels horrible enough as it is. People do things they know they shouldn't all the time, most likely including yourselves. It's a shame you guys have nothing positive to say about the situation instead of things many others probably have already told him before. Just because this happens does not mean he isn't mature, his maturity will only shine on how he deals with the situation.

 

[Jennie]

Originally posted by: XZeroII
Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. Abortion is NOT a choice. You both made the choice when you decided to have sex. My best friend became a father about 2.5 weeks ago. He went through lots of this. Abortion is killing an innocent person. It doesn't matter how you look at it or from what angle. People who have abortions should be jailed for murder.

abortion is removing an unwanted lump of mass, nothing more.

Can't you find something more worthwhile to do than imposing your "i am mr right, i am a man so i know what it is like for a pregnant woman" BS on others?

People who spew this bs should be put in mental institutions, throw away the key.

 

[TravisT]

Originally posted by: Jennie


When it comes to adoption vs abortion, giving birth and having to give up your baby, what is the point? Do ANY of you fools really believe that THAT would be easier on a womans mental health?

You americanos are wierd sometimes.

It wouldn't be any better on the mental health, but its definitely much easier on the child at stake.

 

[TravisT]

Originally posted by: Jennie

Originally posted by: XZeroII
Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. Abortion is NOT a choice. You both made the choice when you decided to have sex. My best friend became a father about 2.5 weeks ago. He went through lots of this. Abortion is killing an innocent person. It doesn't matter how you look at it or from what angle. People who have abortions should be jailed for murder.

abortion is removing an unwanted lump of mass, nothing more.

Can't you find something more worthwhile to do than imposing your "i am mr right, i am a man so i know what it is like for a pregnant woman" BS on others?

People who spew this bs should be put in mental institutions, throw away the key.

So in other words your not bothered by knowing you killed two of your own kids?

 

[imported_Papi]

I feel the flames coming this way.

They are hot. Oh so hot!

 

[TravisT]

Originally posted by: yayo
I feel the flames coming this way.

They are hot. Oh so hot!

Sorry, i'm trying to hold myself back. Unfortunately abortion is a very touchy subject with me as I know that ANYONE can take care of their kids and that killing them (AKA Abortion) should not be an option if you accidentally got pregnant. If all else fails, give the child up to adoption.

 

[iamwiz82]

Originally posted by: TravisT

Originally posted by: Jennie

Originally posted by: XZeroII
Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. Abortion is NOT a choice. You both made the choice when you decided to have sex. My best friend became a father about 2.5 weeks ago. He went through lots of this. Abortion is killing an innocent person. It doesn't matter how you look at it or from what angle. People who have abortions should be jailed for murder.

abortion is removing an unwanted lump of mass, nothing more.

Can't you find something more worthwhile to do than imposing your "i am mr right, i am a man so i know what it is like for a pregnant woman" BS on others?

People who spew this bs should be put in mental institutions, throw away the key.

So in other words your not bothered by knowing you killed two of your own kids?

 

[Danman]

Originally posted by: TravisT

Originally posted by: yayo
I feel the flames coming this way.

They are hot. Oh so hot!

Sorry, i'm trying to hold myself back. Unfortunately abortion is a very touchy subject with me as I know that ANYONE can take care of their kids and that killing them (AKA Abortion) should not be an option if you accidentally got pregnant. If all else fails, give the child up to adoption.

But what if you have an abortion before it even becomes/looks like a child? Like have it a month in the pregnancy? Sometimes it's best for parents to do this if they have no money or no way of supporting them.

 

[notfred]

I think this is the first AOT post ever regarding pregnancy which doesn't contain "Wow, I'm so excited, I get to be a dad!" and 700 people saying "congratulations!"