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YAGT: It's over. Done. Fiancee = Ex-fiancee. *RESOLVED*

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I'd be very careful here Red ... this is emotional blackmail. Threatening to end the relationship over a relatively minor issue. It's very immature, and if she pulled it now, odds are she'll do it in the future. You sound like it's not a big deal now ... kiss & make up, etc. But it is a big deal. I really think you need to step back a bit. Consider putting the marrigae plans on hold for another year or so, and get some in-depth premarital counseling.
 
Oh I meant to ask: Is there any chance that she's doing this in part to get the ring back from you? If you break up in two weeks next time I bet she won't throw the ring at you that time.
 
Originally posted by: KK
So she wanted to take a shower with you and you played ping pong instead. Don't you know, after you get married the sex is off? 🙁
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Sex probably ain't that great when her folks are in the same house. How many parents you know are cool with you slipping it to their unmarried daughter while they're downstairs?

As for the OP: Red, I hope you didn't give her the ring back. Seems very foolish to trust her with that kind of commitment yet again if she's just shown what her idea of punishing you for minor infractions is.
 
wait wait, she wanted to "teach you a lesson" by toying with the fact that you are going to be married?

What a load of bull...

That's just sooo wrong, too.
 
She was upset because I didn't share her positivity/enthusiasm
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you = pu$$y

for reals. you say youve been in a relationship for 3 years, of which only 2 she has
been feeling in real love with you. this is all been cooking for quite a while.

if she isnt the one whos right now crying for acting like a fool: you = pu$$y.
 
Originally posted by: crooked22
She was upset because I didn't share her positivity/enthusiasm
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you = pu$$y

for reals.
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For reals? You = pu$&y? You're talking like an idiot, so I wouldn't call anyone else names n00b.

BTW, don't look at it as losing 3 years, look at it as saving the rest of your life.
 
Sorry dude, after reading that, I don't know if a relationship like that is going to work out. Is stuff like this going to be a problem after you're married?
 
I have to agree with the others...I really don't think you should have taken her back. At the very least...call of the engagement until she gets her head out of the clouds. I think you're ready for marriage, but you need to recognize that she is not. Marriage isn't about this manipulation crap she is pulling. You can be the rock all you want...stable and straightforward...but if she isn't with you on this, do you really expect it to work?

I know we all sound harsh, and it feels like we're crapping on your relationship...but I think everyone in here is just trying to get you to avoid making a huge mistake.
 
Originally posted by: ergeorge
I'd be very careful here Red ... this is emotional blackmail. Threatening to end the relationship over a relatively minor issue. It's very immature, and if she pulled it now, odds are she'll do it in the future. You sound like it's not a big deal now ... kiss & make up, etc. But it is a big deal. I really think you need to step back a bit. Consider putting the marrigae plans on hold for another year or so, and get some in-depth premarital counseling.
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This is very, very good advice, I couldn't have said it better myself.

How do you know she's not going to say the same thing again once you're married and the newly-wed feeling goes away?
 
Originally posted by: Ilmater
Originally posted by: crooked22
She was upset because I didn't share her positivity/enthusiasm
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you = pu$$y

for reals.
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For reals? You = pu$&y? You're talking like an idiot, so I wouldn't call anyone else names n00b.

BTW, don't look at it as losing 3 years, look at it as saving the rest of your life.
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tell me oh great wise jerk, what did i said it makes me an idiot??

the guy when to tell his gf he was not going to take anything like that anymore,
yet he comes back bearing the responsability for her... IMHO thats being a pu$$y.

thats like saying she cheated on me because i work too damn much.

biatch.
 
she wanted to teach me a lesson by putting me in the doghouse
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So let me get this straight: She calls off the engagement over this, then takes it back while stating the above? Wow. In my opinion, any woman who pulls sh*t like that is NOT worthy of long-term consideration. While I might be generalizing a bit, I think her complete lack of maturity is showing through loud and clear.
 
Originally posted by: DopeFiend
Originally posted by: ergeorge
I'd be very careful here Red ... this is emotional blackmail. Threatening to end the relationship over a relatively minor issue. It's very immature, and if she pulled it now, odds are she'll do it in the future. You sound like it's not a big deal now ... kiss & make up, etc. But it is a big deal. I really think you need to step back a bit. Consider putting the marrigae plans on hold for another year or so, and get some in-depth premarital counseling.
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This is very, very good advice, I couldn't have said it better myself.

How do you know she's not going to say the same thing again once you're married and the newly-wed feeling goes away?
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Very true, I never thought of it that way.
 
That's the power of pussy gentlemen.

It's hard to overcome.
He obviously failed.
Expect another YAGT later down the road. And lets have an extra order of "I told you so."
 
Originally posted by: isekii
That's the power of pussy gentlemen.

It's hard to overcome.
He obviously failed.
Expect another YAGT later down the road. And lets have an extra order of "I told you so."
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Run while you can, unless she grows out of this BS sometime in the very, very near future your life is going to be a living hell.

She needs counseling (both of you would be ideal), it did wonders for my g/f.

Viper GTS
 
Originally posted by: crooked22
Originally posted by: Ilmater
Originally posted by: crooked22
She was upset because I didn't share her positivity/enthusiasm
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you = pu$$y

for reals.
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For reals? You = pu$&y? You're talking like an idiot, so I wouldn't call anyone else names n00b.

BTW, don't look at it as losing 3 years, look at it as saving the rest of your life.
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tell me oh great wise jerk, what did i said it makes me an idiot??

the guy when to tell his gf he was not going to take anything like that anymore,
yet he comes back bearing the responsability for her... IMHO thats being a pu$$y.

thats like saying she cheated on me because i work too damn much.

biatch.
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Haha ... served by the new guy. :beer:😀

crooked22 is exactly right though, Red = *makes whip-crack noise* and now she knows it. FFS, she called off the engagement and you took her back after a few days? WTH is wrong with you? Tell her you need time to think things over or some BS.

And if you gave her back the ring, you might as well hand over your car keys, bank card, and your balls - because she's already got them on her keychain as it is.

- M4H
 
You're too young to be engaged, jesus christ. 21?? I know you love her, but you have to STAND YOUR GROUND. Don't let her walk on you by calling off the engagement then making up and everything is peachy again.. screw that. That's a serious matter. You need to start putting your foot down more often (without being a nazi though..be reasonable).. and if she starts having serious problems with that, she's controlling & you should kick her to the curb.

Here's a bit of advice for you. Women + expectations = very very bad. When a woman has expectations in mind, you will never be good enough in their eyes. Ditch her, cut your losses, spend some time mourning, then go date again, and find yourself a mature, realistic woman with a heart of gold who has no expectations, or at least understands men and knows what to expect. I'm sick & tired of these "princesses"! Man. Oh and the fact that she wanted to keep the engagement ring after breaking up should be a HUGE red flag. RED FLAG.

Just my two cents.
 
Sounds like you have some personal power/control issue with relationship; it's not about who control the relationship. Why don't you show her some real love and care that she - as supposed the love of you life - deserves?


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Originally posted by: Supa
Sounds like you have some personal power/control issue with relationship; it's not about who control the relationship. Why don't you show her some real love and care that she - as supposed the love of you life - deserves?


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Are you daft or just a fellow princess? She's trying to emotionally blackmail him and you accuse him of having a power/control issue? You're right, he does: She's trying to fvcking control him. It sounds to me the guy does the best he can and is trying to make this work, then she starts making waves for the sake of making them. She's turning this into less of a relationship and more of a power struggle, not him.
 
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