No, I don't! I've read almost every girl thread he's ever made. And I remember them distinctly and vividly. Much of what you see there is from my memory of his past posts compiled with the most recent ones. It seems to spell out someone who theorizes more than he acts upon things; and it seems to reveal someone who easily has crushes, or thoughts of every girl he meets with himself. No evil in that. It's just I no longer look at it from a serious point of view. You would have heard me call him wimpy again or a jerk if I did take it seriously.Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: DearQT
Freedomsbeat212, I have you pegged completely. Now I understand that not only are you shy, you are a complete introvert except of course when you're doing your independent filming. So you always theorize till the sun comes down about every single girl you come across and have a crush on. It even appears that you think what if about every girl you meet. I see.... It also makes sense that you couldn't go out much with your ex-gf when you were together. Does your weight have anything to do with this? Thoughts more than actions works for you, so I won't take your posts about girls seriously anymore in regards to reality. However, I may join in theorizing too.Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..
UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.
I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.
Concerning your question, answered generally, to be fair, the woman is not technically committed to him. So of course any unmarried man could feel free to hit on her. However, if she's willing to open up, then you can have her. The person she's with deserves someone better--provided he wasn't a control freak. And she'll do what she did to him to the new guy too--except of course if the new guy has intent to use her and dump her. And please spare me of that nonsense about the bf not treating her well. That's what all losers who want to steal significant others always say. At least be honest and up front about it. Now, off to read your update....
you assume a lot about him. don't be so quick to judge.
till he makes a post of "hi, i have a crush on this girl and too shy to make a move, please help!" then i'd be careful in what you say.
So far we know he has the ability to respect women.
Originally posted by: IHYLN
well you know the saying, nice guys finish last!
You are a tool for not screwing her but also a tool for letting the opportunity to pass by. This is the worst position to be in, lose-lose, so just find someone new imo![]()
Originally posted by: DearQT
No, I don't! I've read almost every girl thread he's ever made. And I remember them distinctly and vividly. Much of what you see there is from my memory of his past posts compiled with the most recent ones. It seems to spell out someone who theorizes more than he acts upon things; and it seems to reveal someone who easily has crushes, or thoughts of every girl he meets with himself. No evil in that. It's just I no longer look at it from a serious point of view. You would have heard me call him wimpy again or a jerk if I did take it seriously.Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: DearQT
Freedomsbeat212, I have you pegged completely. Now I understand that not only are you shy, you are a complete introvert except of course when you're doing your independent filming. So you always theorize till the sun comes down about every single girl you come across and have a crush on. It even appears that you think what if about every girl you meet. I see.... It also makes sense that you couldn't go out much with your ex-gf when you were together. Does your weight have anything to do with this? Thoughts more than actions works for you, so I won't take your posts about girls seriously anymore in regards to reality. However, I may join in theorizing too.Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..
UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.
I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.
Concerning your question, answered generally, to be fair, the woman is not technically committed to him. So of course any unmarried man could feel free to hit on her. However, if she's willing to open up, then you can have her. The person she's with deserves someone better--provided he wasn't a control freak. And she'll do what she did to him to the new guy too--except of course if the new guy has intent to use her and dump her. And please spare me of that nonsense about the bf not treating her well. That's what all losers who want to steal significant others always say. At least be honest and up front about it. Now, off to read your update....
you assume a lot about him. don't be so quick to judge.
till he makes a post of "hi, i have a crush on this girl and too shy to make a move, please help!" then i'd be careful in what you say.
So far we know he has the ability to respect women.
P.S. Freedomsbeat, I tried to watch one of your independent films, but it wouldn't work with my QuickTime. Maybe I'll try again. Keep up the good work, nonetheless!![]()
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: DearQT
No, I don't! I've read almost every girl thread he's ever made. And I remember them distinctly and vividly. Much of what you see there is from my memory of his past posts compiled with the most recent ones. It seems to spell out someone who theorizes more than he acts upon things; and it seems to reveal someone who easily has crushes, or thoughts of every girl he meets with himself. No evil in that. It's just I no longer look at it from a serious point of view. You would have heard me call him wimpy again or a jerk if I did take it seriously.Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: DearQT
Freedomsbeat212, I have you pegged completely. Now I understand that not only are you shy, you are a complete introvert except of course when you're doing your independent filming. So you always theorize till the sun comes down about every single girl you come across and have a crush on. It even appears that you think what if about every girl you meet. I see.... It also makes sense that you couldn't go out much with your ex-gf when you were together. Does your weight have anything to do with this? Thoughts more than actions works for you, so I won't take your posts about girls seriously anymore in regards to reality. However, I may join in theorizing too.Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..
UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.
I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.
Concerning your question, answered generally, to be fair, the woman is not technically committed to him. So of course any unmarried man could feel free to hit on her. However, if she's willing to open up, then you can have her. The person she's with deserves someone better--provided he wasn't a control freak. And she'll do what she did to him to the new guy too--except of course if the new guy has intent to use her and dump her. And please spare me of that nonsense about the bf not treating her well. That's what all losers who want to steal significant others always say. At least be honest and up front about it. Now, off to read your update....
you assume a lot about him. don't be so quick to judge.
till he makes a post of "hi, i have a crush on this girl and too shy to make a move, please help!" then i'd be careful in what you say.
So far we know he has the ability to respect women.
P.S. Freedomsbeat, I tried to watch one of your independent films, but it wouldn't work with my QuickTime. Maybe I'll try again. Keep up the good work, nonetheless!![]()
Actually, i used to be very, very shy and now I hit on girls like a banshee... I also meet many, many girls.. I have crushes on.. Hmm.. 3? If that... I work with so many women and most of them (as in most people, male or female) bore the heck out of me. If I was shy I wouldn't have as many friends as I have. Though I am shy about some things - like dancing. I SUCK at dancing.
All right, I've just read your update. Well, suprise that she would come to you for a problem! :roll: It's obvious from your other posts that you're Mr. Sensitive and the type of guy girls fall back on for emotional support.Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.
I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.
Originally posted by: DearQT
All right, I've just read your update. Well, suprise that she would come to you for a problem! :roll: It's obvious from your other posts that you're Mr. Sensitive and the type of guy girls fall back on for emotional support.Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.
I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.
I'm sorry, but I don't believe you one bit that it was because you were trying to be a gentleman--in spite of a suppose chance to take advantage. I think it's clear and simple: You're shy and have security issues yourself. If she made a sexual move on you, you may turn it down, but not that easily either. She didn't make the move here. You're stilla nice guy for listening, anyway.
Darling, I don't believe that you're being honest here, but that's okay. I still admire your artistic talent. Maybe one day we'll see your name credited on a high budget movie, unless you don't wish to go that far.Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Actually, i used to be very, very shy and now I hit on girls like a banshee... I also meet many, many girls.. I have crushes on.. Hmm.. 3? If that... I work with so many women and most of them (as in most people, male or female) bore the heck out of me. If I was shy I wouldn't have as many friends as I have. Though I am shy about some things - like dancing. I SUCK at dancing.
Yes, I do! Got a problem with that? He's my man! LOL!Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: DearQT
All right, I've just read your update. Well, suprise that she would come to you for a problem! :roll: It's obvious from your other posts that you're Mr. Sensitive and the type of guy girls fall back on for emotional support.
I'm sorry, but I don't believe you one bit that it was because you were trying to be a gentleman--in spite of a suppose chance to take advantage. I think it's clear and simple: You're shy and have security issues yourself. If she made a sexual move on you, you may turn it down, but not that easily either. She didn't make the move here. You're stilla nice guy for listening, anyway.
:roll:
do you like pushing his buttons?
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..
UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.
I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.
Originally posted by: DearQT
Darling, I don't believe that you're being honest here, but that's okay. I still admire your artistic talent. Maybe one day we'll see your name credited on a high budget movie, unless you don't wish to go that far.Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Actually, i used to be very, very shy and now I hit on girls like a banshee... I also meet many, many girls.. I have crushes on.. Hmm.. 3? If that... I work with so many women and most of them (as in most people, male or female) bore the heck out of me. If I was shy I wouldn't have as many friends as I have. Though I am shy about some things - like dancing. I SUCK at dancing.
Yes, I do! Got a problem with that? He's my man! LOL!Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: DearQT
All right, I've just read your update. Well, suprise that she would come to you for a problem! :roll: It's obvious from your other posts that you're Mr. Sensitive and the type of guy girls fall back on for emotional support.
I'm sorry, but I don't believe you one bit that it was because you were trying to be a gentleman--in spite of a suppose chance to take advantage. I think it's clear and simple: You're shy and have security issues yourself. If she made a sexual move on you, you may turn it down, but not that easily either. She didn't make the move here. You're stilla nice guy for listening, anyway.
:roll:
do you like pushing his buttons?Do you want me to push yours too? I wouldn't mind!
