YAGT: how to lose a reputation

[angrycomputer]

Originally posted by: Lorn

Originally posted by: HotChic
Strike up a conversation in any way available ("Is that a good book?" "I can't believe the bus is late again!"), ask questions, and answer any questions she has about you & turn them right around and ask them of her.

Good kinda oddball question to ask people - it makes them think and they will likely remember you. "What are three things you're passionate about?"

Too stiff. Most girls will appreciate you more if you don't insult their intelligence with questions that you realy aren't even curious about.

Lorn what do you suggest besides being totally honest with them, because the school is only 500 kids total and rumors spread fast. I want to be able to be recognized but without embarrasing myself totally. It is a good idea which I weill admit to you at least that its true I do not have a clue wtf I am talking about when it comes to girls. I cant display affection, when deep down inside I am screaming to show it because of fear of rejection. Any advice for getting over that?

 

It's too late, high school doesn't mean sh!t anyway.

 

[czech09]

Originally posted by: KLin

Originally posted by: angrycomputer
ok, before i go back to school for my senior year, i want to lose my reputation with the ladies at school as being to reserved towards them. Worked on it a little towards the end of this school year, but always ran out of conversation. I am not very extraverted at heart but do enjoy conversing with the girls at school. I talk with the guys fine, but when I talk to a girl its like a cant be myself and I come off reserved and cold, which is not what I am really like. I was wondering if anyone had some good advice for conversation starters or anything. This sounds pathetic, but this is truly how introverted I am and this is a cry for help!

That could be the issue.

LMFAO

 

[angrycomputer]

Originally posted by: SampSon
It's too late, high school doesn't mean sh!t anyway.

Well it does this year, otherwise I wont ever get over this fear, and to a previous poster my highschool is 1/4 that size

 

[chrisms]

Originally posted by: angrycomputer

Originally posted by: Lorn

Originally posted by: HotChic
Strike up a conversation in any way available ("Is that a good book?" "I can't believe the bus is late again!"), ask questions, and answer any questions she has about you & turn them right around and ask them of her.

Good kinda oddball question to ask people - it makes them think and they will likely remember you. "What are three things you're passionate about?"

Too stiff. Most girls will appreciate you more if you don't insult their intelligence with questions that you realy aren't even curious about.

Lorn what do you suggest besides being totally honest with them, because the school is only 500 kids total and rumors spread fast. I want to be able to be recognized but without embarrasing myself totally. It is a good idea which I weill admit to you at least that its true I do not have a clue wtf I am talking about when it comes to girls. I cant display affection, when deep down inside I am screaming to show it because of fear of rejection. Any advice for getting over that?

It's your senior year. You'll never see any of these people again so who gives a damn. You're helpless until you get over your anxiety (women can smell it on you like dogs smell fear), find a way to do that and you will gain access to the Mysterious Caverns soon enough

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: chrisms
The biggest problem you have is thinking you have a reputation. Assuming your high school is a normal size (2000 or so students), most girls probably don't see you as a reserved person but as a stranger. Start talking to them and you can stop giving yourself the stranger every night after school.

im sorry but you obviously havent been in HS recently...that it totally BullSh!t.....its virtually impossible to change your "clique" in HS these days...it really sucks

 

[angrycomputer]

Originally posted by: czech09

Originally posted by: KLin

Originally posted by: angrycomputer
ok, before i go back to school for my senior year, i want to lose my reputation with the ladies at school as being to reserved towards them. Worked on it a little towards the end of this school year, but always ran out of conversation. I am not very extraverted at heart but do enjoy conversing with the girls at school. I talk with the guys fine, but when I talk to a girl its like a cant be myself and I come off reserved and cold, which is not what I am really like. I was wondering if anyone had some good advice for conversation starters or anything. This sounds pathetic, but this is truly how introverted I am and this is a cry for help!

That could be the issue.

LMFAO

Come on dude what did i say to you that made you be so mean.

 

[Juice Box]

My advice: From my experience i went thru a MAJOR change thinking that everthing I had been doing was wrong cause girls never really talked to me (or so i thought)...I gave up a lot of stuff i loved just in hopes of making a turn around....didnt really do anything but it did make me realize how many girls i actually was friends with... (overlooked it...i dunno)....just began talking to them casually online...it makes things a lot easier to have a good backround talking online first IMO and eventually one of them worked out...for a little while at least

Senior year is a good time though...do what you want..youll never see these people again....and the work doesnt mean sh!t

Edit: I also found girls are a LOT more apt to talk to you online if you are "uncool" because no one else knows they are talking to you....seems kinda lame im sure...but then they get a chance to know the real you and if they like it...they are more apt to say "fvck my friends...i like this guy"....thats how it worked out with me

 

[chrisms]

Originally posted by: Juice Box

Originally posted by: chrisms
The biggest problem you have is thinking you have a reputation. Assuming your high school is a normal size (2000 or so students), most girls probably don't see you as a reserved person but as a stranger. Start talking to them and you can stop giving yourself the stranger every night after school.

im sorry but you obviously havent been in HS recently...that it totally BullSh!t.....its virtually impossible to change your "clique" in HS these days...it really sucks

I'm only a year and a half out. In my 2000-student high school I could go into a class and not know any of the people in it. That means the girl I'm sitting next to doesn't know who I am and I have a chance, no matter how much a dork I'd been with other girls.

