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Originally posted by: hysperion
Now here is how I did it, I lightly tapped her arm and said Sharon it's 12 time to get up. She said, "can I lay here". I said, "sure". She seemed really out of it so I told her to sit up and basically she argued about it. Then I asked her what 10 + 12 is. She said, "I'm not playing your F-N games". I said, "Sharon it's not a game I just want to make sure that you're awake". She answered, "34". And she was being serious, she was out of it and not really paying attention, just like I thought which was why I asked her in the first place. Anyways I said, "Sharon 10+12 isn't 34",

..... and she started swearing at me telling me it was F-N late and that I was a F-N A-hole and that I already knew where my presents were and she already saw hers so that I should just leave. Needless to say I walked out of there with my watch (she still doesn't know about it). I feel kinda bad because her mom found out and I feel like I didn't help their (the rest of her family's) Christmas at all. My gf called me 2x after I left asking why I was being such an ass and swearing at me. Then she called a 3rd time and she said, 'brian, what did you tell my mom'. I told her "I didn't tell her anything, thanks for being a bitch to me on Christmas", and hung up.

So what do you think? Wait for an apology and give her the watch or return it?
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Oh, while I was reading your post, I was like what class of gf is this who uses vulgar language...? However, as I read the entire post, I realized that you had provoked her. Ever hear the saying, let a sleeping dog lie? Well, you didn't in this case. You stated that she seemed out of it, yet you bothered her peace again? I don't care if it's Christmas, New Year or whatever the ... you should be reasonable and let someone rest when you see how exhausted they are ... extremely exhausted, knocked out. You could always give the gift later.

I think that you, rather, owe her an apology for being unreasonable. Apologize to her now. You may give her the gift whenever you please, for it doesn't really matter as much as the apology. The only apology she owes you is for her vulgar language (provided it isn't your standard vocabulary)--not the upset/irritation.

Needless to say, if you had no idea that she was that exhausted, and she began swearing at you, acting nasty, I would have said that you should not give her the gift. You should discuss her behavior with her and let her know that you were displeased. You wouldn't tell her that you wanted to give her the watch; rather, you would save the watch for another occasion or another day when everything is dandy. Giving her now would be spoiling her, discouraging the spirit of the holiday, promoting the idea that she's entitled to the gift, and encouraging her bad behavior.

I've got to tell you, though, I have no idea what caliber of gf you have ... maybe you guys swear at each other like that, but I'm astonished....
 
What happenned was so petty.
If you let that kind of petty stuff ruin a 4yr relationship, then you'll be waiting for a while.

All you have to do is go meet her in the morning, don't even bring the subject up...give her the watch and say it was meant to be for her....she'll feel real stupid...you guys will hug, kisses...and have great make-up sex later.
Just thank me later.
 
You wake her up for no reason, she tells you she's still tired, you wake her up again, she says she's still tired, you start asking her stupid math questions so you can "make sure she's awake" when she obviously wants to be asleep (let's keep in mind that it's after midniught at this point), and then YOU get pissed and want to return her gift when she gets annoyed with you?
 
Sounds like my ex ... .eventually I'd give it to her ... and then it would basically not count because of how mad she would get, when I didn't do anything wrong in the first place.

 
keep the watch, give it to her later.

you could be like.....look the reason i woke you up on xmas was because i had one more gift to give. i wanted it to be a surprise. then...say ince you were such a bitch, Im not going to give it to you.

wait till she begs for forgiveness and then give it to her.
 
long time yagt lurker, first time yagt poster, late night sleeper..

While I have to agree with some of the posts that state that you shouldn't wake up sleepy person and as a result they have a right to be annoyed, I don't believe that she should be as annoyed as you mentioned. Going through the original post, it seems like she WANTED to be woken up at 12am. Depending on how persistant you were in trying to wake her up, it may have given her reason to really get ticked off...

Another approach might have been to try to wake her up by mentioning that you had a surprise for her, therefore giving a reason for waking her up (aside from the fact that she asked you to).

It seems like she has anger management problems. She likes to drop the F-bomb a lot. Calling back on the phone and yelling at you some more on the phone is a bit much. By then she SHOULD have calmed down and been more reasonable. You need to try to ask her why she is so mad at you. Also, she's probably wondering what you told her mom since her mom is probably mad at her. Help her out by telling her what's going on.

