YAGT: Just found out she didn't cheat on me

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

 

[Juno]

so she didn't cheat on you?

:camera:'s?

 

[KoolDrew]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

Could you elaborate?

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
stuff

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

Agreed. Let your balls drop and take charge!

 

[mikelish]

Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem.

Move on, find a better girl

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

From the main female here that never talks about any guys.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

From the main female here that never talks about any guys.

huh?

 

[dmcowen674]

My God OT is full of wusses.

Grow a set of balls before attempting to date.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: KoolDrew

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

Could you elaborate?

you went into this big diatribe telling everyone that she cheated on you when she hadn't. you went overboard without really knowing for certain what went on, and it sounds like you have a penchant for being dramatic.

time for you to step back, stop groveling, and see if she has any lingering feelings left for you.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

From the main female here that never talks about any guys.

huh?

I personally think you have no experience in any relationships or flings...yet you put your comments out there on these things.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

From the main female here that never talks about any guys.

huh?

I personally think you have no experience in any relationships or flings...yet you put your comments out there on these things.

:laugh:

wrong. so wrong. but you go ahead with that.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

i can see why she doesn't want to get back with you.

start being a man about things.

From the main female here that never talks about any guys.

huh?

I personally think you have no experience in any relationships or flings...yet you put your comments out there on these things.

:laugh:

wrong. so wrong. but you go ahead with that.

Just because someone chooses not to air their emotional dirty laundry on ATOT doesn't mean they don't have any. Everyone has issues of some kind.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Just because someone chooses not to air their emotional dirty laundry on ATOT doesn't mean they don't have any. Everyone has issues of some kind.

thanks for coming to her attention...however; airing laundry would enhance post count.

Too many here have no idea on relationships, yet while posting each and every night since they joined think they are experts.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Just because someone chooses not to air their emotional dirty laundry on ATOT doesn't mean they don't have any. Everyone has issues of some kind.

thanks for coming to her attention...however; airing laundry would enhance post count.

Too many here have no idea on relationships, yet while posting each and every night since they joined think they are experts.

he came to my defense not to my attention.

what makes you think you are King Crap Mr. Know-It-All anyways?

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
he came to my defense not to my attention.

what makes you think you are King Crap Mr. Know-It-All anyways?

I don't. However; I usually qualify my responses here. It's typical for ppl to throw out remarks though that have no idea.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: moshquerade
he came to my defense not to my attention.

what makes you think you are King Crap Mr. Know-It-All anyways?

I don't. However; I usually qualify my responses here. It's typical for ppl to throw out remarks though that have no idea.

guess what? you have no idea.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: iliopsoas

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No actually... that's a pretty good signal that she doesn't love you. If she even cared about you a little bit she wouldn't have done that.

sometimes people make bad choices. you honestly think that if someone cheats on the other person and regrets it because it was a mistake and they love their significant other that they really don't?

If she truly loved him, she never would have done that. Period.

it's not that black and white... the only thing that's black and white is what you do after you find out your significant other cheated on you: stay or leave. if you believe that she's extremely sorry and still loves you and you still love her, you try to work it out as best you can, if you can. if you don't believe she still loves you or if you don't love her anymore, you leave.

unless you're on the receiving end, cheating really isn't the most cut and dry thing, guys.

Well when someday you finally figure out what love really is, then you may understand. But it is that simple. If she was truly in love it never would have happened. She has probably also yet to find out what love really is.

i know what love is, you pretentious douche. just because i don't see eye to eye with you on this subject doesn't mean that i don't know what love is.

i'm not excusing cheating... i'm saying that just because someone cheated on you one time and regretted it doesn't mean that they didn't love you. quit being ignorant and looking at the world in monochrome... it's not that easy.

Thanks for calling me names. At least it shows what kind of person you are.

I never said you were excusing cheating, and I'm not looking at the world in monochrome. Most people these days just don't know what love really is. You're one of them. In time, you will come to understand - or at least I hope that you do.

How old are you anyway?

and i know what kind you are... pretentious as hell.

the only douche around here is you. STFU already. Cheating in a relationship <> love.

stfu you dumb piece of trolling shyt... honestly... just stfu.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: iliopsoas

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No actually... that's a pretty good signal that she doesn't love you. If she even cared about you a little bit she wouldn't have done that.

sometimes people make bad choices. you honestly think that if someone cheats on the other person and regrets it because it was a mistake and they love their significant other that they really don't?

Having sex with someone else when you are in a committed relationship is not a "mistake." Filling up with the wrong gas is a mistake. Forgetting to pay the electric bill is a mistake. Locking yourself out of the house is a mistake.

