YAGT: Is there something wrong with me?

[XNice]

or just ask her up front. thats what college guys do.

"So.... when you gonna let me get in that? *nods toward her zipper* "
Or if thats too gansta for you you can try,
"I kinda like you again and we should practice making out to make sure that you like me back."

 

[Shortcut]

Sounds like you're not over her, yet.

Just for kicks, try this: don't call her for a few days, but don't tell her to call you, either. I have no idea what will happen, but I bet the results would be insightful

 

[DotheDamnTHing]

Originally posted by: XNice
or just ask her up front. thats what college guys do.

"So.... when you gonna let me get in that? *nods toward her zipper* "
Or if thats too gansta for you you can try,
"I kinda like you again and we should practice making out to make sure that you like me back."

 

[imported_Stew]

I gave in and called her Monday... I couldn't help it.

I guess I just need to get over her now.

What do you guys do when you want to get over your best friend?

 

[BlueFlamme]

You touched her leg because you're a guy with raging hormones. I remember talking on the phone for hours on end at that stage in my life. By the time I hit college my future wife would be lucky to get me to talk for half an hour on the phone.

Most important thing is to not make such a big deal out of it. Its easy to now go and mope and fret on things, find someting to keep yourself occupied and your mind busy. Finding another hot girl to pursue will help :thumbsup:

I honestly don't advocate the 100% cut off because that leaves your mind open to wondering about them and if you have mutual friends you will try to get updates through them. Just take a big step back and do not call her as much, maybe try to just meet her once a week to hang out (even better if it is in a group setting). All the while when not with her make sure you have other stuff to keep you plenty busy so your mind doesn't just ponder on this issue time and time again.

At least that is how it worked for me (iirc), everyone is different. good luck!

 

[firerock]

I feel your pain. When I was in HS, those sort of puppy love bothered lots of people, including myself. It's easy to say that just get over it, but it's harder for you to say that while you are in the middle of it. You kind of have to ease out the relationship with her. Otherwise, it's almost impossible for you to let go your love feeling for her. Go find another new friend, or even another date to move your focus away from her. Only time will slowly ease your thoughts from her and I hope the best for you. BTW, you are about to graduate, you should focus on your school works as well!

 

[bleeb]

Sounds like you are obsessed. I think you should take a cold shower and forget about it. Become a professional playa and don't get bogged down by these emotions which you think are love. Because it isn't. Its obsession by Stew.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: Stew
Is there something wrong with me?

no, not really... you're just upset and feeling rejected because she doesn't show the same interest in you as you do in her. it's natural.

remedy = quit calling and go find some hot little ass to poke with your man-log while she wonders why stew hasn't called

 

[Theguynextdoor]

You need to make yourself wanted.

Don't believe ANY bs about a girl that doesn't have ANY mutual feelings towards a person with money.

EVERY female will look for a SUCCESSFUL male. It's in their nature to find the most sucessful male. The alpha male.

Although success only ranks second to good looks when a female considers a male, it's powerful enough to overlook it. Unless you look like a pile of dirt, which you don't judging from your picture.

There are only THREE things that will show a female that you are sucessful.

1) Money
2) Number of females that he dates
3) Confidence.

If you can nail down these things, every female will at least give you consideration. And the ones that let you go WILL feel guilty.

When I was in HS I got my fair share of rejections. When I landed a better-then-the-average HS pay job, all the girls that rejected me were suddenly "my friends".

EVERY girl has a bit of a gold-digger gene in them. It's there by nature. Just like EVERY guy wants a good looking girl.

 

[imported_Stew]

Originally posted by: Theguynextdoor
You need to make yourself wanted.

Don't believe ANY bs about a girl that doesn't have ANY mutual feelings towards a person with money.

EVERY female will look for a SUCCESSFUL male. It's in their nature to find the most sucessful male. The alpha male.

Although success only ranks second to good looks when a female considers a male, it's powerful enough to overlook it. Unless you look like a pile of dirt, which you don't judging from your picture.

There are only THREE things that will show a female that you are sucessful.

