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DaShen

Lifer
Dec 1, 2000
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how old are you? give it some time. I was the same way when I was younger.

Start talking to girls in general. I mean as in, hang out mor ewith people in general and talk to them. Talk to girl in general. Keep it simple. Don't overthink it because it is just a conversation.

And finally, just ask the girl out to hang out after the final. Get a bunch of people from your physics class or some friends to go out right after the final is done and invite her along. Chances are she will say okay unless she is too busy with other classes. I am sure you have a rec center or entertainment place at your college, so ask a few friends and some people, like your roommate to hang out after the final and ask her to come along. Tell her it is a good way to blow off steam after a final. Then just talk to her when you guys are hanging out. Problem solved! Just do it already.
 
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Mo0o

Lifer
Jul 31, 2001
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Originally posted by: txrandom
Originally posted by: Rumpltzer
I love ATOT.


From what you're saying, I think you might have a shot. Catch up to her after class and just talk to her. Don't ask to be her boyfriend or tell her to stick out her hand; just talk to her.

If it feels right and you can work up the nerve, ask where she's headed off to (casually) and maybe ask her if she wants to grab lunch/dinner/coffee/whatever if she's free at the moment. If she rejects, don't make a big deal. Sit near her the next day and see what happens.

Report back.

Good luck!
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Class if over for the semester besides the final..which I won't be doing much talking in. I could maybe work up the nerve to ask her if she wants to get some dinner after the exam.

Should I leave Facebook messaging out of this? I think that's why my confidence is ****** because I talk to too many people over the internet.
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Does she know your name? If you really need an excuse to talk to her, you can message her on facebook and ask to study together. That can easily segui into dinner if you plan the study session in the afternoon. But dont talk to her on facebook if she hasn't introduced herself to you and you only found her because you're a stalker .

and getting to know the girl isn't hard at all, jsut introduce yourself and she'll naturally introduce herself. IF she doesn't, its a good sign she's shrugging you off
 
UDT89

UDT89

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Jul 31, 2001
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wanna get pumped?????

watch the scene from goodwill hunting when robin williams talks about meeting his wife in the bar.

i found this to be the most motivating.
 
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krunchykrome

Lifer
Dec 28, 2003
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Originally posted by: UDT89
wanna get pumped?????

watch the scene from goodwill hunting when robin williams talks about meeting his wife in the bar.

i found this to be the most motivating.
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I like that scene a lot.
 
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Chrono

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Jan 2, 2001
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You're dumb. Ask her for her name (if you don't already know) and ask for her phone #. If she declines then you've been rejected obviously, if not, woot for you.
 
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uhohs

Diamond Member
Oct 29, 2005
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cheer up, i'm more pathetic than you.

oh wait, i mean go after her. good luck!
 
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txrandom

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Aug 15, 2004
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Originally posted by: DaShen
how old are you? give it some time. I was the same way when I was younger.

Start talking to girls in general. I mean as in, hang out mor ewith people in general and talk to them. Talk to girl in general. Keep it simple. Don't overthink it because it is just a conversation.

And finally, just ask the girl out to hang out after the final. Get a bunch of people from your physics class or some friends to go out right after the final is done and invite her along. Chances are she will say okay unless she is too busy with other classes. I am sure you have a rec center or entertainment place at your college, so ask a few friends and some people, like your roommate to hang out after the final and ask her to come along. Tell her it is a good way to blow off steam after a final. Then just talk to her when you guys are hanging out. Problem solved! Just do it already.
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I'm 18. I've been shy all my life around people I don't know. If I'm with a group of people in the public that I'm too familiar with, I hardly talk at all. Even with people I am friends with, I just don't talk a lot. I guess it comes from being content with life and pretty laid back, I never really cared too much about having hundreds of friends. Around girls, it gets even worse. Plus, I tend to just say dumb ass things when I talk. :)

Originally posted by: Mo0o
Does she know your name? If you really need an excuse to talk to her, you can message her on facebook and ask to study together. That can easily segui into dinner if you plan the study session in the afternoon. But dont talk to her on facebook if she hasn't introduced herself to you and you only found her because you're a stalker
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I don't think she knows my name. Thanks, to StalkerBook, I know hers though. I'm trying to leave Facebook out of this because I don't want to rely on it when talking to girls.

 
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Zoblefu

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Jun 9, 2004
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These guys all give good advice. Go for it, just ask her if she wants to go eat sometime, or whatever.

You don't want to look back on this years from now and wish you had done something about it.

Dacalo's sig really says it really well...

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable."
-Sidney J Harris-
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DaShen

Lifer
Dec 1, 2000
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Originally posted by: Zoblefu
These guys all give good advice. Go for it, just ask her if she wants to go eat sometime, or whatever.

You don't want to look back on this years from now and wish you had done something about it.

Dacalo's sig really says it really well...

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable."
-Sidney J Harris-
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I am stealing that for my sig. :)
 
Rumpltzer

Rumpltzer

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Jun 7, 2003
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Don't message her over facebook or anything else on the Internet. She's gonna freak out over your stalker skilz.

Example: I have a good friend. We know each other. We hang out. We spend hours on the phone. The other night I was talking to her on the phone and I talked about how her email handle is a misspelling of a common word. I asked what it meant as I was Googling it.

Google turns up her ebay ratings and one of her Yahoo photo albums within the first four results. She kind of flipped out because she had no idea, and I stopped looking at her stuff. She's my friend. We know each other.


Finals looks like your last chance for the year. Nothing to lose.

Good luck.
 
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slsmnaz

Diamond Member
Mar 13, 2005
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What do you have to lose? Are you scared you'll get turned down? You're only 18 and will probably be turned down many times. You can break the cycle of being shy if you just put yourself out there. Hard at first but you'll get the hang of it.
 
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Dacalo

Diamond Member
Mar 31, 2000
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Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: Zoblefu
These guys all give good advice. Go for it, just ask her if she wants to go eat sometime, or whatever.

You don't want to look back on this years from now and wish you had done something about it.

Dacalo's sig really says it really well...

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable."
-Sidney J Harris-
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I am stealing that for my sig. :)
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Oh no you didn't! :|:p
 
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DaShen

Lifer
Dec 1, 2000
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Originally posted by: Dacalo
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: Zoblefu
These guys all give good advice. Go for it, just ask her if she wants to go eat sometime, or whatever.

You don't want to look back on this years from now and wish you had done something about it.

Dacalo's sig really says it really well...

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable."
-Sidney J Harris-
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I am stealing that for my sig. :)
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Oh no you didn't! :|:p
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;) If it is a problem. I will just print it out. Good quote though. ;)
 
Papagayo

Papagayo

Platinum Member
Jul 28, 2003
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When in doubt..

Beat your meat, prior to confrontation..

Makes you more relaxed..
 
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Dacalo

Diamond Member
Mar 31, 2000
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Originally posted by: DaShen

;) If it is a problem. I will just print it out. Good quote though. ;)
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I was just kidding, feel free to use it in your sig. It is a great quote.
 
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txrandom

Diamond Member
Aug 15, 2004
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Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
why are you putting so much value on the outcome of this situation?
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It's been a while since I've really been interested in a girl.
 
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IceBergSLiM

Lifer
Jul 11, 2000
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Originally posted by: txrandom
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
why are you putting so much value on the outcome of this situation?
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It's been a while since I've really been interested in a girl.
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I've been interested in girls since I was 14.......what are you trying to say?
 
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