***3nd UPDATE*** Monday 07:24...
So, yesterday, after she called me in the morning and acted like nothing happened, she told me she wanted to talk after work. I told her I think we need to have a long talk as well. After work she came over. Things were a bit emotional because I laid it all out on the table. I told her I think her head is in the clouds in regards to romance and I'm not changing. I told her that, yeah, sometimes I could put more effort into our relationship but I'm never going to be able to fill the shoes she expects me to wear. She apologized for acting the way she did the night before, but she explained that she was excited to see me after 2 days and was upset that I showed no enthusiasm and the first thing I wanted to do was play ping pong and forget we had dinner/pizza scheduled... she wanted to teach me a lesson by putting me in the doghouse. I told her it's not mature or acceptable for her to play with my emotions like that. I told her next time she needs to simply talk to me about it because we're both mature adults. She apologized for acting like a psycho and having unreasonable expectations and I agreed to put more effort into spending quality time with her. We "made up" and everything seems a lot better now that we laid everything out on the table.
***1st UPDATE*** 11:06am -- She just called me for the first time after the fight and acted like nothing happened. Asked me when I woke up, how I slept, etc. I didn't have the heart/gall to say anything to her then because she was getting ready for work. I told her to go get breakfast and get ready for work. Then she calls back 4 minutes later and is like "What are you doing?" I told her I'm playing on the computer, why? "That's all I need to know, thanks." ... What the hell was that?
It's 11:47 pm. Just got home from having the final argument with my fiancee. Back in November, I posted this YAGT about how my fiancee was upset that she really didn't feel the "spark" anymore after 2 or 3 years. You guys gave excellent advice to me about how she has her head in the clouds if she really thinks she is going to get butterflies in her stomach everyday... and feel sparks e v e r y day.
Well, tonight was it folks. Megan and her mother took a two-day trip (Friday + today) to Pigeon Forge (4 hours away) to go shopping. Before she took the trip, we had a talk on Thursday and the topic came up again. She told me I need to start being romantic / spontaneous or we need to stop wasting our time. So tonight, I came over when she got home from her trip. She told me she wanted to watch a movie and I asked if she wanted ice cream or wanted me to order a pizza or something. She said pizza sounds good.... then said she was going to take a shower. Soooo, I told her I'd play ping pong with her dad until she got out and I'll order a pizza in the meantime.
An hour passes, I stop playing ping pong and go order the pizza. I walk up to her room and she is sitting on her floor, reading a magazine and painting her nails, she hadn't taken a shower yet. I told her I ordered the pizza and asked why she hadnt taken a shower..... she said "don't talk to me. Don't touch me. You haven't seen me in two days and all you want to do is play ping pong with my family." We got into an argument and she said we're done. She said I have made no improvement in the past 12 months to be more romantic or spontaneous so we're done. She said she is keeping the engagement ring and I said no way. She gave me the ring and asked me to get out of her house, in not the nicest way.
I told her she needs to get her head out of the clouds. I explained how I thought we had a great relationship... we both are open and trust each other, we've never had to worry about cheating on each other, we both have goals for the future.... etc. She said the man she is spending the rest of her life with is not me, because she needs someone to sweep her off her feet for the rest of her life.
I told her she is being unreasonable and is throwing away 3 years and an excellent relationship because she is looking for story book romance. I told her she is probably upset because she just got back from a 4 hour road trip and needs to cool off.
She told me I'm wrong and we've had this talk 4 or 5 times before and I'm not the person she wants to be with. She said she is sick of being with a person who tries to act 45 years old when he is only 21 (since I tell her she needs to make a budget and don't enjoy getting drunk and having drunk sex every weekend) so she asked me to leave again.
At that point she got to me a little so I said "You only get one shot with the champ. If you want to throw everything we have away because you're looking for some kind of italian fighter pilot to make breakfast for you every morning and have spontaneous sex with you in a public bathroom, I'm not that guy. If you want to throw it all away, you don't get a second chance with me."
She put the engagement ring in my shirt pocket and said "Get out of my house."
**** Cliffs Notes ****
1. Fiancee has had 4 or 5 talks with me the past 12 months about how I need to give her sparks. She had another talk with me Thursday, the day before she took a 2 day road trip with her mom.
2. Tonight she tells me she is pissed that I chose to play ping pong with her dad instead of be with her after I haven't seen her for 2 days. I explain its because I thought she was getting a shower to get ready to watch a movie and eat.
3. We get in an argument. She wants the engagement ring. I take it. She tells me she is sick of me. I tell her she is crazy to throw away what we have.
4. She tells me to leave her house for the 2nd or 3rd time and I finally do.
3 years = down the drain. Motherfvcker.
