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YAGT: merry christmas to me....

hysperion

Senior member
Update 12/28:
Ok so I went back on Christmas to give her the watch. Instead of her taking the watch and saying thanks. She basically went off on me about how I spent too much money on it. She didn't want it etc....Basically she played head games all day and was never grateful for it. Well her brother (my best friend) was on a one-week leave from Rome so I still hung out at her house all day.

Anyways later on in the day her mom went in and talked to her about how ungrateful she was being and how mean she was being to me and that she was ashamed of her. (I didn't tell her mom anything or in any way ask her to talk to her and she knew this). Well basically I walked in and for the first time she had the watch on and was saying how much she liked it 'yada, yada, yada'.

Well about an hour later she told me it was thoughtful of me but that "she didn't like the watch and that I should return it". I argued with her about it considering she picked it out and was saying how pretty is was the day before when I picked it out. Needless to say I got really pissed. I wasn't even that pissed when she was being ungrateful the first time because that's how she is. She isn't into me buying her stuff unlike most girls which is usually really nice.
So I told her I appreciate that you don't try to tell me to buy you stuff all the time but I don't appreciate you being ungrateful especially when I know you like it. She finally admitted she liked it but that she wanted me to return it anyways. I left it at that and went home.
The next day I came over and she had the same attitude about the watch, again telling me she wanted me to return it. So I said, 'the only fun I get outta this watch is giving it to you and knowing you like it, and you've completely ruined that, so if you want to return it, I'll give you the receipt and you can return it'. She agreed and we had a non-talking 20 minute drive to the jewelery store where I purchased it. Well, I said, 'I'm glad we're returning it because you're completely ungrateful. I guess you don't think I feel you're worth $700.' Well when we were nearly there she told me to, "return it myself". The reason she did that is because she knows I hate returning stuff. I generally tip really well and hate returning stuff to people that are paid commission because I've always worked commission jobs and I always hate it when people do it to me.
So we go in the mall where the jewelery store is and I'm arguing with her about whose going to return it. We end up sitting on a bench in the mall just outside the store for 15 minutes quietly arguing when my ex-girlfriend (5-years ago) I haven't seen in like 3 years walks by. She is walking with the guy she was going out with last time I saw her(he got convicted of GTA about the last time I saw her and is a complete piece of trash) and he's carrying a baby that I assume is hers because she has got a lot fatter. It was actually kinda funny cus she turned and stared at me for a second then looked away. My current girlfriend was laughing and I couldn't help but laugh myself.
Finally, we stopped arguing and I agreed to return it. Well the guy who sold me it was busy and I could see that from the bench so I wanted to wait for him. My girlfriend still in a fighting mood was complaining about me waiting because it was taking to long. I said, 'I'm going to wait for him because I don't want to sneak the return in behind his back'. She mumbled something, got up and left towards the mall exit. We had taken my car and I had the keys- she didn't have her purse on her so she couldn't take the bus without money. Basically, I had no idea where she was going but I wasn't going to follow her.

That was kinda the last straw for me so I got up walked in the store, told the guy I was really sorry about returning it, he started returning it and my girlfriend walked in, I gave her a dirty look and she walked out. After he had given me the refund to my CC I slid him a $50 that he laughed about and wouldn't take, I offered it 4x and even slid it to him before he told me he could get in trouble for accepting it so I took it back. He gave me his card and I saw he was the manager so I didn't feel as bad because alot of managers don't make commission. As I was walking out of the jewelery store I was really pissed and my girlfriend started crying asking me, 'why I returned it and that she walked out because she didn't want me too'. My first THOUGHT was OMFG You b1tch. (Notice I said thought- I didn't swear, It's very rare I swear in response to earlier inquiries, she has to really piss me off).

Anyways, I walked out to the truck with her crying and I didn't feel sorry for her at all. I told her how ridiculous she was being and she told me to take her home.

My favorite restaurant is Chili's and its halfway between the mall and her house so I stopped there (we had agreed to stop there before we left but now she was being salty and didn't want to, I did it anyways because I hadn't ate). She came in and acted pretty cold and our waiter could tell right away. He told her to smile and the sour look she gave him was priceless(in fact the waiters/waitresses there all know us because I tip real well and eat there 4-5x a week. Pretty much all I eat is Chilis guiltless menu and Quiznos. Started the diet 6 months ago and lost 27lbs 😛- but that's a diff story---->he got a real good tip for what he said too 😛).

