Originally posted by: weirdichi
Originally posted by: AMDZen
If your breaking up because of religious or cultural reasons, and you love her - then your making a dumb move. Religion is not important, culture, race, creed, color - none of it is important. Your family, or her family - which ever family it is, or both - should be more then ashamed of themselves. If it were my family, they'd never hear the end of it.
That is true, but you've got to understand the Hmong culture first. The wedding is mostly planned by the relatives. And what they say has a huge part in everything. Basically, the groom sits idely by and is ignored. All the rules and negotiating and everything goes through the parents/grandparents/relatives. And when that happens, all sorts of animal sh|t hits the fan. It ain't pretty. It's kinda hard to explain.
Yea, it is. I don't know what religion it is or what, Hmong means nothing to me. I can only assume that this is asian. Asian religion's are all messed up IMO. They have WAYYYY to much tradition, stemmed from fear and hatred of other races and creeds. Now granted, there is still some of that in AMerica, but very little - and is changing all the time. You go to China and your hard pressed to see 2 white people your whole visit. The same with any middle eastern country.
All I know is - this yet again proves my point that religion is responsible for more then 90% of the worlds problems. It amazes me that people don't see that.
And to the person above regarding religion - your right, and wrong. It depends on the religions I guess. I personally don't understand that, I'm agnostic but have dated deeply devout Christians with no problems - just don't expect me to join you in church and that is all. I would want to raise my children as Christians (or something, if she is Catholic that is fine too) any way, so if I got married - that wouldn't be an issue either. I'd simply want to grind values into them at a young age. Afterall, my parents did the same - it wasn't until I became older that I decided, for MYSELF, how I felt about it all.
I have a good friend right now who is a devout Christian, and who is marrying into a devout Jewish family. I know it will work out fine, but yet one believes Jesus is the son of god, and the other believes him to be a heretic. One celebrates Christmas, and one Haunakah (sp?) and yet they have worked this all out, they are celebrating both. It doesn't get too much more culturally diverse (as far as religion) then that, and yet they aren't the only couple I know who have united under these circumstances.
Make excuses if you like - like I said, it depends on how strongly you feel about the girl - I would disown my family if they forced that stance upon me. Luckily, my family would never put me in such a pathetic possition. Sorry if that comes off a little harsh, its like you said - I just don't understand.
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