YAGT: How Can I Shake the Money Effect?

[Stunt]

I have recently moved to a community where the population are largely uneducated; typically trades or servicepeople. Even though I find the educated and career oriented women the most attractive, those are not options in the city I work in.

I'm not trying to come off as better than others in my community, but I want to hide my income when it comes to women. I really don't like the idea of women putting on a fake personality because they think I will buy them things they want. I find this very difficult as I do spend some of my income and I usually invest in fairly nice things.

Is it such a bad thing for women I date to know I make more than double the average income in the city? Should I go out of my way to hide this? Should I keep my guard up for women who are out to take advantage of me? Do you think money matters in this situation?

 

[tranceport]

How much do you make? I'll tell you if you need to hide it or not...

 

[EGGO]

I think you should watch Coming to America.

 

[spidey07]

WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

 

[swtethan]

Originally posted by: EGGO
I think you should watch Coming to America.

 

[Pepsi90919]

where

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I agree, I wouldn't specifically hide my wealth by being cheap or something, but I would not disclose how much I made. Besides, focus on how well you get along with them, if they carry a conversation well, make you laugh etc... If you have any sense at all you'll be able to get some idea of whether or not they really like you, or just your money.

EDIT: I mean you can still pay attention to the little things, if they even offer to pay for meals etc...

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

 

[randay]

Well, they aint gonna go out with you for your personality, I can tell you that right now. Might as well work with what you got.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: Stunt
I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

Meh, just tell them you stole it all. You'll be in like flin.

 

[BooGiMaN]

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

dude seriously now..come on you made it seem like your bill gates moving into ethiopia...

 

[NL5]

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

That's not wealth....sorry. With that little bit of difference, I wouldn't even sweat it.......

 

[boredhokie]

Did you move to Ethiopia or something? Just treat them well and don't show off your money and see if they insist on paying now and then.

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: NL5

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

That's not wealth....sorry. With that little bit of difference, I wouldn't even sweat it.......

Where did I say wealth...all I said was it was clear I'm quite well off relative to those I'd be dating.

 

[BooGiMaN]

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: NL5

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

That's not wealth....sorry. With that little bit of difference, I wouldn't even sweat it.......

Where did I say wealth...all I said was it was clear I'm quite well off relative to those I'd be dating.

you are quite dense....have you even been on a real date with a real girl?

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: BooGiMaN

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

dude seriously now..come on you made it seem like your bill gates moving into ethiopia...

Because even with the average at $30k, most of the women i meet are waitresses or healthcare workers who make less than that

These women are living paycheck to paycheck and my income is fairly apparent.

You don't see this as a bad thing?

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: Stunt
Where did I say wealth...all I said was it was clear I'm quite well off relative to those I'd be dating.

ummm, no. That's not much of a difference at all.

Now if you were at 150 and she was at 30/40. THAT's a difference. But what you talking about is normal.

 

[KoolDrew]

I agree, I wouldn't specifically hide my wealth by being cheap or something, but I would not disclose how much I made. Besides, focus on how well you get along with them, if they carry a conversation well, make you laugh etc... If you have any sense at all you'll be able to get some idea of whether or not they really like you, or just your money.

EDIT: I mean you can still pay attention to the little things, if they even offer to pay for meals etc...

:thumbsup:

Just offering her something and seeing how she responds could help you determine. For example, offer to buy her a drink and pay attention to how she responds. Does she offer to pay? Does it seem like she meant it when she said "thank you?" Little things like that could help. Just trust your intuition.

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: BooGiMaN

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: NL5

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.

I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

That's not wealth....sorry. With that little bit of difference, I wouldn't even sweat it.......

Where did I say wealth...all I said was it was clear I'm quite well off relative to those I'd be dating.

you are quite dense....have you even been on a real date with a real girl?

Yes

That one was unemployed, no college education, and friends all had kids.

 

[imported_hscorpio]

Originally posted by: randay
Well, they aint gonna go out with you for your personality, I can tell you that right now. Might as well work with what you got.

qft. You should use your money as a strength. Its almost like a chick with a smoking hot body wanting to hide it by wearing big baggy clothes so she doesn't attract men. Better to flaunt it and learn to be discerning when it comes to the people you meet.

 

[BoomerD]

Just tell them you're a manager at the plant where you work, and how you brag on ATOT about snitching off a worker you caught in the local store (while you were off duty) and got him fired...That should make a big difference in how they see your wealth...

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: BoomerD
Just tell them you're a manager at the plant where you work, and how you brag on ATOT about snitching off a worker you caught in the local store (while you were off duty) and got him fired...That should make a big difference in how they see your wealth...

A manager who caught his employee buying alcohol DURING his shift and who has a history with questionable drunkness at work...

...I'm such an evil person...:roll:

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Stunt you have given me pretty good advice in my other threads so I will say nothing right now

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Stunt you have given me pretty good advice in my other threads so I will say nothing right now

No problem

I know this thread sounds bad...but it's a legitimate concern when you are in a community full of people who are more than willing to find a guy they can live off. Also if they know you can pay child support, they will do what they can to get that out of you.

Not saying all the women are like this, but it's there.

 

[randay]

Originally posted by: Stunt

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Stunt you have given me pretty good advice in my other threads so I will say nothing right now

No problem

I know this thread sounds bad...but it's a legitimate concern when you are in a community full of people who are more than willing to find a guy they can live off. Also if they know you can pay child support, they will do what they can to get that out of you.

Not saying all the women are like this, but it's there.

Well now, you wouldnt have to worry about that if you didnt boink random chicks in the back seat of your Honda on the first date. :disgust: