YAGT: I did it, I told my dream crush that I liked her

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: Jzero

And let's have some sympathy for him, he did kind of get rejected.

Take a few days and search on skywalker66's threads here in ATOT and then see if you still feel any sympathy.

Here is the formula for one of these:
YAGT: How to meet a girl
I am having an awful time meeting girls. Oh yeah, I never shower, so I smell really badly. Do you think that has anything to do with it?

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500 replies of "Take a shower!" interspersed with "So do you really think taking a shower will help? I hate playing all these nonsense games...."

It's positively awful.

This is what I feel...

I could take the advice that I get from the general population on here.. and I could go out there and get the goals I want.. but honestly I still feel that in the end I would hate my life.

Don't you guys think so too?

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: Dissipate
Hey guys lighten up. I give skywalker mad props for sending this email. Sure its not as "personal" as a phone call or face to face, but who cares? The bottom line is he told her how he feels about her. And let's have some sympathy for him, he did kind of get rejected.

Skywalker, my advice to you is don't pursue her anymore. There are plenty of other "fish in the sea", and I think you would be better off meeting women in a better way, not through emails. When this girl gets back your best bet is to distance yourself from her, lest you get damaged again.

Give him props??? Sending an e-mail is honestly not that big of a deal, and will never ever have a good result when asking out someone you know in real life. Not only is it creepy and shows a lack of self-esteem, but it allows the girl to reject much easier. He was in the friends zone before he sent the e-mail. If she was interested he would of known.

Okay.. look, I HATE absolutely HATE the idea of a girl agreeing to go out with me to someplace, all just because I asked her in person and tjat she would have felt too ashamed to say no. Basically by going along with your guys method, I am getting accepted because she wants to be nice, even if that is only a small part of the equation I still dont want it to be part of the equation at all.
I want her to WANT me! From the beginning!

What kind of guy wouldnt want a girl to WANT him from the start? That attraction, that zing, is big! I feel like that helps solidify the relationship better, and makes her less likely to break up with you over another guy.
Because if you are just Mr. average Joe hooking up with this really hot girl through careful sneakiness, playing the game, playing the chase, etc, and then say all of the sudden the rich attractive dude with a good personality walks into the picture and wants this girl, then you are screwed.

Plus I feel like I am ripping a girl off, If she is hot, and I'm not. I dont like to rip people off.

You are mentally unstable, and that comes from someone who has never been sane in their life.

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: Dissipate
Hey guys lighten up. I give skywalker mad props for sending this email. Sure its not as "personal" as a phone call or face to face, but who cares? The bottom line is he told her how he feels about her. And let's have some sympathy for him, he did kind of get rejected.

Skywalker, my advice to you is don't pursue her anymore. There are plenty of other "fish in the sea", and I think you would be better off meeting women in a better way, not through emails. When this girl gets back your best bet is to distance yourself from her, lest you get damaged again.

Give him props??? Sending an e-mail is honestly not that big of a deal, and will never ever have a good result when asking out someone you know in real life. Not only is it creepy and shows a lack of self-esteem, but it allows the girl to reject much easier. He was in the friends zone before he sent the e-mail. If she was interested he would of known.

Okay.. look, I HATE absolutely HATE the idea of a girl agreeing to go out with me to someplace, all just because I asked her in person and tjat she would have felt too ashamed to say no. Basically by going along with your guys method, I am getting accepted because she wants to be nice, even if that is only a small part of the equation I still dont want it to be part of the equation at all.
I want her to WANT me! From the beginning!

What kind of guy wouldnt want a girl to WANT him from the start? That attraction, that zing, is big! I feel like that helps solidify the relationship better, and makes her less likely to break up with you over another guy.
Because if you are just Mr. average Joe hooking up with this really hot girl through careful sneakiness, playing the game, playing the chase, etc, and then say all of the sudden the rich attractive dude with a good personality walks into the picture and wants this girl, then you are screwed.

Plus I feel like I am ripping a girl off, If she is hot, and I'm not. I dont like to rip people off.

umm dude thats how the stuff works. You ask them out, if they dont like you they will find an excuse or agree and later give you no-no signals. And no girl will "WANT" you if you talked to her 3x before. Thats not how the game goes. How the hell are you 20 and not know any of this sh!t????


