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91TTZ

Lifer
Jan 31, 2005
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Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Don't worry. She'll be back with him as soon as she drops the charges and he's released. Not trying to be sarcastic or laugh at the situation, it's just she sounds like "that" type of woman.



<Whiny Bitch> "But...but...but he's changed!!!! He says he loves me and never meant to hurt me! He promised to never do it again. He even asked me to marry him so I KNOW he loves me!!!" </Whiny Bitch>

<Whiny Bitch> But, but... he beat me to keep me! </Whiny Bitch>
 

RbSX

Diamond Member
Jan 18, 2002
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This is where you nicely sit her down, and talk to her and say..

'I'm here for you as a friend, but honestly, you're too much of a mess for me to be romantically involved with. Once you sort yourself out, give me a call.'

 

snoopdoug1

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Jan 8, 2002
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Originally posted by: RyanSengara
This is where you nicely sit her down, and talk to her and say..

'I'm here for you as a friend, but honestly, you're too much of a mess for me to be romantically involved with. Once you sort yourself out, give me a call.'

i agree, but i wouldn't tell her that now... don't you think she's been thru enough!??
 

RbSX

Diamond Member
Jan 18, 2002
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Originally posted by: snoopdoug1
Originally posted by: RyanSengara
This is where you nicely sit her down, and talk to her and say..

'I'm here for you as a friend, but honestly, you're too much of a mess for me to be romantically involved with. Once you sort yourself out, give me a call.'

i agree, but i wouldn't tell her that now... don't you think she's been thru enough!??

I'd say it to her now before

a) she 'recovers' and then has this blow up in her face
b) this offers her incentive to actually clean her life up

if someone means enough to you you'll push heaven and earth to change for them.. if they don't change then you know you dodged a major bullet, because otherwise you'd be going through her crap with her.

 

doze

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Jul 26, 2005
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Originally posted by: BillyBatson
-Update - 1-9-07
I got a txt message this morning from her saying "friends fvck up and friends forgive crazy acts.... so friends?"
=\ and after i txt back "yeah" she txts "so what are you getting me for my birthday ;)"
WTF man.

-Update - 1-11-07
I have not been on anand for over a day before..... Wednesday morning 1:35 I get a phone call from Karen, i pick up and no response. hung up and tried to call her but she called me at the same time so my phone locked. then i get a txt saying "HELP!!!!!!!!" so i call again and this time it goes through and i hear a struggle between her and her ex of course and the phoen goes dead. I get dressed and rush to her house calling the whole way and txting with no answer. I get there and there are 4 cop cars so i run to the door and i see they are talking to her ex. Police right away ask what i am doing etc and i tell them and they get all my info and next thing i know there is an ambulance there for the ex-bf. 4 cop cars turn into 7, 14 cops, and no one knows if she is ok cuz they have not even entered the building yet! they tell me to stand off by the bus stop and they will let me know when they find something out. 15 mins go by and they come to ask me how to get in the building! where the entrances are, etc etc. They finally get in and another 15 mins later come to tell me she is ok. I stand out in the 47° weather for a total of an hour before one of the cops comes and tells me i can wait int he lobby of the buiilding. The ambulance took away the ex who was holding up his shirt and very slyly flipped me off as he left. After waiting int he lobby another hour they finally let me go up to see her after taking pics etc. She was crying, her apt was a mess, blood everywhere. Turns out he came over drunk, wouldn't leave, started verablly harassing her, when she tried to leave her wouldn't let her, slammed her against the wall, threw her down on the marble floor of her kitchen twice (she has 3 huge bumps on her head), when she tried calling for help she was only able to get the last person she txt (me) before he took the battery out of the phone and hid the phone. She ended up grabbing a knife and threatning for him to leave and he walked into it and stabbed himself. We don't think it was bad but cops said it was 3", not sure if 3" deep or just 3" long. he ended up stomping on her laptop when she tried to use it to get help so that's broken, broke her phone, broke her new 2gb nano, and after being stabbed started throwing food and dishes all over. I helped clean up, stayed the night, and took her to the courst house after 4 hours of sleep for her to get her retraining order (cops gave her a 5 day one). Last we know of him was he was supposed to go to jail after the hospital. His car is still parked outside her building (with a parking ticket) and it has been about 30.5 hours since he was taken away. I spent last night too cuz his car was still there, i left this morning when she had to leave for work.
fun times =\

She's crazy ... run and never look back

 

covert24

Golden Member
Feb 24, 2006
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dang son. think its time to get a new gf. this one seems like wayyyyy too much trouble for what she has been doing ( going back to her ex boyfriend). oh and if it ever comes to you and the ex fighting make sure u got a baseball bat wit u. then u can smack em in the face wit it and then stomp his ass. just my personal advice.... take it or leave it.
 

homercles337

Diamond Member
Dec 29, 2004
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Youre like a buddy of mine. Drama King! You have to have drama in your relationships or they dont work for you. Youre life is gonna be a great big drama fest! Enjoy.
 

zinfamous

No Lifer
Jul 12, 2006
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Originally posted by: snoopdoug1
Originally posted by: RyanSengara
This is where you nicely sit her down, and talk to her and say..