1) Money
2) Number of females that he dates
3) Confidence.

If you can nail down these things, every female will at least give you consideration. And the ones that let you go WILL feel guilty.

When I was in HS I got my fair share of rejections. When I landed a better-then-the-average HS pay job, all the girls that rejected me were suddenly "my friends".

EVERY girl has a bit of a gold-digger gene in them. It's there by nature. Just like EVERY guy wants a good looking girl.

Interesting...

 

[Sheepathon]

Look, it's Christian Slater!

 

[imported_Stew]

Originally posted by: Sheepathon
Look, it's Christian Slater!

That's the first time I've heard that o.0

 

[Safeway]

Originally posted by: Stew

Originally posted by: Theguynextdoor
You need to make yourself wanted.

Don't believe ANY bs about a girl that doesn't have ANY mutual feelings towards a person with money.

EVERY female will look for a SUCCESSFUL male. It's in their nature to find the most sucessful male. The alpha male.

Although success only ranks second to good looks when a female considers a male, it's powerful enough to overlook it. Unless you look like a pile of dirt, which you don't judging from your picture.

There are only THREE things that will show a female that you are sucessful.

1) Money
2) Number of females that he dates
3) Confidence.

If you can nail down these things, every female will at least give you consideration. And the ones that let you go WILL feel guilty.

When I was in HS I got my fair share of rejections. When I landed a better-then-the-average HS pay job, all the girls that rejected me were suddenly "my friends".

EVERY girl has a bit of a gold-digger gene in them. It's there by nature. Just like EVERY guy wants a good looking girl.

Interesting...

I have to say that this is the absolute truth. I've made a substantial amount of money and that made a world of difference in the 'hotness' of girls coming on to me. Thankfully, I've had a steady relationship for the past 3-4 years ... so I know that this one isn't digging for gold.

I say the make of car you drive has the biggest impact. Hell, when girls come over and see the tech that I have in my room, my clothing, and my car - I can tell they are picturing a few more Coach handbags added to their collections.

 

[Slacker]

Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: Slacker
......in the immortal words of .38 special "Hold on loosely"

:music:but don't let go:music:

:music:if you cling too tightly;

[/quote]


Dang, I might have to use one of my free itunes

:music::music::music::heart::brokenheart:
You see it all around you
Good lovin' gone bad
And usually it's too late when you, realize what you had
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago,
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling to tightly,
you're gonna lose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

It's so damn easy, when your feelings are such
To overprotect her, to love her too much
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna loose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

Don't let her slip away
Sentimental fool
Don't let your heart get in her way
yeah, yeah, yeah,

You see it all around you
Good lovin' gone bad
And usually it's too late when you, realize what you had
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago,
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling to tightly,
you're gonna lose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

So Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna lose it
You're gonna -- lose control
yeah, yeah, yeah Just Hold On Loosely but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna loose control

Hold on Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna loose control
yeah, yeah, yeah:music:

 

[tranceport]

I'd hit it.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: Stew

Originally posted by: Theguynextdoor
You need to make yourself wanted.

Don't believe ANY bs about a girl that doesn't have ANY mutual feelings towards a person with money.

EVERY female will look for a SUCCESSFUL male. It's in their nature to find the most sucessful male. The alpha male.

Although success only ranks second to good looks when a female considers a male, it's powerful enough to overlook it. Unless you look like a pile of dirt, which you don't judging from your picture.

There are only THREE things that will show a female that you are sucessful.

1) Money
2) Number of females that he dates
3) Confidence.

If you can nail down these things, every female will at least give you consideration. And the ones that let you go WILL feel guilty.

When I was in HS I got my fair share of rejections. When I landed a better-then-the-average HS pay job, all the girls that rejected me were suddenly "my friends".

EVERY girl has a bit of a gold-digger gene in them. It's there by nature. Just like EVERY guy wants a good looking girl.

Interesting...

not really... more like common knowledge

 

[amicold]

Originally posted by: Stew
I've got a really great friend, named Emily and we've known each other about a year.

