ok, before i go back to school for my senior year, i want to lose my reputation with the ladies at school as being to reserved towards them. Worked on it a little towards the end of this school year, but always ran out of conversation. I am not very extraverted at heart but do enjoy conversing with the girls at school. I talk with the guys fine, but when I talk to a girl its like a cant be myself and I come off reserved and cold, which is not what I am really like. I was wondering if anyone had some good advice for conversation starters or anything. This sounds pathetic, but this is truly how introverted I am and this is a cry for help!
YAGT: how to lose a reputation
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yllus
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Easiest: Make a small but noticeable change in your physical appearance (glasses -> contacts, totally new hairstyle) and from day one of your senior year, become a different man. If you speak up a lot in the first week of your classes, you'll situate yourself automatically with the talkative/confident ones and have broken the barrier for the rest of the year.
Best: Make a large change in your physical appearance (work out heavily) and do the same as the above.
I actually did much the same thing when I left high school and entered university. My gimmick was changing my name, worked wonders.
Best: Make a large change in your physical appearance (work out heavily) and do the same as the above.
I actually did much the same thing when I left high school and entered university. My gimmick was changing my name, worked wonders.
Just don't touch yourself while you're talking to them. That tends to freak them out for some reason.
Be more talkative and don't be afraid to speak your mind. Depending on what you end up saying, a certain percentage will end up thinking you're a dork and a certain percentage will end up wanting your nuts. This means a higher overall percentage of nut wantage for you, and who gives a crap if some bimbo thinks your a dork when you've got chicks on your nuts.
yllus
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It'll help if you sit in the front 25% of the classroom, it's less intimidating to have to shout over the entire length of the room and have everyone turn your way. Also, be prepped in every way. Ready for the day's lesson content-wise, supplies-wise.
Intelligence is respected, despite what some might say. If your HS was anything like mine was, senior year in HS is the year that the stupid rivalries of years past is by the wayside as everyone digs into the daily grind of classwork. Aside from being able to speak up and not look stupid in class, you'll be a natural person to come to for other students (read: girls) when they have questions. Your own grades will probably hit a new high too.
You could always be entirely honest and tell them that you have absolutely no idea what you're doing, and you are quite paralyzed by their mere presence alone. If you tell them straight up that you're interested but don't really have the 'right' way of going about it, I'm sure some girls would find that funny or cute, and that could lead to some interest. After you start to open up it should be easier, but I think it's important to break the ice with some gentle humiliation on yourself.
Just an idea.
Edit: I say this because it's a lot better than coming off all stiff and planned - trying to ask filler questions and saying dumb stuff. Believe it or not, not all women are receptive to stupid questions and most of them know that you're just trying to get at them. Be honest.
You could also pull the old prison trick, where you go up to the biggest dude in the yard and pick a fight with him. If you win, you're the big man on campus. If you lose, well at least people will think you have balls. Or that you're crazy, in which case all the slutty Goth chicks that cut themselves will spread their honeypots for you.
AreaCode707
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Strike up a conversation in any way available ("Is that a good book?" "I can't believe the bus is late again!"), ask questions, and answer any questions she has about you & turn them right around and ask them of her.
Good kinda oddball question to ask people - it makes them think and they will likely remember you. "What are three things you're passionate about?"
Good kinda oddball question to ask people - it makes them think and they will likely remember you. "What are three things you're passionate about?"
Too stiff. Most girls will appreciate you more if you don't insult their intelligence with questions that you realy aren't even curious about.
The biggest problem you have is thinking you have a reputation. Assuming your high school is a normal size (2000 or so students), most girls probably don't see you as a reserved person but as a stranger. Start talking to them and you can stop giving yourself the stranger every night after school.
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I've found that strangely enough, though it may not work for you, being a total dick helps a lot. Maybe it sets you apart from the "yeah, sure, whatever" boring types and makes them notice you, I don't know, but it works.
And remember, if you put the idea of "Wow, you could do so much better than me, why are you even talking to me?" into their heads, they'll start to wonder, too, and maybe remedy the situation.
(hides from the attacking anti-this-post women)
And remember, if you put the idea of "Wow, you could do so much better than me, why are you even talking to me?" into their heads, they'll start to wonder, too, and maybe remedy the situation.
(hides from the attacking anti-this-post women
)
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