That doesn't apply to the OPs situation but oh well

 

[angrycomputer]

Originally posted by: chrisms

Originally posted by: angrycomputer

Originally posted by: Lorn

Originally posted by: HotChic
Strike up a conversation in any way available ("Is that a good book?" "I can't believe the bus is late again!"), ask questions, and answer any questions she has about you & turn them right around and ask them of her.

Good kinda oddball question to ask people - it makes them think and they will likely remember you. "What are three things you're passionate about?"

Too stiff. Most girls will appreciate you more if you don't insult their intelligence with questions that you realy aren't even curious about.

Lorn what do you suggest besides being totally honest with them, because the school is only 500 kids total and rumors spread fast. I want to be able to be recognized but without embarrasing myself totally. It is a good idea which I weill admit to you at least that its true I do not have a clue wtf I am talking about when it comes to girls. I cant display affection, when deep down inside I am screaming to show it because of fear of rejection. Any advice for getting over that?

It's your senior year. You'll never see any of these people again so who gives a damn. You're helpless until you get over your anxiety (women can smell it on you like dogs smell fear), find a way to do that and you will gain access to the Mysterious Caverns soon enough

I know its my senior year, I am using it to practice.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Strike up a conversation in any way available ("Is that a good book?" "I can't believe the bus is late again!"), ask questions, and answer any questions she has about you & turn them right around and ask them of her.

Good kinda oddball question to ask people - it makes them think and they will likely remember you. "What are three things you're passionate about?"

Avoid questions like

"Do you know what Anandtech Off Topic is? Wanna find out?"

 

[ajayjuneja]

try a new approach. Don't talk to girls any differently than you talk to guys. Loosen up, who gives a *uck what anyone thinks of you this year, you are all leaving soon anyhow. Make a new impression from day one at school. Talk to 5 girls on the first day of school, and at least 10 girls each day for the rest of the week. Then pick a few of those that are nice or cute or sexy or all of the above, and get to know them all more!

 

[czech09]

Originally posted by: angrycomputer

Originally posted by: czech09

Originally posted by: KLin

Originally posted by: angrycomputer
ok, before i go back to school for my senior year, i want to lose my reputation with the ladies at school as being to reserved towards them. Worked on it a little towards the end of this school year, but always ran out of conversation. I am not very extraverted at heart but do enjoy conversing with the girls at school. I talk with the guys fine, but when I talk to a girl its like a cant be myself and I come off reserved and cold, which is not what I am really like. I was wondering if anyone had some good advice for conversation starters or anything. This sounds pathetic, but this is truly how introverted I am and this is a cry for help!

That could be the issue.

LMFAO

Come on dude what did i say to you that made you be so mean.

Honestly, my advice is don't do anything you'd like to get over your "Fear" so you're a little more swell when you get to college. I don't know I personally never gave a crap what people in my hs think about me. I did my own thing, and still had good times with good friends. In college everything changes, you find new friends, change your image, change your style, attitude, and many other things. If you're planning on going to college in a different city than the one you live in now/go to high school in, I say just screw it. Concentrate on your education. Good luck to you and remember if you're looking for a relationship, there's someone for everyone whether you find them at 18 or 35...

 

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: yllus

Originally posted by: angrycomputer

Originally posted by: yllus
Easiest: Make a small but noticeable change in your physical appearance (glasses -> contacts, totally new hairstyle) and from day one of your senior year, become a different man. If you speak up a lot in the first week of your classes, you'll situate yourself automatically with the talkative/confident ones and have broken the barrier for the rest of the year.

Best: Make a large change in your physical appearance (work out heavily) and do the same as the above.

I actually did much the same thing when I left high school and entered university. My gimmick was changing my name, worked wonders.

that part about the first week of classes is helpful, thanks.

It'll help if you sit in the front 25% of the classroom, it's less intimidating to have to shout over the entire length of the room and have everyone turn your way. Also, be prepped in every way. Ready for the day's lesson content-wise, supplies-wise.

Intelligence is respected, despite what some might say. If your HS was anything like mine was, senior year in HS is the year that the stupid rivalries of years past is by the wayside as everyone digs into the daily grind of classwork. Aside from being able to speak up and not look stupid in class, you'll be a natural person to come to for other students (read: girls) when they have questions. Your own grades will probably hit a new high too.

Your HS was backwards. All the rivalries went away, but everyone ABANDONED the daily grind of classwork. Getting seniors to do anything is impossible.

 

[montanafan]

Get involved in some of the social activities at school if you're not now. Join a club that could be interesting. Voluteer to help out with activities where you'll be working with girls - blood drive, homecoming activities, prom committee, student government, yearbook, etc. Go to ballgames and sit in the student cheering section. Get your guy friends to help you out when you're talking to girls, they can fill in some of the blank spots in the conversations. Good luck.