EDIT: Title was misspelled.
So, yesterday, after she called me in the morning and acted like nothing happened, she told me she wanted to talk after work. I told her I think we need to have a long talk as well. After work she came over. Things were a bit emotional because I laid it all out on the table. I told her I think her head is in the clouds in regards to romance and I'm not changing. I told her that, yeah, sometimes I could put more effort into our relationship but I'm never going to be able to fill the shoes she expects me to wear. She apologized for acting the way she did the night before, but she explained that she was excited to see me after 2 days and was upset that I showed no enthusiasm and the first thing I wanted to do was play ping pong and forget we had dinner/pizza scheduled... she wanted to teach me a lesson by putting me in the doghouse. I told her it's not mature or acceptable for her to play with my emotions like that. I told her next time she needs to simply talk to me about it because we're both mature adults. She apologized for acting like a psycho and having unreasonable expectations and I agreed to put more effort into spending quality time with her. We "made up" and everything seems a lot better now that we laid everything out on the table.
***1st UPDATE*** 11:06am -- She just called me for the first time after the fight and acted like nothing happened. Asked me when I woke up, how I slept, etc. I didn't have the heart/gall to say anything to her then because she was getting ready for work. I told her to go get breakfast and get ready for work. Then she calls back 4 minutes later and is like "What are you doing?" I told her I'm playing on the computer, why? "That's all I need to know, thanks." ... What the hell was that?
It's 11:47 pm. Just got home from having the final argument with my fiancee. Back in November, I posted this YAGT about how my fiancee was upset that she really didn't feel the "spark" anymore after 2 or 3 years. You guys gave excellent advice to me about how she has her head in the clouds if she really thinks she is going to get butterflies in her stomach everyday... and feel sparks e v e r y day.
Well, tonight was it folks. Megan and her mother took a two-day trip (Friday + today) to Pigeon Forge (4 hours away) to go shopping. Before she took the trip, we had a talk on Thursday and the topic came up again. She told me I need to start being romantic / spontaneous or we need to stop wasting our time. So tonight, I came over when she got home from her trip. She told me she wanted to watch a movie and I asked if she wanted ice cream or wanted me to order a pizza or something. She said pizza sounds good.... then said she was going to take a shower. Soooo, I told her I'd play ping pong with her dad until she got out and I'll order a pizza in the meantime.
An hour passes, I stop playing ping pong and go order the pizza. I walk up to her room and she is sitting on her floor, reading a magazine and painting her nails, she hadn't taken a shower yet. I told her I ordered the pizza and asked why she hadnt taken a shower..... she said "don't talk to me. Don't touch me. You haven't seen me in two days and all you want to do is play ping pong with my family." We got into an argument and she said we're done. She said I have made no improvement in the past 12 months to be more romantic or spontaneous so we're done. She said she is keeping the engagement ring and I said no way. She gave me the ring and asked me to get out of her house, in not the nicest way.
I told her she needs to get her head out of the clouds. I explained how I thought we had a great relationship... we both are open and trust each other, we've never had to worry about cheating on each other, we both have goals for the future.... etc. She said the man she is spending the rest of her life with is not me, because she needs someone to sweep her off her feet for the rest of her life.
I told her she is being unreasonable and is throwing away 3 years and an excellent relationship because she is looking for story book romance. I told her she is probably upset because she just got back from a 4 hour road trip and needs to cool off.
She told me I'm wrong and we've had this talk 4 or 5 times before and I'm not the person she wants to be with. She said she is sick of being with a person who tries to act 45 years old when he is only 21 (since I tell her she needs to make a budget and don't enjoy getting drunk and having drunk sex every weekend) so she asked me to leave again.
At that point she got to me a little so I said "You only get one shot with the champ. If you want to throw everything we have away because you're looking for some kind of italian fighter pilot to make breakfast for you every morning and have spontaneous sex with you in a public bathroom, I'm not that guy. If you want to throw it all away, you don't get a second chance with me."
She put the engagement ring in my shirt pocket and said "Get out of my house."
**** Cliffs Notes ****
1. Fiancee has had 4 or 5 talks with me the past 12 months about how I need to give her sparks. She had another talk with me Thursday, the day before she took a 2 day road trip with her mom.
2. Tonight she tells me she is pissed that I chose to play ping pong with her dad instead of be with her after I haven't seen her for 2 days. I explain its because I thought she was getting a shower to get ready to watch a movie and eat.
3. We get in an argument. She wants the engagement ring. I take it. She tells me she is sick of me. I tell her she is crazy to throw away what we have.
4. She tells me to leave her house for the 2nd or 3rd time and I finally do.
3 years = down the drain. Motherfvcker.
EDIT: Title was misspelled.