Girls will NEVER EVER EVER tell/show you that they want you (unless theyre waaay drunk) and mutiply this by N^N for a girl that doesnt really know you. SHEESH pathetic...

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: skywalker66

well what are you after here? a relationship?... thats quite personal if you ask me...

okay.. and i thought i got pretty personal in that email...
look, i didnt have the patience to wait for her to come back, alright? thats pretty much what it comes down to. I didnt want to keep thinking about her, I wanted to get some $hit outta the way.

So, you got tired of jerking off to her everynight, and figured an e-mail would make her fall magically in love with you?

You don't understand!! I wanted to hear a frickin "NO" !! I wanted to get this stupid pedestal girl off my mind!!
It's been a sharp pain in the leg, ever since I met her!

I don't even think I can put into words how sick of her I am, and her damn "Perfect Ways"!!!

 

[TommyVercetti]

Originally posted by: boyRacer

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: Jzero

I thought AIM and email were supposed to make this aspect of our society easier.

No. AIM and e-mail make communication easier and faster. They do NOT make your interpersonal skills any better. Instead they are a crutch where you can avoid personal contact, but still communicate. Instead of being better at communicating, you get worse.

Maybe you should lay off of AIM, e-mail and ATOT for awhile....these 3 things are most likely not working in your favor.

Okay.. so you are saying that basically girls will consider me to be worth less, for not 'showing off' my interpersonal skills?

well what are you after here? a relationship?... thats quite personal if you ask me...

He is after marriage.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: boyRacer

Originally posted by: skywalker66

girls arent as easy as yes or no... :beer:

Why not? That's the way that I want my life,
Don't they want a partner too>
wouldnt that make their lives a lot easier if they simplified things more?

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: skywalker66

well what are you after here? a relationship?... thats quite personal if you ask me...

okay.. and i thought i got pretty personal in that email...
look, i didnt have the patience to wait for her to come back, alright? thats pretty much what it comes down to. I didnt want to keep thinking about her, I wanted to get some $hit outta the way.

So, you got tired of jerking off to her everynight, and figured an e-mail would make her fall magically in love with you?

You don't understand!! I wanted to hear a frickin "NO" !! I wanted to get this stupid pedestal girl off my mind!!
It's been a sharp pain in the leg, ever since I met her!

I don't even think I can put into words how sick of her I am, and her damn "Perfect Ways"!!!

wow who made the mentally unstable comment?

Im sure skywalker has a nice wall-sized collage of her pictures and right now is busy scratching her eyes off all the pictures

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: skywalker66

well what are you after here? a relationship?... thats quite personal if you ask me...

okay.. and i thought i got pretty personal in that email...
look, i didnt have the patience to wait for her to come back, alright? thats pretty much what it comes down to. I didnt want to keep thinking about her, I wanted to get some $hit outta the way.

So, you got tired of jerking off to her everynight, and figured an e-mail would make her fall magically in love with you?

You don't understand!! I wanted to hear a frickin "NO" !! I wanted to get this stupid pedestal girl off my mind!!
It's been a sharp pain in the leg, ever since I met her!

I don't even think I can put into words how sick of her I am, and her damn "Perfect Ways"!!!

She did tell you no, moron. If she *wanted* to date you she would have said so, or you would have known before she sent that e-mail. You have zero chance of ever dating her; she was being nice to you and her not saying YES is a NO.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: boyRacer

Originally posted by: skywalker66

girls arent as easy as yes or no... :beer:

Why not? That's the way that I want my life,

wouldnt that make their lives a lot easier if they simplified things more?

Yes... somehow you are going to changes centuries of tradition because you are a horny lustful geek. Your crush is lust based I'm sure, so don't even act like you love someone you barely know.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: halik

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: Dissipate
Hey guys lighten up. I give skywalker mad props for sending this email. Sure its not as "personal" as a phone call or face to face, but who cares? The bottom line is he told her how he feels about her. And let's have some sympathy for him, he did kind of get rejected.

Skywalker, my advice to you is don't pursue her anymore. There are plenty of other "fish in the sea", and I think you would be better off meeting women in a better way, not through emails. When this girl gets back your best bet is to distance yourself from her, lest you get damaged again.

Give him props??? Sending an e-mail is honestly not that big of a deal, and will never ever have a good result when asking out someone you know in real life. Not only is it creepy and shows a lack of self-esteem, but it allows the girl to reject much easier. He was in the friends zone before he sent the e-mail. If she was interested he would of known.

yeah well he could've worked it over the email, but sending her an email outta the blue saying that hes madly in love with her etc. is jsut idiotic and VERY mistimed

I could NOT have worked it over email! I sent her 2 emails earlier that month and didnt get a reply to either one of them...
Lets face it, I just wanted to finish things off, and put one final last nail into the damn coffin!

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: halik

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: Dissipate
Hey guys lighten up. I give skywalker mad props for sending this email. Sure its not as "personal" as a phone call or face to face, but who cares? The bottom line is he told her how he feels about her. And let's have some sympathy for him, he did kind of get rejected.

Skywalker, my advice to you is don't pursue her anymore. There are plenty of other "fish in the sea", and I think you would be better off meeting women in a better way, not through emails. When this girl gets back your best bet is to distance yourself from her, lest you get damaged again.

Give him props??? Sending an e-mail is honestly not that big of a deal, and will never ever have a good result when asking out someone you know in real life. Not only is it creepy and shows a lack of self-esteem, but it allows the girl to reject much easier. He was in the friends zone before he sent the e-mail. If she was interested he would of known.

yeah well he could've worked it over the email, but sending her an email outta the blue saying that hes madly in love with her etc. is jsut idiotic and VERY mistimed

I could NOT have worked it over email! I sent her 2 emails earlier that month and didnt get a reply to either one of them...
Lets face it, I just wanted to finish things off, and put one final last nail into the damn coffin!

yeah she didnt respond because she wasnt interested....get the hint? I guess you didnt, so you creeped her out with the last one. Should've saved your face and walked away like any other guy would....

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: boyRacer

Originally posted by: skywalker66

girls arent as easy as yes or no... :beer:

Why not? That's the way that I want my life,

wouldnt that make their lives a lot easier if they simplified things more?

Ok, you're an even bigger idiot than I could possibly imagined. I'm done with you

 

[skywalker66]

umm dude thats how the stuff works. You ask them out, if they dont like you they will find an excuse or agree and later give you no-no signals. And no girl will "WANT" you if you talked to her 3x before. Thats not how the game goes. How the hell are you 20 and not know any of this sh!t????


Girls will NEVER EVER EVER tell/show you that they want you (unless theyre waaay drunk) and mutiply this by N^N for a girl that doesnt really know you. SHEESH pathetic...

I didnt WANT her either after only seeing her 3x, but I definately still thought she was cute, and wouldn't have minded getting to know her better, or going out on a date with her or something.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

umm dude thats how the stuff works. You ask them out, if they dont like you they will find an excuse or agree and later give you no-no signals. And no girl will "WANT" you if you talked to her 3x before. Thats not how the game goes. How the hell are you 20 and not know any of this sh!t????


Girls will NEVER EVER EVER tell/show you that they want you (unless theyre waaay drunk) and mutiply this by N^N for a girl that doesnt really know you. SHEESH pathetic...

I didnt WANT her either after only seeing her 3x, but I definately still thought she was cute, and wouldn't have minded getting to know her better, or going out on a date with her or something.

Only a GSW to the face would help you IMO.

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: skywalker66

umm dude thats how the stuff works. You ask them out, if they dont like you they will find an excuse or agree and later give you no-no signals. And no girl will "WANT" you if you talked to her 3x before. Thats not how the game goes. How the hell are you 20 and not know any of this sh!t????


Girls will NEVER EVER EVER tell/show you that they want you (unless theyre waaay drunk) and mutiply this by N^N for a girl that doesnt really know you. SHEESH pathetic...

I didnt WANT her either after only seeing her 3x, but I definately still thought she was cute, and wouldn't have minded getting to know her better, or going out on a date with her or something.

Only a GSW to the face would help you IMO.

Gas Water Heater? 😀

 

[Sid59]

professing your undying initial love over email is ... not a good idea. you have no idea about body language, the tone of her voice or anything.

 

[imported_Phil]

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hey steve- how are you? um, thank you for your email, it was very nice, i was really surprised to get it! well, it would be fun to hang out in a group of some sort when i get back. im not too sure what you mean by that, i enjoy being friends with you. i hope this semester is treating you well, hasta luego! Lydia
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Looks like it's back to e-poon for you, boy 😀

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

Once I read "dream crush" I knew this guy's penis will only feel hand for a long long time.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: AgaBooga
I think she'd like to be friends, nothing more. Good job though :beer:

Don't you think I could still succeed if maybe I succeeded at becoming good enough for her, and then kept on pursuing?

No, you are already "good enough" for her. She just does not like you that way and you would be a jerk if you pursue her. Do not worry, there are a lot of women out there who will like you.

 

[freegeeks]

chill down everybody, he didn't rape his dog

skywalker66

I have to agree that the majority of girls (99,9%) don't like it that you use email, AIM for stuff like that.

I only did it once and that was with somebody I already knew for 5 years and I had dated her on several occasions.
I just used e-mail because she was messing with my head (mixed signals on the dates, long story 😉 )and I wanted to get it over with


if you e-mail her and she doesn't answer, don't email her again. That's very stalkerish behavior
It's clear that she doesn't have any feelings for you, you are in the dreaded friends zone, pursuing her is a basically a waste of time, move on...
take 1 step at a time, saying that you have a crush on someone before you even had a date with her (ALONE, not the group thing) is a big no no. She thinks that you are some kind of weirdo.

If i were you I wouldn't contact her if she comes back from abroad. If she has some romantic interest in you (and I SERIOUSLY doubt it) she will contact you.

just see your email confession as a first step. You messed up but learn from it. Next time you have a crush on a girl ask her out on a date. That is the first step in the whole boy/girl stuff (and don't use email for stuff like that)

 

[nan0bug]

You should have asked her if she met Dirty Sanchez while she was down there, and if not, if she wants to meet him when she comes back.

 

[flexy]

Originally posted by: Sid59
professing your undying initial love over email is ... not a good idea. you have no idea about body language, the tone of her voice or anything.

yes..although there is nothing to say against e-mail/IM conversation *per se* also on a very deep level..eg. saying that someone likes someone, wants too hook up etc.... BUT only after a VERY long initial period of knowing (and talking) to someone.....and NOT already after a few mails/msgs.... *especiallly* not when the first two have not been answered !!

Instead, of reading the signs...OR having patience and just wait when she gets back and then look whats gong on he did exactly the wrong thing.

And i *totally* agree with some here...halik sumed it up pretty welll....

->BETTER<- never 'tell' a girl how you like her and what crush you have on her etc.....a girl will not tell you she likes you because you admitted that YOU like her - a girl will want you because of your personality/looks..whatever...and quite often especially if she thinjks that she can't have you or you seem to have no interest. If you are only the slightest interesting to her there might be HINTS in a converstion and she wont reject eg. if you invite her somewhere...but she will also (very unlikely) not tell you straight in your face she likes you except when she is drunk.....i am always fascinated by that aspect in girls....how some frinsd tell me "...this and this girl liike you"...girls i didnt have the slightest idea that they have some interest in me. Fascinating stuff there with the girls..you will NEVER knwio what they actualy think/want 🙂

So....and now you, skywalker, you contradict yourself...so what do you want ? You want her or NOT ??? If still yes....i'd advice better forget her.....and.or as a last chance go that direction that you dont menton aything about your crush etc anymore and especially dont EXPECT anything...(as said common sense tells me already you lost 🙁 )....but if you have one chance then only by just doing ''friend'-stuff with her and look wheher something develops or not....but something has to develop on HER side......and not just you overwhelming her with your 'crush' and how you like her etc..and pushing her towards something she might not even want...... keep future conversation on a very harmless level.

 

[Psycho18]

good luck man...

 

[StageLeft]

too long.

goodluck tho.

 

[caitlion]

alright you guys are all crazy.

first of all, if a girl really likes you she will at least give you some sort of hint. i dunno maybe some girls like &quot;the chase&quot; but if i like a guy and he likes me then why not just get together? whats the point of waiting?

the email thing wasnt that great of an idea, but at least he did say something. if it makes him feel better about himself, great. maybe next time he will have the guts to ask a girl out over the phone, then maybe in person. at least hes making some sort of progress.. it doesnt matter how he compares to everyone else.

oh and, i also agree that it wouldve been a little better to talk to her more before confessing your undying love to her.. but if you honestly didnt care about being rejected and just wanted to get your feelings out, good job.