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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: gigapet
you live in a delusional world man. Both men and women have been promiscuous since the beginning of time. You can still be respectful and sexual. I am not sure why you think the two are mutually exclusive. We are not talking about pimp slapping ho's here. Girls like sex more than men and I for one dont feel guilty at all about giving them what they want. To each tehre own though. :beer:
So because I expect people to respect each other and each other's significant others, I'm dilusional? :roll: Hardly. Giving in to promiscuity (spelling?) simply because others are doing it doesn't make it any less dispicable. I'm not the most innocent when it comes to sexual partners, but I've never disrespected a significant other by sleeping with someone else or whatever. I've been in a stupid situation once, but nothing happened. I still hold it against myself that I was stupid enough to be IN that situation, and I haven't yet apologized to the guy, which I feel I need to for some reason, but that's a whole nother story. I guess you're right though. To each his own. Some people choose to live a life with higher, better standards and some don't.
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
As much as I appreciate the "props" you guys are giving me, I'm still feeling a bit down that the night didn't turn into a late night cinemax movie. I need to get drunk after work, I'll feel much better after that![]()
Why do you feel poorly regarding the outcome? Do you take pride in the fact that you resisted the temptation to try taking advantage of an obviously unstable situation? What would you have gained by doing so? Orgasm? Big deal. The satisfaction of knowing that you've physically interacted with a female? Give her a hug.Do you feel pressured by your male peers to have sex as much as possible because it somehow makes you a better man? Do you THINK you'll be happier if you'd have had sex with her? Are you just looking for emotional fulfillment and can't seem to find any other way to gratify it outside of sexual interaction?
The more you think about it (sober, mind you), the better you'll feel about it. Your brain knows that you did the right thing. You knew that before it happened and chose to make the right decision before it happened. Often times you'll find that your brain and your heart disagree on some things and that sometimes your brain needs to convince your heart that you'll be better off having done the right thing instead of the human thing.
Enjoy your :beer: but, like I said, just give it some thought.
Originally posted by: gigapet
im really in aww about the utter garbage that comes out of your mouth in this thread.
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: gigapet
im really in aww about the utter garbage that comes out of your mouth in this thread.
With the "quality" of your posts in this thread, or lack thereof, I'm not at all surprised.![]()
Originally posted by: weezerdude
You did the right thing bub. Good job! Plus you get brownie points with her. Give it some time, things will come around your way be it a closer friend or lover. Sad to say this but nice guys finish last and "usually" (not always) gets sloppy seconds. :frown:
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: weezerdude
You did the right thing bub. Good job! Plus you get brownie points with her. Give it some time, things will come around your way be it a closer friend or lover. Sad to say this but nice guys finish last and "usually" (not always) gets sloppy seconds. :frown:
Yeah, she just called me to figure out how to use my DVD player (hit "tv/video," doll) and I'm looking forward to getting back to watch a bootleg of "kung fu hustle" with her. Sure, we're not doing the funky monkey but I find the situation odd yet endearing now...
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: gigapet
im really in aww about the utter garbage that comes out of your mouth in this thread.
With the "quality" of your posts in this thread, or lack thereof, I'm not at all surprised.![]()
please. nothing you have contributed will ever help the OP get laid. in fact listening to your posts will only guarantee his doesnt get laid.
Originally posted by: broon
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: gigapet
im really in aww about the utter garbage that comes out of your mouth in this thread.
With the "quality" of your posts in this thread, or lack thereof, I'm not at all surprised.![]()
please. nothing you have contributed will ever help the OP get laid. in fact listening to your posts will only guarantee his doesnt get laid.
Hopefully someday you'll realize that life isn't about getting laid.
Originally posted by: broon
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: gigapet
im really in aww about the utter garbage that comes out of your mouth in this thread.
With the "quality" of your posts in this thread, or lack thereof, I'm not at all surprised.![]()
please. nothing you have contributed will ever help the OP get laid. in fact listening to your posts will only guarantee his doesnt get laid.
Hopefully someday you'll realize that life isn't about getting laid.
Originally posted by: gigapet
thats easy to say when you are married and get it any time you want.....but for the rest of us single folks....it is an aspect of our lives that still needs attention.
Originally posted by: weezerdude
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: weezerdude
You did the right thing bub. Good job! Plus you get brownie points with her. Give it some time, things will come around your way be it a closer friend or lover. Sad to say this but nice guys finish last and "usually" (not always) gets sloppy seconds. :frown:
Yeah, she just called me to figure out how to use my DVD player (hit "tv/video," doll) and I'm looking forward to getting back to watch a bootleg of "kung fu hustle" with her. Sure, we're not doing the funky monkey but I find the situation odd yet endearing now...
Is "kung fu hustle" good?? I wanted to check that out, but im not sure if its good or not.