We dated for a while, and now we're best friends, but still have feelings for each other. (That's part of the problem... but not the one I want to ask about.)

We go to different schools, and talk on the phone almost every night in excess of an hour, sometimes two hours. We get along just great, and love talking to each other.

The problem though... I'm always the one that calls. Unless I specifically ask her to call me on a certain day, I'm always the one that phones her. I don't really have a problem with this, but subconsciously I think I'm feeling rejected. More importantly, 99% of the time, she is the first one to go. It's not that she doesn't like talking to me, but she has stuff to do and she's not allowed to talk too long on the phone, due to the fact that we're both in high school and her parents don't want her hogging the phone.

Anyway, the thing is: I always get upset when she says she has to go, and when she hangs up. I usually stall her, and when she goes I often wait to hear the dial tone and just listen. Recently, I actually threw my cordless phone across the room in anger/sadness.

Is there something wrong with me?
Am I obsessed?
Pic of me and her

You're obsessive. Been there, done that. Ever obsess over someone to the point they won't talk to you because you bother them too much? I have, just don't bother her to get back into a relationship with you too soon. Or too much, I did. Never again =)

 

[ohmide]

Get to college, none of this will matter. If it happens in college, you'll remember that.

 

[Theguynextdoor]

Originally posted by: Safeway

Originally posted by: Stew

Interesting...

I have to say that this is the absolute truth. I've made a substantial amount of money and that made a world of difference in the 'hotness' of girls coming on to me. Thankfully, I've had a steady relationship for the past 3-4 years ... so I know that this one isn't digging for gold.

I say the make of car you drive has the biggest impact. Hell, when girls come over and see the tech that I have in my room, my clothing, and my car - I can tell they are picturing a few more Coach handbags added to their collections.

Shoulda seen the reactions, when I rolled in my senior year in my shiny new vette.
I saw it as my dream car, they saw it as a trophy...

 

[darkamulets]

A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.


And

show me a chick worth worrying about after you're not the one fvcking them anymore and I'll show you the value of the imaginary number i

gotta love bash

 

[EngenZerO]

time to move on...

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: Stew

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
what an annoying reply. at least tell us what you said and how she responded. dont come in here posting this crap and leaving it so generic we barely know what happened. you cant start a YAGT and behave like that.

lol..

We walked down the cul-de-sac of my street, where it's dark, with my black lab dog with us. She chuckled and told me that her friend Elliot once showed her some constellations. So I came over and looked at the stars with her. She told me she didn't know any, so I showed her Orion, and put my arm around her. But I just sorta squeezed, then let go and kept walking.

Then, I told her that the previous night had been pretty painful for me, since we were sorta flirting a lot, and she looked so good, etc. I still really liked her.

She was sorta like, "Oh..." and so I asked her if she felt the same way at all.

She said not really.

Anyway, that's the beginning of me being a loser.

We watched The Island with my family after that. Stupid me, still liking her, etc. I touched her leg a little bit.

Later on I apologized and she said it was okay. Then she asked me why I did it. I didn't really know why, other than the fact that I liked her.

She then told me that she felt like I was just seeking the physical side of things.

I had no response.

That good enough, MrDudeMan?

no response? i would have been offended at that remark personally. you should have stuck up for yourself, unless what she said is true (which it doesnt appear to be). you should have told her your motives werent to get physical. good update, but poor execution my man.

 

[CarlKillerMiller]

You've been pushed into the friend zone, man.

Test: Don't call her for three or four days. If she doesn't call you or ask you about you not calling her, she wants to distance the relationship. Women are awfully manipulative that way, and won't say what they mean.

 

[imported_Stew]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
no response? i would have been offended at that remark personally. you should have stuck up for yourself, unless what she said is true (which it doesnt appear to be). you should have told her your motives werent to get physical. good update, but poor execution my man.

She did have a point though. Why was I touching her... because I wanted a social relationship?

I think she may be right.

But you're right, I still should've stuck up for myself.

 

[AdamSnow]

Friend zone = :thumbsdown: