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YAGT: Got a new job and have a crush on a co-worker

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Originally posted by: PandaBear
Me: 28, engineer, recently married but wife lives out of town

Wife: 27, works in the bio-tech industry, very good looking, perfect wife

Co-Worker: 25, engineer, looks alright (slightly chubby, excellent hair care), but reminds me of a former fantasy of mine (a girl that i went after in college but didn't get). There is one guy in my dept going after her, but I don't think she is interested in him. We didn't talk much.



I tried not to keep an eye contact with my co-worker, but the more I tried, the more I fancy her.

Suggestion on what to do to make me not have a crush?
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funny, i was just on another site where a 27 year old hot female bio tech, who was recently married but lives apart from her engineer husband, has a crush on her co-worker.

she was asking what to do. :shocked:

 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: PandaBear
Me: 28, engineer, recently married but wife lives out of town

Wife: 27, works in the bio-tech industry, very good looking, perfect wife

Co-Worker: 25, engineer, looks alright (slightly chubby, excellent hair care), but reminds me of a former fantasy of mine (a girl that i went after in college but didn't get). There is one guy in my dept going after her, but I don't think she is interested in him. We didn't talk much.



I tried not to keep an eye contact with my co-worker, but the more I tried, the more I fancy her.

Suggestion on what to do to make me not have a crush?
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funny, i was just on another site where a 27 year old hot female bio tech, who was recently married but lives apart from her engineer husband, has a crush on her co-worker.

she was asking what to do. :shocked:
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shens!!!!! :shocked:
 
I would say do it man.. Your wife is in another town, and make sure that Office chick knows that you are married, and if she is ok with it, there is nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex.

Have a theory like Mobs.. You have a public wife which you show her around, and take her to church, and she will be the mother of your kids, but then there are other women that you have casual relationship with it.

 

CLIFF:

1) I am not going to cheat, never had, and never will.
2) Stop telling me to hit it or score the office chick, I am asking for help not to get more involved
3) There will be no pic to protect everyone's privacy.
4) It is an ego thing: grass is greener on the other side, a crush because she reminded me of someone, and I am always attracted to women with high self esteem, etc.
5) I trust my self control, just want some encouragement and support to get over this crush.
 
Originally posted by: PandaBear

CLIFF:

1) I am not going to cheat, never had, and never will.
2) Stop telling me to hit it or score the office chick, I am asking for help not to get more involved
3) There will be no pic to protect everyone's privacy.
4) It is an ego thing: grass is greener on the other side, a crush because she reminded me of someone, and I am always attracted to women with high self esteem, etc.
5) I trust my self control, just want some encouragement and support to get over this crush.
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WTF? You're married, what other encouragement do you want?
 
Originally posted by: bootymac
Originally posted by: PandaBear

CLIFF:

1) I am not going to cheat, never had, and never will.
2) Stop telling me to hit it or score the office chick, I am asking for help not to get more involved
3) There will be no pic to protect everyone's privacy.
4) It is an ego thing: grass is greener on the other side, a crush because she reminded me of someone, and I am always attracted to women with high self esteem, etc.
5) I trust my self control, just want some encouragement and support to get over this crush.
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WTF? You're married, what other encouragement do you want?
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Because it helps when you talk about it and get it out of the system
 
Originally posted by: PandaBear
Originally posted by: bootymac
Originally posted by: PandaBear

CLIFF:

1) I am not going to cheat, never had, and never will.
2) Stop telling me to hit it or score the office chick, I am asking for help not to get more involved
3) There will be no pic to protect everyone's privacy.
4) It is an ego thing: grass is greener on the other side, a crush because she reminded me of someone, and I am always attracted to women with high self esteem, etc.
5) I trust my self control, just want some encouragement and support to get over this crush.
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WTF? You're married, what other encouragement do you want?
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Because it helps when you talk about it and get it out of the system
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It also means that you have some issues that you need to get straightened out quickly and permanently.

If you sweep them under the rug; they WILL crawl back out at another more damaging time.

 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: PandaBear
Me: 28, engineer, recently married but wife lives out of town

Wife: 27, works in the bio-tech industry, very good looking, perfect wife

Co-Worker: 25, engineer, looks alright (slightly chubby, excellent hair care), but reminds me of a former fantasy of mine (a girl that i went after in college but didn't get). There is one guy in my dept going after her, but I don't think she is interested in him. We didn't talk much.



I tried not to keep an eye contact with my co-worker, but the more I tried, the more I fancy her.

Suggestion on what to do to make me not have a crush?
Click to expand...
funny, i was just on another site where a 27 year old hot female bio tech, who was recently married but lives apart from her engineer husband, has a crush on her co-worker.

she was asking what to do. :shocked:
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lie because there are no women on internet forums.

 
you are building an infactuation with this co-worker.... that can lead to several situations, in your case its bad because you are married..... I have no real advice here, but you gotta ask yourself is ruining a marriage with the 'perfect wife' worth it?
 
Originally posted by: PandaBear
Me: 28, engineer, recently married but wife lives out of town

Wife: 27, works in the bio-tech industry, very good looking, perfect wife

Co-Worker: 25, engineer, looks alright (slightly chubby, excellent hair care), but reminds me of a former fantasy of mine (a girl that i went after in college but didn't get). There is one guy in my dept going after her, but I don't think she is interested in him. We didn't talk much.

I tried not to keep an eye contact with my co-worker, but the more I tried, the more I fancy her.

Suggestion on what to do to make me not have a crush?



CLIFF:

1) I am not going to cheat, never had, and never will.
2) Stop telling me to hit it or score the office chick, I am asking for help not to get more involved
3) There will be no pic to protect everyone's privacy.
4) It is an ego thing: grass is greener on the other side, a crush because she reminded me of someone, and I am always attracted to women with high self esteem, etc.
5) I trust my self control, just want some encouragement and support to get over this crush.
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she wants you. do her on the counter NOW!
 
Originally posted by: PandaBear
Me: 28, engineer, recently married but wife lives out of town

Wife: 27, works in the bio-tech industry, very good looking, perfect wife

Co-Worker: 25, engineer, looks alright (slightly chubby, excellent hair care), but reminds me of a former fantasy of mine (a girl that i went after in college but didn't get). There is one guy in my dept going after her, but I don't think she is interested in him. We didn't talk much.

I tried not to keep an eye contact with my co-worker, but the more I tried, the more I fancy her.

Suggestion on what to do to make me not have a crush?



CLIFF:

1) I am not going to cheat, never had, and never will.
2) Stop telling me to hit it or score the office chick, I am asking for help not to get more involved
3) There will be no pic to protect everyone's privacy.
4) It is an ego thing: grass is greener on the other side, a crush because she reminded me of someone, and I am always attracted to women with high self esteem, etc.
5) I trust my self control, just want some encouragement and support to get over this crush.
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Heck, dump your wife and ask this gal to move in with you in the back seat of your car.
 
Originally posted by: PandaBear
1) I did not cheat at all, not physically, not mentally.

2) The co-worker and I didn't talk more than 1 sentence per week, let alone flirting.

3) I am paranoid, because if it follows the pattern of how I fall in love before, I wouldn't be able to control my desire.

4) She does not have a crush on me for sure. I can tell by her eye contacts.

5) Everyone at work knows that I am married.

It is #3 that I am most concerned with. The suggestion of be-friending with the guy who goes after her is a good one, I will give that a try. After all, you don't steal your friend's hoe, right?
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Imagine how you'd feel if you found out your wife was sleeping with somebody else... then act accordingly.
 
[edit]
Wife stop by for the weekend, started cooking dinner before I came home. I brought some takeout and had a great time.

for the wife. Crush no longer an issue. I should have more confidence in myself, and definitely start planning to find another job closer to her (or she find a job closer to me).
 
Originally posted by: PandaBear
[edit]
Wife stop by for the weekend, started cooking dinner before I came home. I brought some takeout and had a great time.

for the wife. Crush no longer an issue. I should have more confidence in myself, and definitely start planning to find another job closer to her (or she find a job closer to me).
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You need to get away from that postition.

 
go ahead, do it.

1. Your wife will find out and divorce you. She deserves a better man, no?
2. Your "relationship" with the co-worker will end up in disaster.
3. I will be surprised if you do not quit your job after all this.... or get fired.
 
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