Yagt -- getting stood up..

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eleison

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Mar 29, 2006
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Originally posted by: DougK62
She didn't even call to say something came up? Move on. That's incredibly rude.



yea, that was what I was thinking. In any case, while I do enjoy hanging/dating with these types of girls (its a foible)... I think I will go with the attitude of "not caring"; I think thse types of girls will never make good girlfriend material. Just have to "move on" as most people are saying.

Most of the girls that I've had serious relationship have been pretty normal (respectfully, thoughtfull, etc.) For some reason, I've never been able to stay with them more than a couple years.

The independant girls, most of them also happen to be very smart.. this Greek girl was a few credits away from a PhD; this type women I've really enjoyed dating them. But they are always unreliable, besides they're kinda "loose"... Actually, some of my friends have wondered why I would date so-and-so because she was so "slutty", etc...

Oh, well, thanks for the sounding board. My conclusion is to not call. however, if its a normal girl.. calling is okay :)

hopefully, I can move away from the independent type of women... but I dont' think its possible.. it probably genetic... OOooHhh well.. :)

-Eleison
 

freakflag

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Mar 22, 2001
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Originally posted by: eleison
Originally posted by: KB
I would get her side of the story first. Call her and ask whats up. If she stood you up for a dumb reason, then tell her your disappionted in her lack of maturity and then forget about her. If her Mom died, then give her another chance. If she never returns your call, then forget about her.

I don't think she's going to return my phone call.. She's weird that way. I'm somewhat inclined to weird chicks :-(... I guess if I ever get stood up by a "weird" chick, I'm just not going to even call.

All of my friends who are girls that tell me to be more persistent.. .well, they're kinda normal -- they are not in IT. Most girls in IT are weird. Its okay to call a normal girl, its NOT okay to call abnormal (i.e., independent) girls; its just a waste of time. I think this is a good game plan.

-Eleison



I really don't think you're giving the spiteful butt-sex response enough consideration. If you think about it, it's the only option that really puts you back in the drivers seat of the relationship.
 

T9D

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Dec 1, 2001
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Women will get away with what ever they can until someone calls them on their BS and they see what they did was wrong. They are like children.

So at least b*tch her out some and then move on. She will know what she did was wrong and it has consequences. Then she will think twice about pulling this crap with other guys. And in the end you will be respected more.

On the first time just mention it but be nice. After that she deserves getting crap for it.

*edit* and women will ALWAYS have some dumb excuse that is probably a lie. Dont believe it. You'll just be played the fool.

 

davidsi

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Nov 5, 2000
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ive found that best advice about relationships comes from guys not girls. girls alwasy reply ideally, but then in reality theyd do something else. most girls wont come out and tell u they dont like u..theyll do ti in some kind of passive aggressive way such as not calling back. if a girl likes u shes going to call.
 

IceBergSLiM

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Flakiness is not something I tolerate at all. I would not have called her on sunday. I would have deleted her number and been done with it.

@ 25 years old she should know proper manners and protocol and if she doesnt then I dont want anything to do with it anyways.

In Summary: forget about her and dont tolerate flakiness of any kind in the future.

Edit I dont know why you need input from people in relationships. As you are not in one...its better to get input from others who are in the battlefield on a daily basis.
 

yllus

Elite Member & Lifer
Aug 20, 2000
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You did the right thing. Bitch at her to relieve yourself of what's pent up inside and move on without a backwards glance.

It's incredibly disrespectful and there are zero excuses, short of being in an accident that put her in a coma, for not notifying you that she would not be able to attention. Zero.
 

MajinWade

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Jun 22, 2001
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I don't think that actually counts as being stood up. Being stood up would be going to meet someone somewhere and they didn't show up. Since you weren't really stood up, forget about it.
 

MichaelD

Lifer
Jan 16, 2001
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Originally posted by: cobalt
Stay away from Greek women...

Yep. After that My Big Fat Greek Wedding movie with all the fat Greek chicks...ick.

OK, that was really bad.
/crowd boos and throws vegetables

Seriously; she's incredibly rude. Obviously, you seem to like being treated like dog poop b/c you're still sniffing her up. You need to leave that piece of trash at the curb with the rest of the recycling and move on.
 

Cobalt

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Apr 3, 2000
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Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: cobalt
Stay away from Greek women...

Yep. After that My Big Fat Greek Wedding movie with all the fat Greek chicks...ick.

OK, that was really bad.
/crowd boos and throws vegetables

Seriously; she's incredibly rude. Obviously, you seem to like being treated like dog poop b/c you're still sniffing her up. You need to leave that piece of trash at the curb with the rest of the recycling and move on.

After living with Greek women all my life (I'm Greek, go figure), I can sincerely say stay away... I won't give reasons but STAY AWAY.
 

GuitarDaddy

Lifer
Nov 9, 2004
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She stood you up, by not calling? A phone call is not a date! Getting stood up is when you have an actual date and she doesn't show up, or is not there when you go to pick her up.
 

eakers

Lifer
Aug 14, 2000
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Originally posted by: eleison
Originally posted by: eakers
forget about her. wether or not she doesn't like you or is playing a game, you don't want to be with someone who plays games like this.



Huhm, interesting.. so I'm assuming must people just don't call and just "move on"... this contradicts what the softball girl is telling me. Actually, this contracts what couple of the girls on the softball team is telling.. both of them are in relationships where their boyfriend "woo-ed" them...

Fyi, are people who are saying "move on"; are most oyou guys single are in relationships? Don't want to be in the situation of the "blind leading the blind".. .no disrect or anything :)

-eleison

I'm in a very long term relationship. No games, no drama, just fun and love. :)
 

z42

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Apr 22, 2006
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Originally posted by: MustangSVT
she is only 6.5/10 . move on :)

get ur self a 8/10 or better.

:thumbsup:

A girl has to be at least 8/10 to pull that crap with me and get a call the next day ;)
 

DannyLove

Lifer
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I heard this on the radio once and I recommend it:

Go to craiglist or something, post her number and say she is offering some <insert hot band name here> tickets for like $20.