'I'm here for you as a friend, but honestly, you're too much of a mess for me to be romantically involved with. Once you sort yourself out, give me a call.'

i agree, but i wouldn't tell her that now... don't you think she's been thru enough!??


Ridiculous. The more contact he maintains with this she-devil the worse off he'll be. break contact now. Remember, the OP is the same guy that started a thread a week or so ago about wanting to carry on with a married woman.

Clearly, he's got his own issues to deal with before he worries about psychotic ho-bitches.
 

BillyBatson

Diamond Member
May 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: homercles337
Youre like a buddy of mine. Drama King! You have to have drama in your relationships or they dont work for you. Youre life is gonna be a great big drama fest! Enjoy.

i try and avoid drama, i hate it. mmy best relationship had drama at only 1 point and that was it and for the first year and a half there wasn't any. at the first sign of drama i run. with this girl the drama started showing up too late to where i had already started carring. now it is over but i am still there for her as long as she needs it and willing to get better (like if she invited her ex again and called me for help i wouldn't go, how is that making her better)

Originally posted by: 91TTZ
She's a crazy ho, and you're her cuddlebitch.

lmao cuddlebitch i like that one! will have to remember it
 

ColdFusion718

Diamond Member
Mar 4, 2000
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Check out this site. It explains most of the terms the guys here have used. Guess who the outlaw biker is and guess who you are. Sorry to break it to you though.

But nevertheless, give that site a read.
 

BillyBatson

Diamond Member
May 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
i have no sympathy for you. your a chump and you always will be. if you dont get it by now you never will.

how retarded can you get? i am a chump because i still went to make sure she was ok? i hope if you ever need help no one comes to your rescue
 

FM2n

Senior member
Aug 10, 2005
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The girl needs to sort out her issues and grow up.

As for the op; You gotta stop trying to rescue her. Even if you do get her, she's not going to show you the appreciation that you deserve or expect and you'll end up resenting her. Before you know it, you'll be just like her ex, trying to get her to want you.

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/moreonwhoredom.html

enjoy the words of wisdom.
 

BillyBatson

Diamond Member
May 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: FM2n
The girl needs to sort out her issues and grow up.

As for the op; You gotta stop trying to rescue her. Even if you do get her, she's not going to show you the appreciation that you deserve or expect and you'll end up resenting her. Before you know it, you'll be just like her ex, trying to get her to want you.

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/moreonwhoredom.html

enjoy the words of wisdom.

lmao that's hilarious!
however we were physical so i do not know how much of it applied to us lol
 

zinfamous

No Lifer
Jul 12, 2006
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Originally posted by: BillyBatson
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
i have no sympathy for you. your a chump and you always will be. if you dont get it by now you never will.

how retarded can you get? i am a chump because i still went to make sure she was ok? i hope if you ever need help no one comes to your rescue


I think most of us on these forums would ahve gone to help her in that situation had we been in your place. He refers to everything before, and after those moments.

Sorry dude...you haven't shown much here to prove him wrong. You sound like a real nice guy. Don't let it ruin you. BTW, chicks do dig nice guys. Anyone who says different is an idiot.
 

BillyBatson

Diamond Member
May 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: BillyBatson
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
i have no sympathy for you. your a chump and you always will be. if you dont get it by now you never will.

how retarded can you get? i am a chump because i still went to make sure she was ok? i hope if you ever need help no one comes to your rescue


I think most of us on these forums would ahve gone to help her in that situation had we been in your place. He refers to everything before, and after those moments.

Sorry dude...you haven't shown much here to prove him wrong. You sound like a real nice guy. Don't let it ruin you. BTW, chicks do dig nice guys. Anyone who says different is an idiot.

they do? my experience is they all say they want nice guys and then go for the opposite
 

zinfamous

No Lifer
Jul 12, 2006
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Originally posted by: BillyBatson
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: BillyBatson
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
i have no sympathy for you. your a chump and you always will be. if you dont get it by now you never will.

how retarded can you get? i am a chump because i still went to make sure she was ok? i hope if you ever need help no one comes to your rescue


I think most of us on these forums would ahve gone to help her in that situation had we been in your place. He refers to everything before, and after those moments.

Sorry dude...you haven't shown much here to prove him wrong. You sound like a real nice guy. Don't let it ruin you. BTW, chicks do dig nice guys. Anyone who says different is an idiot.

they do? my experience is they all say they want nice guys and then go for the opposite


They don't marry them though...at least after the 3rd attempt, that is ;)
 

Siddhartha

Lifer
Oct 17, 1999
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My experiences have been that in the long run it best to accept people for who they are instead demanding that they meet my expectations.

You can not change her. If you do not like how she behaves, save her and yourself alot of trouble and move on.

Don't take it personally just move on.
 

toolboxolio

Senior member
Jan 22, 2007
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How did I miss this thread? lol.

Questions:

1) OP, how old are you?
2) Is the guy she is always going want in her life (you know who) still in jail and for how long?
3) Why do you hang out with these people?
4) Did you at least hit it?
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Hit that pvssy one more time before you break it off. PIIHB and walk the F out with your middle finger in the air.
that would be a mistake. she seems to be a fatal attraction.