Having sex with another person when you are in a relationship is a pre-meditated and calculated decision where a person weighs the prospect of satisfying their curiosity vs the likelyhood that they will be caught. The other person's feelings don't come into play in that equasion. And when you act against your SO without regard to their feelings then there is no love there. Guilt, maybe. But I'd say love is out the window.

DING DING DING!!! I'm a huge troll!.

fixed.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: iliopsoas

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: eits
just because she cheated on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it just means that she made a dumb and regretful choice. if she KEPT cheating on you, that'd mean that she didn't really love you that much.

No actually... that's a pretty good signal that she doesn't love you. If she even cared about you a little bit she wouldn't have done that.

sometimes people make bad choices. you honestly think that if someone cheats on the other person and regrets it because it was a mistake and they love their significant other that they really don't?

If she truly loved him, she never would have done that. Period.

it's not that black and white... the only thing that's black and white is what you do after you find out your significant other cheated on you: stay or leave. if you believe that she's extremely sorry and still loves you and you still love her, you try to work it out as best you can, if you can. if you don't believe she still loves you or if you don't love her anymore, you leave.

unless you're on the receiving end, cheating really isn't the most cut and dry thing, guys.

Well when someday you finally figure out what love really is, then you may understand. But it is that simple. If she was truly in love it never would have happened. She has probably also yet to find out what love really is.

i know what love is, you pretentious douche. just because i don't see eye to eye with you on this subject doesn't mean that i don't know what love is.

i'm not excusing cheating... i'm saying that just because someone cheated on you one time and regretted it doesn't mean that they didn't love you. quit being ignorant and looking at the world in monochrome... it's not that easy.

They may have loved you up until the exact point they cheated on you, but true love requires sacrifice. Cheating = opposite of sacrifice. Its inexcusable. Doesnt matter how plastered he or she is. Once, and it's over as far as I'm concerned.

i haven't been in the situation, so i don't know whether i can say that if she cheated on me once, it'd be over. i'd like to think i'd say that, but i can't say it for sure without being in the situation.... i think i would... i dunno how i'd be able to handle knowing that she cheated on me with someone else and i wouldn't want to be worrying about whether or not it'll happen again...

either way, i still say it's possible for someone to love their significant other even though they cheated... it's possible to love someone and not be happy with the status of your relationship and, therefore, more easily led astray or seduced... and then, after it happens, it's possible to feel like shyt for what you've done and for betraying your significant other's trust and love because you still love them...

That's right. You've never been in the situation so you dont' really know, do you?

For us who've had the battle scars, we know better. Cheating is pure selfishness and is completely void of regard, respect and love for your partner.

just because i've never been cheated on doesn't mean that i don't have friends who cheated and have been cheated on... it doesn't mean that i've been there through their entire drama and dealt with everything that happened.

yes, cheating is selfish, but it doesn't mean that they didn't love the person. you're too stupid to realize that love is subjective. instead, you'd rather latch on to any post i make and wear it out worse than your mom's crotch.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: iliopsoas

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: eits
and i know what kind you are... pretentious as hell.

Whatever makes you feel better about yourself.

And you ignored my question I see.

hehe it's funny because what i need to feel better about myself has nothing to do with being pretentious. so, sure, i'll take this over being you :laugh:

and i'm 23... 24 in march.

*awaits more pretentious snobbery of some sort... probably something about my age, this time*

Dude, stop talking out your ass already. Just STFU. You're nothing but a 23 yo snot-nosed douche. Give it a break. You haven't even grown out of your diapers yet, much less know anything about a true relationship.

wtf do you know, you fat fvck?

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: eits
either way, i still say it's possible for someone to love their significant other even though they cheated... it's possible to love someone and not be happy with the status of your relationship and, therefore, more easily led astray or seduced... and then, after it happens, it's possible to feel like shyt for what you've done and for betraying your significant other's trust and love because you still love them...

That's the most horrible excuse for excusing cheating. If you aren't happy with the status of your relationship, either talk to you significant other or get the f*ck out of the relationship. Cheating is for the weak minded. Period.

Exactly

that's pathetic... that's part of why there are so many divorces in this country.

just because you're not happy with the current status of your relationship doesn't mean that you have to end it... it doesn't mean that it's ok to cheat, either. what it means is that you need to open communication lines and work at fixing what's wrong with the relationship.

love is subjective. you people think that just because YOU wouldn't cheat or would only cheat if you didn't really love who you with that that MUST be the ONLY way love must manifest itself... that's not the case. love is felt differently by everyone and shown differently by everyone. people have bad judgment at times, especially at certain moments of weakness... should you blame them? absolutely. but does that mean automatically that they still don't love you? NO.

lust is a very powerful thing, as is love... if you think that you could never tempted and potentially go astray by someone else while you love someone else, you're either immature and still living in a fantasy world of disney movies or you're too busy watching romantic comedies.