I also have to agree with the other posts that state you might want to rethink everything, or get a very good explaination for this event. I hope these outbursts are few and rare.

Anyways, merry christmas.
 
Originally posted by: aceO07
long time yagt lurker, first time yagt poster, late night sleeper..

While I have to agree with some of the posts that state that you shouldn't wake up sleepy person and as a result they have a right to be annoyed, I don't believe that she should be as annoyed as you mentioned. Going through the original post, it seems like she WANTED to be woken up at 12am. Depending on how persistant you were in trying to wake her up, it may have given her reason to really get ticked off...

Another approach might have been to try to wake her up by mentioning that you had a surprise for her, therefore giving a reason for waking her up (aside from the fact that she asked you to).

It seems like she has anger management problems. She likes to drop the F-bomb a lot. Calling back on the phone and yelling at you some more on the phone is a bit much. By then she SHOULD have calmed down and been more reasonable. You need to try to ask her why she is so mad at you. Also, she's probably wondering what you told her mom since her mom is probably mad at her. Help her out by telling her what's going on.

I also have to agree with the other posts that state you might want to rethink everything, or get a very good explaination for this event. I hope these outbursts are few and rare.

Anyways, merry christmas.
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well update 🙂
 
It sounded like the whole story was made up but worth reading anyway.
J/K...its too detailed for it to be made up.

Didn't I tell you about the make-up sex ??
Anyway, you got a real keeper there. When you are are married, you know she won't be out buying her stuff all the time.
So is there a chance for PICs ?? of the make-up sex too if you want.
 
Originally posted by: CTrain
It sounded like the whole story was made up but worth reading anyway.
J/K...its too detailed for it to be made up.

Didn't I tell you about the make-up sex ??
Anyway, you got a real keeper there. When you are are married, you know she won't be out buying her stuff all the time.
So is there a chance for PICs ?? of the make-up sex too if you want.
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I've got some pics, if we ever break up 'maybe' (but probably not) I'll post them. I don't keep them on the pc though 😛
 
she sounds like the type of person who loves getting gifts, but only if you get it at a good deal. so, next time, try telling her, "oh. i bought this ring for $8000, but at the mall, it would've costed me $13000!" 😉
 
How annoying. It's one thing to show gratitude and a little humility when receiving an expensive gift ("You shouldn't have, this is way too much"), but it's a whole different thing to play the "return it, return it, return it, OMG HOW COULD YOU RETURN IT! I REALLY LIKED IT!" game. That gets old very quickly.
 
Geeze am I the only person that thinks Hypserion's g.f. is a total spoiled little beeyatch? I mean really you sound way too nice to deal with her antics. I know I am seeing things from the outside but I don't know how you've been dealing with this girl AND kept your sanity.

Good luck, bro. You're gonna need it! 🙂
 
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
Geeze am I the only person that thinks Hypserion's g.f. is a total spoiled little beeyatch? I mean really you sound way too nice to deal with her antics. I know I am seeing things from the outside but I don't know how you've been dealing with this girl AND kept your sanity.

Good luck, bro. You're gonna need it! 🙂
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Agreed. I can't say that her being snappy when he was asking math questions as she was half asleep wasn't warranted, but the follow up calls and just about everything she did after recieving the watch was completely self-absorbed and childish. But I would bet that she pulls some of this crap simply because she can get away with it - hysperion seems like a thoughtful, generous guy and she seems like a spoiled brat...
 
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
Geeze am I the only person that thinks Hypserion's g.f. is a total spoiled little beeyatch? I mean really you sound way too nice to deal with her antics. I know I am seeing things from the outside but I don't know how you've been dealing with this girl AND kept your sanity.

Good luck, bro. You're gonna need it! 🙂
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Agreed. She must have some pretty outstanding qualities (read: b00bs 😉) in order for you to put up with that. Just curious - is your relationship pretty serious? And how old are both of you?
 
holy crap. i would have dumped that girl without so much as a second thought. you're a doormat. how the hell do you put up with it?
 
Dude you have way too much money. Put it into a 401k or something. Buy your g/f a "Moyado" from Chinatown.
 
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