After we finished eating we went out to the car and I told her that I was going to explain the entire situation to her from my perspective and that I didn't want her to say a word until I was finished. Suprisingly she didn't say a single word and when I was done all she said was 'sorry'. You have no idea how hard it is to get a 'sorry' out of this girl. After that I basically asked her if she still wanted the watch. She said that she didn't think she deserved it. I told her that was my decision so she agreed she'd still like it. We got back to the mall and before going in I realized that now that it wasn't last minute why pay overpriced mall rates. We went to my house, ordered the exact same watch from a reputable online dealer. I paid $470 shipped.

End of the story is her watch comes tomorrow- ya she was pretty ungrateful at first but now she's excited to get it and I'd rather have an ungrateful girl then one who will ride me for all I'm worth.
And I saved $260 though I still feel kinda bad about having the return it in the first place. O did I mention I got make-up sex? I negotiated 5 sessions of 'penance'.

Cliff notes:
GF ended up with watch, I got laid. Fairy tale ending!
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So anyways I took my girlfriend of 4 years to the mall to go shopping with me for Christmas. Basically I told her spend up to $250 on whatever you want, she obviously picked out alot of clothes. Well we had a great time and at the end I said, "wait I gotta get something for my mom".

Anyways, we went into the jewelery store and I had her help me pick out a Movado watch (the whole time it was really for my girlfriend but she had no idea). The watch set me back $733 and we left.

We planned on sharing gifts at midnight as how all 3 of her brothers in the military came home on leave for Christmas and they were having a family thing. Well around 10pm she told me she was tired and wanted to take a little nap so she said to wake her up in half an hour. Half an hour later she told me she was still tired and asked if she could sleep until 12. I said, 'no problem'. I was watching movies with her brothers one of whom I'm best friends with and how I met her in the first place. They all knew about the watch beforehand. Anyways, at 12 I went in to wake her up.

Now here is how I did it, I lightly tapped her arm and said Sharon it's 12 time to get up. She said, "can I lay here". I said, "sure". She seemed really out of it so I told her to sit up and basically she argued about it. Then I asked her what 10 + 12 is. She said, "I'm not playing your F-N games". I said, "Sharon it's not a game I just want to make sure that you're awake". She answered, "34". And she was being serious, she was out of it and not really paying attention, just like I thought which was why I asked her in the first place. Anyways I said, "Sharon 10+12 isn't 34",

..... and she started swearing at me telling me it was F-N late and that I was a F-N A-hole and that I already knew where my presents were and she already saw hers so that I should just leave. Needless to say I walked out of there with my watch (she still doesn't know about it). I feel kinda bad because her mom found out and I feel like I didn't help their (the rest of her family's) Christmas at all. My gf called me 2x after I left asking why I was being such an ass and swearing at me. Then she called a 3rd time and she said, 'brian, what did you tell my mom'. I told her "I didn't tell her anything, thanks for being a bitch to me on Christmas", and hung up.

So what do you think? Wait for an apology and give her the watch or return it?

CN:
-Got expensive movado at mall for girlfriend, she thought the watch was for my mom.
-Was going to give it to her at midnight, she decided to be a B8*(H
-Took watch home, she called 3x swearing at me on the phone, I hung up on her.
-Wait for apology or return the watch?
 
Wait till she wakes up, talk to her and tell her what happened. Having her for 4 years should lead me to believe you're willing to forgive and forget. Don't wait for an apology, as I don't know if she's stubborn like that. Instead, go to her in the morning after she's good and awake and say what happened.
 
Keep the watch or send it to me.

OTOH, go round and give her the watch and tell her it was for edit "her", make her feel guilty.
 
Just bring it to her in the morning and tell her what happened. Doesn't seem like a big deal to me. She was a bitch but she was also asleep, sh!t happens.
 
called you up to curse you out? That's messed up. I would have to rethink the entire relationship at that point.
 
Originally posted by: SuperSix
The number game was stupid - especially with a groggy G/F. She overreacted, but you screwed up too..

I don't get the number thing but even if it was dumb that does not excuse what she did. She could have been like, "Honey, I'm not in the mood, what's up" instead of going nuts. Then she called you up not to apologize or talk but to be even more of a bee-atch. I would wait for an apology and I would think about if this relationship is truly good. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. Merry Christmas.
 
Originally posted by: CheapArse
Return watch

Don't you get sick of the geeky, pride-obssessed nerds that aren't in relationships, hysperion? Don't wait for an apology... just go down there like nothing happened and give her the gift. Today is Christmas... you can talk to her about being bitchy later on... don't be a drama queen like people here...

"OMG, my girlfriend said hi to this guy in the mall, I'm taking back her gifts WTF"

Don't be dramatic, have a good holiday with her.
 
That's a toughie.

I'd think about how serious that relationship was before you do anything though... a Movado as a gift makes it a pretty serious one IMO.
 
I think if you tell her why you wanted to wake her up that she will feel REALLY bad. She didnt think that there was any big deal since she already knew her perents.
 
I'm a total asshole if someone wakes me up, especially if they don't get the hint I want to be left alone. Go over there and see what happens, I'm sure she'll be pretty sheepish when she figures out what happened.
 
Originally posted by: Red
Originally posted by: CheapArse
Return watch

Don't you get sick of the geeky, pride-obssessed nerds that aren't in relationships, hysperion? Don't wait for an apology... just go down there like nothing happened and give her the gift. Today is Christmas... you can talk to her about being bitchy later on... don't be a drama queen like people here...

"OMG, my girlfriend said hi to this guy in the mall, I'm taking back her gifts WTF"

Don't be dramatic, have a good holiday with her.

Don't you get sick of attached, emotional guys with no balls, hysperion? Don't wait for her to cheat on you with some slumming mexicans... just go down there and dump her like she was nothing. Today is Christmas... so you might as well ruin her day since she ruined yours... don't be a wimp like some people here...

"OMG, my girlfriend just went gonzo with some mexicans, I'm taking her back WTF"

Don't be an attached clingy wimp, have a good holiday without her.
 
Don't you get sick of attached, emotional guys with no balls, hysperion? Don't wait for her to cheat on you with some slumming mexicans... just go down there and dump her like she was nothing. Today is Christmas... so you might as well ruin her day since she ruined yours... don't be a wimp like some people here...

"OMG, my girlfriend just went gonzo with some mexicans, I'm taking her back WTF"

Don't be an attached clingy wimp, have a good holiday without her.

In the season of Christmas, I won't return a flame, but instead I'd like to think there is a middleground here. You can be overly proud with no forgiveness, be the "macho" man that runs the relationship...

or you can be, like you said, an attached, clingy wimp. Sure, I may lean on this side a bit, but I think the best relationships are in the middle.... two equal parties that minimize drama, practice forgiveness, and work to have equal power in the relationship.

Whaddya say Schro? The last thing I wanna do is argue this morning, it's been such a great Xmas!!! :beer:
 
Go over and give her the watch. I bet she will feel stupid. A person who is tired can be very irritable especially if they think you are playing games with them.
 
Originally posted by: Red
Don't you get sick of attached, emotional guys with no balls, hysperion? Don't wait for her to cheat on you with some slumming mexicans... just go down there and dump her like she was nothing. Today is Christmas... so you might as well ruin her day since she ruined yours... don't be a wimp like some people here...

"OMG, my girlfriend just went gonzo with some mexicans, I'm taking her back WTF"

Don't be an attached clingy wimp, have a good holiday without her.

In the season of Christmas, I won't return a flame, but instead I'd like to think there is a middleground here. You can be overly proud with no forgiveness, be the "macho" man that runs the relationship...

or you can be, like you said, an attached, clingy wimp. Sure, I may lean on this side a bit, but I think the best relationships are in the middle.... two equal parties that minimize drama, practice forgiveness, and work to have equal power in the relationship.

Whaddya say Schro? The last thing I wanna do is argue this morning, it's been such a great Xmas!!! :beer:

Sorry Red. I crossed the line. It was very cheap. :Q

But do you see my point? You've been used and abused hard and still took your gf back (the circumstances I don't care). I don't know why people do this. I can't stand people who are a$$holes in relationships. First sign of it and I'm gone. Its a sign of things to come IMO.

This guy needs to stand up and ask whats up. To her benefit though, she was half asleep. People who are tired don't want to fvck around with games like 10 + 12. Awwww fvck it just give her the watch and knock the bottom out.
 
Is this typical? Is this the kind of relationship you want? Does she swear at you often do you do the same to her?

Dude, if this is four years into a relationship and she is calling you all sort of names, then I think you need to get out of this relationship ASAP.

You're dating a bitch and she is making you hers...


dam()
 
She completely FLIPPED out at you man.

Calling you to b!tch about it is ROUGH man...

You have been with her for 4yrs so the relationship is worth more then this right? Well call her back somtime and speak to her.

Koing
 
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