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: KoolDrew
:brokenheart:

And this whole time I thought she really loved me... 🙁

Update:

It turns out she didn't cheat on me which makes me feel like crap. See, I was told by both my sister and one of my ex's friends that she did yesterday. It turns out my sister also found out from this friend. Now normally I wouldn't believe what other people had to say because I do trust her, but that night there was a bit of confusion about our plans and I thought she ditched me, but she didn't. So, I already thought she ditched me so it made me believe that she did cheat on me. And I called her up and asked her about it and she seemed hesitant to answer which made me believe she cheated on me even further, but it could have to do with her being around a bunch of people at the time.

Well, my ex did tell me what did happen, and she's never really lied to me the whole time we've been together (almost 8 months), but with all this going on I did not believe her. Then today I asked her friend again and she told me she had it all wrong. So, I asked around even more and it turns out that my ex was telling the truth. Everything she told me was exactly what I was hearing from other people. It turns out the guy she supposedly cheated on me with made it up and other people believed him. Then it finally got to me.

So, basically we are not together now because of all this crap going around and I believed it and dumped her because of it, without even really listening to her side. However, even after I apologized for me not believing her and everything she doesn't want to be with me. The reason she told me was because my friends and family hate her because they think she cheated on me. I can see why that would suck, but as a reason for not wanting to get back with me? I could simply tell my friends and family the truth, which I would've planned on doing anyway. Her other reason is that she does not feel good enough for me. Now, you should know she is a person of very low self-esteem. She just keeps telling me that we can't be together. We did just break up last night. Maybe I should just give her some time?

This whole situation really sucks...

Perhaps she made it all up as an excuse to break up with you. It'd be easier for her that way.

 

[IMaN00BieGF]

Bottom line: It's over and its time to move on. It's good to know the reason why you all broke up and then use it to move on and then in the future hopefully things will go better for you. 🙂

 

[MrsBugi]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: Cookie

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: eits
either way, i still say it's possible for someone to love their significant other even though they cheated... it's possible to love someone and not be happy with the status of your relationship and, therefore, more easily led astray or seduced... and then, after it happens, it's possible to feel like shyt for what you've done and for betraying your significant other's trust and love because you still love them...

That's the most horrible excuse for excusing cheating. If you aren't happy with the status of your relationship, either talk to you significant other or get the f*ck out of the relationship. Cheating is for the weak minded. Period.

Exactly

that's pathetic... that's part of why there are so many divorces in this country.

just because you're not happy with the current status of your relationship doesn't mean that you have to end it... it doesn't mean that it's ok to cheat, either. what it means is that you need to open communication lines and work at fixing what's wrong with the relationship.

love is subjective. you people think that just because YOU wouldn't cheat or would only cheat if you didn't really love who you with that that MUST be the ONLY way love must manifest itself... that's not the case. love is felt differently by everyone and shown differently by everyone. people have bad judgment at times, especially at certain moments of weakness... should you blame them? absolutely. but does that mean automatically that they still don't love you? NO.

lust is a very powerful thing, as is love... if you think that you could never tempted and potentially go astray by someone else while you love someone else, you're either immature and still living in a fantasy world of disney movies or you're too busy watching romantic comedies.

I concur.

I have never cheated on my husband, but he cheated on me early in our relationship, when we were engaged... given the circumstances (he was drunk/influenced by his older brother/regretted it very much/loves me, not the stranger he cheated on me with), we communicated our thoughts, feelings, and needs, I forgave him, and we moved onward. Now we are happily married, and all the stronger for it.

Everyone's circumstances are different and I definitely don't support or even condone cheating, but I do believe that while taking a black or white, all-or-nothing, he/she-loves-me-or-she doesn't, one-strike-and-you're-out attitude may be good for protecting your feelings initially, it may hinder your ability to have a deep, meaningful, forgiving, accepting, and long-lasting relationship with another human being.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: eits
love is subjective. you people think that just because YOU wouldn't cheat or would only cheat if you didn't really love who you with that that MUST be the ONLY way love must manifest itself... that's not the case. love is felt differently by everyone and shown differently by everyone. people have bad judgment at times, especially at certain moments of weakness... should you blame them? absolutely. but does that mean automatically that they still don't love you? NO.

lust is a very powerful thing, as is love... if you think that you could never tempted and potentially go astray by someone else while you love someone else, you're either immature and still living in a fantasy world of disney movies or you're too busy watching romantic comedies.

Sounds like the typical cheater talk. "Don't blame me, I'm the victim here. *tear*" Maybe they should learn what the word commitment means. And if they break it, don't be suprised if you ass gets tossed out to the curb.